# Consideration **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 18, 2011, 11:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/consideration/606631 "2011-12-18T11:38:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Hilary\_Algar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hilary_algar/32/4282_2.png) [@Hilary\_Algar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hilary_Algar)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2011, 11:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/consideration/606631/1 "2011-12-18T11:38:36Z")
Generally speaking, how considerate are you of others? ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2011, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/consideration/606631/2 "2011-12-18T19:28:31Z")
It depends which “others” you’re referring to. Strangers get the benefit of the doubt, but known bastards don’t get much consideration from me. ---
**Author:** ![FloatyGimpy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/floatygimpy/32/7750_2.png) [@FloatyGimpy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FloatyGimpy)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2011, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/consideration/606631/3 "2011-12-18T20:43:23Z")
I’m just starting to realize that I am too considerate. I always seem to put the happiness of others before my own and do whatever I need to do to have people like me. I guess that’s more of being a doormat though. ---
**Author:** ![sandra\_nz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@sandra\_nz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sandra_nz)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2011, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/consideration/606631/4 "2011-12-18T20:59:59Z")
I went for somewhat. I do consider others. Sometimes, following my consideration, I choose to put myself first. Other times, I choose to put the other party first. A lot goes into that consideration - not just the immediate situation, but the history of past situations, who was put first, what the outcome was, etc. I used to be a bit of a doormat until I realised that others wouldn’t respect me unless I demonstrated that I respected myself. I had to fake it for a while, but I have developed a lot of respect for myself and it’s made a big difference to life. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Man\_With\_The\_Golden\_Gun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/dc4da7/32.png) [@The\_Man\_With\_The\_Golden\_Gun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Man_With_The_Golden_Gun)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2011, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/consideration/606631/5 "2011-12-18T22:44:38Z")
There are other people out there? ---
**Author:** ![Sudden\_Kestrel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecd19e/32.png) [@Sudden\_Kestrel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sudden_Kestrel)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2011, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/consideration/606631/6 "2011-12-18T22:58:12Z")
I’m too considerate, really. One of the reasons I don’t go out much is because it is so tiring to be constantly trying not to inconvenience anyone. ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2011, 11:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/consideration/606631/7 "2011-12-20T11:05:40Z")
I suppose I’d have to classify myself as reasonably considerate of others, despite my best efforts NOT to be. It can be an annoying habit, really. :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2011, 7:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/consideration/606631/8 "2011-12-20T19:06:35Z")
I was a doormat for a very long time. I’m still a partial doormat to two family members, although I’m working on it. Everyone else in my family can fuck right off. I’m more considerate of strangers than them. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2011, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/consideration/606631/9 "2011-12-20T19:30:39Z")
I voted for very. I’d like to think so, anyway. I used to be a doormat, now I try to stand up for my own needs first without being inconsiderate of others. It’s easier than I thought. ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2011, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/consideration/606631/10 "2011-12-20T23:40:10Z")
I make an effort to be very considerate because I appreciate it when others are considerate. I want to make other people as happy as it makes me. ---
**Author:** ![voguevixen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b5ac83/32.png) [@voguevixen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/voguevixen)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2011, 5:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/consideration/606631/11 "2011-12-21T05:46:59Z")
> [@Rushgeekgirl](#): > > I make an effort to be very considerate because I appreciate it when others are considerate. I want to make other people as happy as it makes me. Exactly. I let people merge in front of me in traffic because I appreciate when they let me merge in front of them. Common courtesy. I’m buying a buttload of junk at the grocery store and the guy behind me has two things: “Hey, why’nt you go ahead of me?” People are STUNNED when I do that. I don’t believe in one specific deity, but I believe in karma/what comes around goes around. However I couldn’t decide who I wanted to punch more at the grocery store yesterday. The woman who was painstakingly writing a check for her crap, or the cashier who insisted, because she wrote the check for 1 cent (ONE CENT) less than the amount that she completely re-write the entire check. Never mind. It’s the cashier needing the boot to the head because the woman actually said “Seriously? I can GIVE you a cent!” One cent! There is a special place in hell for that guy. ---
**Author:** ![Infovore](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/infovore/32/420_2.png) [@Infovore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Infovore)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2011, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/consideration/606631/12 "2011-12-21T18:47:55Z")
I’m very considerate both because I like to treat others as I want them to treat me, and because it’s just usually easier to be considerate. I can be a right twit, though, when people jerk me around. Like when I’m in a line of cars and somebody drives up alongside and tries to force in, I will do everything short of actually hitting them to make sure they’re unable to do so, unless I look over and see something that indicates obvious distress. But some young guy just trying to be a dick? You can wait, buddy, like the rest of us.