Okay. Cite? I have no problem taking your word for it that it was the universally-held convention but it doesn’t really matter either way. Is the common law not subject to revision? I bet there are a lot of common laws that have been forgotten by history.
Well, even assuming that *was *the definition of legal marriage (and not just a latter-day attempt to hold back the tide - note the suddenness of the efforts circa 1998-2010 to formally define marriage by gender, as if legislators were abruptly realizing the oversight and hastily trying to correct it), you’re missing the point. Why does marriage even *have *a gender requirement? Does it need one? Does a corporation need a gender requirement? A legal partnership?
Feel free to join a church or religious group that steadfastly maintains that gay marriages are not real marriages in the eyes of God or whatever. Nobody’s going to stop you and by the terms of the First Amendment, nobody legally can. Legal marriage remains, however, a useful legal structure in the U.S. that has evolved over the last century and accumulated a great many facets that were simply nonexistent in the 19th century. A heterosexual couple can get these easily. A homosexual couple cannot… just because of their genders. It may not have mattered all that much in the 19th century, but it certainly matters now, i.e. making a next-of-kin decision to keep a stricken spouse on life-support was a moot decision before the modern medical ability to maintain life-support.
Side note - I speculate that had the medical technology existed in 1865, say, and Abraham Lincoln could have been kept nominally alive on a ventilator even after suffering the head wound from Booth’s bullet, the sexism of the time wouldn’t have let Mary Todd Lincoln have the decision whether or not to discontinue life support. The call would be left to their son, Robert Todd Lincoln.
I don’t care in the least about how you view traditions and such. I invite you to pick out any aspect of legal marriage and explain to me why it can only work properly with a heterosexual couple and not a homosexual one. Inheritance laws? Pensions? Medicaid? Adoption? Surname changes? Anything from this list?
Please pick adoption. I could use a good laugh.
It would be fair, I recognize, for you to respond that you don’t have to prove why marriage need be defined to exclude homosexuals, but it’s enough that a majority of society and their elected legislators want marriage to be defined to exclude homosexuals (you can spare me the fatuous note that homosexuals are free to enter heterosexual marriages). If that desire was strong enough to get a constitutional amendment defining marriage in that fashion, then I admit that would pretty much be the end of the discussion, barring a later constitutional repeal (for which there is precedent; the 21st over the 18th, for example) which I would casually and consistently support. In the meantime, if you feel judges have overstepped their authority, well… suck it up, buttercup. Try voting for the really anti-gay Republican next time.