# Convince me why I should go out with nerd girl. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [May 11, 2004, 12:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607 "2004-05-11T12:00:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![badbadrubberpiggy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/57b2e6/32.png) [@badbadrubberpiggy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/badbadrubberpiggy)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/61 "2004-05-11T18:20:36Z")
> [@Angua](#): > > Hmm… This thread is either: > > a) Going to end up in the Pit. > b) Turn into a nerd girl appreciation thread. either one would be ok with me 🙂 a) would allow me (and probably others) to say what they really want to say about the OP’s ideas (or lack of) regarding us fem-nerds b) would be a nice ego boost for those of use who fall into that category (which is many of us) ---
**Author:** ![Syntropy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/65b543/32.png) [@Syntropy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Syntropy)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/62 "2004-05-11T18:21:45Z")
**Shakes**. Seriously. At which point did you think: “I will take pity on this woman that I perceive as sad and pathetic and brag about my magnanimity on the Dope and all will hail me as God’s gift to nerd girls” ?? Here’s your sign. ---
**Author:** ![tiny\_ham](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@tiny\_ham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tiny_ham)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/63 "2004-05-11T18:27:04Z")
Confucious say: OP who receive vitriol recant story before 5:00 pm cst. ---
**Author:** ![Doomtrain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/0ea827/32.png) [@Doomtrain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doomtrain)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 6:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/64 "2004-05-11T18:34:59Z")
Pass her number on to someone who’ll appreciate that, “So, wanna play Diablo?” is the perfect way to begin an evening and you stick to the drunken, idiot barflies. ---
**Author:** ![Dogzilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e480ec/32.png) [@Dogzilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dogzilla)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/65 "2004-05-11T18:47:25Z")
It sounds as though, from her behavior, (blushing and nervous giggling and making a point to talk to you) that she must not know you very well, hence her minor crush on you. This nerdy girl has had crushes on men at work before. Generally, I get to know them and after about three months, they make me sick and I’m relieved that I didn’t act on my crush. Assuming she’s no fun, assuming she’s lonely and assuming nobody has ever asked her out… will turn out to be a mistake on your part. (How to show a nerdy girl a good time: be considerate, respectful and be interested in who she is as a person, which means intelligent, thoughtful conversation. You may need to practice first.) I think, based on your callousness and lack of consideration toward other humans, that nerd girl is far too good for you. You should ask her out so she can show _you_ how to have a good time without alcohol and barflies. You might learn something and I know she will: her crush will be cured. She’ll see how condescending you are, you’ll make her sick, she’ll get over it and move on. ---
**Author:** ![laserkitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@laserkitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/laserkitty)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/66 "2004-05-11T19:13:59Z")
Hmm…as a professional nerd girl myself, I like reading, cooking, wine, good conversation, art, music. I also like beer, dancing, movies, athletics, astronomy, board games, cards, video games…well, there’s not a whole lot I don’t like come to think of it. But maybe I’m one of those coooool nerds. I think everyone’s getting so edgy with you because the tone of your post is incredibly egotistic. If you like her and would like to get to know her better, ask her out. If you’re just “feeling charitable”, don’t bother, she’ll know. ---
**Author:** ![av8rmike](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/edb3f5/32.png) [@av8rmike](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/av8rmike)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/67 "2004-05-11T19:35:56Z")
Vitriol? You write gems like this and wonder why people think you’re a jerk: > [@SHAKES](#): > > Anyway, what I’m wanting to know is; are nerdy girls any fun at ALL to hang out with? …in a thread asking us to _convince_ you you should take this “nerd girl” out. Let’s not forget the patronizing: > [@](#): > > Because from what I gather, she doesn’t have any friends and she NEVER get asked out. There aren’t enough :rolleyes: on this board for this guy. ---
**Author:** ![harmless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/2acd7d/32.png) [@harmless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/harmless)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/68 "2004-05-11T20:00:35Z")
> [@Ross](#): > > Re. nerd girls > > I think what’s supposed to happen is that you try to get “self-centred Barbie chick”, who strings you along a little but then goes off with “beach-bully Jock”. Determined to win “self-centred Barbie chick” back, you suddenly get extremely good at karate/boxing/basketball/whatever Jock is good at, during which time you meet “cute nerd girl”. You then trounce “beach-bully Jock” at his own game, and “self-centred Barbie chick” is about to fling herself into your arms, but you’ve fallen in love with cute nerd girl by that point and it all ends happily ever after. > > However that’s not what’ll happen, because you, sir, are evidently a bounder and a cad. So off you go with self-centred Barbie chick, please, and await the arrival of a scrawny kid to make you look like a twit later on. > > Honestly, anyone would think Karate Kid/Teenwolf/South Park had never been written… Let’s not forget the originator of it all: Archie comics! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![borschevsky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/97f17d/32.png) [@borschevsky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/borschevsky)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/69 "2004-05-11T20:09:57Z")
> [@Ross](#): > > I think what’s supposed to happen is that you try to get “self-centred Barbie chick”, who strings you along a little but then goes off with “beach-bully Jock”. Determined to win “self-centred Barbie chick” back, you suddenly get extremely good at karate/boxing/basketball/whatever Jock is good at, during which time you meet “cute nerd girl”. You then trounce “beach-bully Jock” at his own game, and “self-centred Barbie chick” is about to fling herself into your arms, but you’ve fallen in love with cute nerd girl by that point and it all ends happily ever after. Also it’s important to have the girl take off her glasses and get her hair done. Trust me; it’s always Rachael Leigh Cook or somebody under there. ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/70 "2004-05-11T20:17:59Z")
> [@borschevsky](#): > > Also it’s important to have the girl take off her glasses and get her hair done. Trust me; it’s always Rachael Leigh Cook or somebody under there. Well, quite. Its all a front with us nerd girls you see. We want you to fall for our personalities, not our looks, so we put it all on. Underneath, we’re actually all really hot babes. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Low\_Key\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed655f/32.png) [@Low\_Key\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Low_Key_1)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/71 "2004-05-11T20:21:31Z")
I totally read the OP differently than most of you. I thought that it was at least slightly tongue-in-cheek, and was essentially asking something like “should I try dating a different type of woman than I generally do?” - not, I’m gonna take one for the team, hope you all appreciate what I’m doing for you, or, look at how nice I am for taking pity on this girl. I assume that Shakes is at least interested in dating this girl, and does find something attractive about this girl. I couldn’t imagine anyone actually bringing up the question of why one should date a girl on a messageboard without already being interested. As for what to do on a date with her, I never go on dates, but how about a movie. Or bowling. Or a concert. Or… ---
**Author:** ![Captain\_Lance\_Murdoch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/47e85d/32.png) [@Captain\_Lance\_Murdoch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Lance_Murdoch)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/72 "2004-05-11T20:26:40Z")
Just send the girl the link to this thread. That should kill her interest. ---
**Author:** ![Yookeroo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yookeroo/32/323_2.png) [@Yookeroo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yookeroo)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/73 "2004-05-11T21:14:26Z")
“throw her a bone”? Who’s the real nerd here. Can someone point me to the nerdy drunken bisexual barflies? ---
**Author:** ![Ranchoth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ranchoth/32/1066_2.png) [@Ranchoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ranchoth)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/74 "2004-05-11T22:27:00Z")
Agreed…I’d say you don’t deserve _her_, **Shakes.** ---
**Author:** ![Kamino\_Neko](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kamino_neko/32/34_2.png) [@Kamino\_Neko](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kamino_Neko)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/75 "2004-05-11T23:14:31Z")
> [@Low Key](#): > > I totally read the OP differently than most of you. I thought that it was at least slightly tongue-in-cheek, and was essentially asking something like “should I try dating a different type of woman than I generally do?” - not, I’m gonna take one for the team, hope you all appreciate what I’m doing for you, or, look at how nice I am for taking pity on this girl. You apparently missed his second post. The fact that his second post was essentially ‘Look, I’m trying to be a nice guy taking this loser out. Why are you all so pissed off at me?’ rather than ‘Oops, my humour apparently didn’t come across, what I meant was…’ the possibility that he was not talking about a pity date gets increasingly remote. ---
**Author:** ![Doomtrain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/0ea827/32.png) [@Doomtrain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doomtrain)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/76 "2004-05-11T23:15:16Z")
> [@Angua](#): > > Well, quite. Its all a front with us nerd girls you see. We want you to fall for our personalities, not our looks, so we put it all on. Underneath, we’re actually all really hot babes. 😉 No need for the wink smiley, everyone who has/had a nerd girl of their very own knows this one. It’s like librarians. ---
**Author:** ![malkavia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/malkavia/32/5621_2.png) [@malkavia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/malkavia)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/77 "2004-05-11T23:21:35Z")
“Oh god, not her! Look at those glasses!!! …and that ponytail!! AAAGH! The humanity!” In all honesty, even if you really are attracted to her, I suggest passing on this one. You _work_ together, for chrissakes. Never take the company ink out for a little fun, whether or not you intend to dip your pen in it. God, don’t they teach you anything during trivia hour at your local college bars? ---
**Author:** ![jackelope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a6a055/32.png) [@jackelope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackelope)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/78 "2004-05-11T23:33:13Z")
> [@Ross](#): > > I think what’s supposed to happen is that you try to get “self-centred Barbie chick”, who strings you along a little but then goes off with “beach-bully Jock”. Determined to win “self-centred Barbie chick” back, you suddenly get extremely good at karate/boxing/basketball/whatever Jock is good at, during which time you meet “cute nerd girl”. You then trounce “beach-bully Jock” at his own game, and “self-centred Barbie chick” is about to fling herself into your arms, but you’ve fallen in love with cute nerd girl by that point and it all ends happily ever after. You’re close, **Ross** ; actually what happenes is that **SHAKES** goes out with her, strings her along, then she overhears him referring to her as “nerd-girl” to his friends so she gets angry and dumps him. As a result, he realizes that he’s truly fallen for her, so to win her back he pulls some strings to get her elected prom queen. BUT, as she’s standing up there in front of the entire school with the tiara on her head, she suddenly and loudly tells him to go f\*ck himself and runs off with her lovelorn best friend/advisor, Nerd-Boy, since she now sees that he’s the one who’s truly loved her all along. She and Nerd-Boy live happily ever after and produce lots of cheerful, gurgling little Nerdlets who go on to run the world. Not for nothing did I watch every single John Hughes movie as a teen. ---
**Author:** ![BrotherCadfael](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@BrotherCadfael](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrotherCadfael)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2004, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/79 "2004-05-11T23:40:01Z")
> [@DaToad](#): > > [Foghorn Leghorn] Son, I say son, when you find yourself in the bottom of a hole, you’ve got to put the shovel down and stop digging. Are ya listenin’ to me, Boy? [/ Foghorn Leghorn] [Foghorn Leghorn]Boy’s ‘bout as sharp as a bowlin’ ball[/Foghorn Leghorn] ---
**Author:** ![Hey\_It\_s\_That\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Hey\_It\_s\_That\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hey_It_s_That_Guy)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2004, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607/80 "2004-05-12T00:01:33Z")
> [@jackelope](#): > > You’re close, **Ross** ; actually what happenes is that **SHAKES** goes out with her, strings her along, then she overhears him referring to her as “nerd-girl” to his friends so she gets angry and dumps him. As a result, he realizes that he’s truly fallen for her, so to win her back he pulls some strings to get her elected prom queen. BUT, as she’s standing up there in front of the entire school with the tiara on her head, she suddenly and loudly tells him to go f\*ck himself and runs off with her lovelorn best friend/advisor, Nerd-Boy, since she now sees that he’s the one who’s truly loved her all along. She and Nerd-Boy live happily ever after and produce lots of cheerful, gurgling little Nerdlets who go on to run the world. > > Not for nothing did I watch every single John Hughes movie as a teen. I still say Ducky should’ve ended up with Molly Ringwald. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/convince-me-why-i-should-go-out-with-nerd-girl/244607.md?page=5)