# Could someone talk some sense into me, pls.? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 31, 2006, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742 "2006-03-31T19:18:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/21 "2006-03-31T20:13:33Z")
> [@Mr Bus Guy](#): > > Ya know…(and not that it’s relevant to ME), but if it came to dropping a pill or being unable…I’d drop a truckload of chemicals. > > Hijack: That 40-ish brown haired lady in the Levitra ads? I don’t care how old I get, I’m ready for her. 😃 Amen, brother. You know the saying…you’re only as old as the person you’re fucking. …so…she’d feel 24 again…(or 115 if she were on you **Mr Bus Guy** …kidding!) sounds reasonable. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 8:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/22 "2006-03-31T20:14:40Z")
> [@twickster](#): > > No, from what I can gather, if it doesn’t happen spontaneously, it doesn’t “count.” (Count for what, I’m not sure, since my entire identity isn’t located between my legs.) He’s completely closed to exploring any other options in any other direction. Ah. A believer in the boner fairy. ---
**Author:** ![Sage\_Rat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sage_rat/32/399_2.png) [@Sage\_Rat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sage_Rat)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/23 "2006-03-31T20:21:24Z")
My recommendation reading your first post was to either not go for it for the sake of prudence, or to just go for sex. However it sounds like he’s not a good source for the latter so… ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/24 "2006-03-31T20:29:59Z")
I usually have this sort of conversation with my students. You know… **the 15-year-olds**! Grow a pair (metaphorically) and use the additional weight to pull your head out. Sheesh. Kids these days… ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/25 "2006-03-31T20:47:39Z")
> [@scout1222](#): > > Is that a bone of contention for you (pardon the pun, I swear). Because if it is, and you pursue a relationship, you’re always going to have issues with your sexlife. > > If not, there are probably other issues you’ll have. 😃 I’m clear that it’s not actually about our sex life – that’s just the arena (so to speak) where he decided to act out his fear of intimacy thing. So, yeah, even if the boner fairy game and bonked him good (so to speak), he’d just create shit elsewhere. Moron. Sigh. So – I’m gathering that the consenus is that I’m the only one who doesn’t think this is an absolutely out-of-the-question Bad Idea? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/26 "2006-03-31T20:51:51Z")
He broke it off before. He’ll probably do it again. This is enforced when he says nothing has changed. Then again, he doesn’t know how you feel about the entire situation. Get out of Dodge. ---
**Author:** ![Draelin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ce73a5/32.png) [@Draelin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Draelin)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/27 "2006-03-31T21:00:13Z")
I don’t say “run for the hills”, because that would be hypocritical of me. But know what you’re getting into. If you have even the slightest inclination to dress up, maybe put on a little extra makeup, or–gods forbid–wear the nice underwear, then the answer is _no_. ---
**Author:** ![levdrakon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@levdrakon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/levdrakon)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/28 "2006-03-31T21:05:02Z")
> [@Draelin](#): > > I don’t say “run for the hills”, because that would be hypocritical of me. But know what you’re getting into. If you have even the slightest inclination to dress up, maybe put on a little extra makeup, or–gods forbid–wear the nice underwear, then the answer is _no_. Truer advice, I’ve never heard. ---
**Author:** ![Voyager](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voyager/32/133_2.png) [@Voyager](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Voyager)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/29 "2006-03-31T21:08:24Z")
If he’s TMOYD. my advice is to get better dreams. What were the positives on this clown, again? If you’re posts are any indication at all, you can do a lot better. ---
**Author:** ![Sal\_Ammoniac](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8dc957/32.png) [@Sal\_Ammoniac](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sal_Ammoniac)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/30 "2006-03-31T21:11:42Z")
But he’s only 62! He could change! Or, to put it another way, what everyone else said. Though you might be able to get a coffee out of the deal. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/31 "2006-03-31T21:16:04Z")
> [@Sal Ammoniac](#): > > But he’s only 62! He could change! Yikes. Okay. :smack: But seriously, he might have come to his senses… right? ---
**Author:** ![TwoTrouts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a9adbd/32.png) [@TwoTrouts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TwoTrouts)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/32 "2006-03-31T21:18:10Z")
Hmmm. Seems to me that if you choose to go, you may walk away thinking, “What the hell did I ever see in that guy! Sheesh!” It may be a liberating experience. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/33 "2006-03-31T21:24:51Z")
> [@jsgoddess](#): > > Ah. A believer in the boner fairy. If I lose my job it’s your fault. That comment has had me and a coworker cracking up for 10 minutes. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/34 "2006-03-31T21:26:40Z")
> [@twickster](#): > > Yes, he has high blood pressure, had a heart attack a couple of years ago, etc. He won’t even discuss the issue with his doctor, though, despite his promise to do so. And he categorically refuses to “become a poster boy for Viagara.” > > Men! :rolleyes: I have a relative who does the Viagara and his much younger wife is diggin’ the hell out of it. Since Viagara has been on the market for years now, he’d hardly be the poster boy at this late stage. My guess is he’s afraid he’ll have another heart attack if he gets back in the saddle. Either way, unless you’d be happy in a non-phyiscal relationship, I don’t think this is the guy for you. Like it’s any of my business. I’m jus’ sayin’. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/35 "2006-03-31T22:05:33Z")
If he’s not going to get over himself at least you need to get over him. He’s a 62 year old man with erectile issues, and has a dynamite potential girlfriend who’s crazy about him, and _he_ has intimacy issues. My goodness me. A good, long, hard f\*\*\* isn’t everything, but it’s certainly something, and at 50 you’re hardly ready for just cuddling. If he isn’t willing to " to explore possible solutions to his ability to “come to bat” you need to move on. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/36 "2006-03-31T23:14:49Z")
I think he’s pretty much told you all he needs to, **twickster** - you’re just not listening. When two people want to be together, they make it happen. He isn’t making it happen. But kudos to you for moving on with your own life! ---
**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 11:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/37 "2006-03-31T23:26:16Z")
I think I know what’s going on, **twickster**. Things have changed for you, for the better. You’re hoping things have changed for him too. Rather than looking backwards, start looking around to see who will fit into your new life. By holding on to old hopes, you are closing yourself off from new possibilities. ---
**Author:** ![Stainz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecd19e/32.png) [@Stainz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stainz)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/38 "2006-03-31T23:40:18Z")
You’ve gotten some great advice here **twickster** … it sounds like the guy has a LOT of issues, I’m curious as to why you would want to see him again? Can he offer you even one single thing that you want/need? ---
**Author:** ![David\_Simmons](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9de053/32.png) [@David\_Simmons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/David_Simmons)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2006, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/39 "2006-03-31T23:43:40Z")
> [@twickster](#): > > Yikes. > > Okay. > > :smack: > > But seriously, he might have come to his senses… right? I don’t usually touch questions like this with a 20 ft. pole but … Let’s see now, you are considering taking up with a 62 year old man who has high blood pressure, has had one heart attack and dumped you once. Now I’ve got this here bridge that’s a real steal … ---
**Author:** ![danceswithcats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9e8a1a/32.png) [@danceswithcats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/danceswithcats)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2006, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742/40 "2006-04-01T02:23:58Z")
There’s always duct tape. Gives Homeland Security a whole new meaning. 😛 Seriously, **twicks** -you’re a smart and friendly lady, so don’t “settle for” something or someone less than satisfying, in an emotional and other-al sense. _Hugs_ [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-someone-talk-some-sense-into-me-pls/350742.md?page=3)