# Could you boink someone you don't particularly like? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 6, 2013, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459 "2013-08-06T01:08:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2013, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/61 "2013-08-06T23:15:54Z")
I’d rather have sex with a vibrator than someone I didn’t like. ---
**Author:** ![rsat3acr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/a3d4f5/32.png) [@rsat3acr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rsat3acr)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2013, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/62 "2013-08-06T23:25:34Z")
When I was young I’m sure I could have but never had the opportunity. Now I am much older and not sure if I would besides my wife won’t let me. ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2013, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/63 "2013-08-06T23:56:19Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Ahh, I see. That’s a tough one. I think I’d fuck her in the ass. 😉 😃 Ah, a good old-fashioned hatefuck. A traditionalist, I see. Going back some years my answer would have been unequivocal yes --you “don’t put it in the crazy” but you do put it in the merely disliked because, hey, sex! These days, not so much, better alone than in bad company and I’m fast losing my tolerance for the latter. I suppose like\*\* Projammer\*\* it would be influenced by the cause for the dislike, for instance I could not do Jenny McCarthy because of the strong urge to repeatedly slap her and not in a good S&M way. ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2013, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/64 "2013-08-07T00:59:18Z")
I’m a woman and voted ‘no’. Though I probably _could,_ I do not and would not have sex with people whose company I do not enjoy, and who I haven’t vetted in order to ensure they are decent, functional human beings with values similar to my own. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2013, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/65 "2013-08-07T03:47:19Z")
This thread is making me think of Charlie Sheen’s immortal quote: “I don’t pay them for sex. I pay them to leave.” ---
**Author:** ![Spiderman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spiderman/32/230_2.png) [@Spiderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiderman)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2013, 4:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/66 "2013-08-07T04:55:57Z")
Isn’t this the definition of a drunken (college) one-night stand? I don’t know her long enough to know if I like her; hell with the beer goggles on, I don’t even really know what she looks like. ---
**Author:** ![carlotta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/898d66/32.png) [@carlotta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carlotta)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2013, 12:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/67 "2013-08-07T12:55:00Z")
Woman. I _could_, but I wouldn’t. And I haven’t. ---
**Author:** ![Tequila\_Party](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a6a055/32.png) [@Tequila\_Party](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tequila_Party)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2013, 1:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/68 "2013-08-07T13:12:17Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > How hot is he and how good in bed is he? It depends on those two things. Also, how much do I not like him? If I’m repulsed by him or _hate_ him, then no. This X infinity. > [@Antinor01](#): > > Been there, done him. Me too. 😛 > [@robert\_columbia](#): > > Would you, could you, in a box? > > Would you, could you, with a fox? Fox is a prerequisite. ---
**Author:** ![Orionizer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/orionizer/32/4442_2.png) [@Orionizer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Orionizer)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2013, 3:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/69 "2013-08-07T15:12:58Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > That was really jerky. You could have waited until the next day or something at least. I was not the nice guy I am today back then. I’m not proud of it. ---
**Author:** ![Lumpy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lumpy/32/446_2.png) [@Lumpy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lumpy)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2013, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/70 "2013-08-07T15:32:52Z")
> [@Spiderman](#): > > Isn’t this the definition of a drunken (college) one-night stand? I don’t know her long enough to know if I like her; hell with the beer goggles on, I don’t even really know what she looks like. “Beauty is in the eye of the Be(er)holder”. ---
**Author:** ![KarlGrenze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dbc845/32.png) [@KarlGrenze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KarlGrenze)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2013, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/71 "2013-08-07T15:52:51Z")
I’ve had, but it depends on the dislike. I’ve also been with crazy (crazy showed up later). Not sure I could be with some men I know (incredibly hot, just as cocky), or with outright crazy men. Woman ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2013, 4:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/72 "2013-08-07T16:09:36Z")
It’s weird how many fewer women even answered this poll. Most women were just like “fuck this topic”, I guess? ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2013, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/73 "2013-08-07T16:18:47Z")
I’d almost like it better that way. ---
**Author:** ![Doggo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/87869e/32.png) [@Doggo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doggo)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2013, 1:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/74 "2013-08-08T13:55:06Z")
Do fish swim? ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2013, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/75 "2013-08-08T17:01:26Z")
> [@Sparky\_the\_Wonder\_Spirit](#): > > **Sparky** is a woman, but I don’t know that there’s strictly a man/woman divide here. Plenty of ladies in this thread have no objections to sex without the emotional component. I wouldn’t do it now. But I’m also approaching 40 and there’s a lot of stuff I would have done 15 years ago I won’t do anymore. ---
**Author:** ![Snowboarder\_Bo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowboarder_bo/32/229_2.png) [@Snowboarder\_Bo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snowboarder_Bo)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2013, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/76 "2013-08-08T18:44:44Z")
I’m a guy so of course I answered “YES” because, well, been there and done that, more than once. > [@movingfinger](#): > > Yeah, but what if the non-relationship goes uphill and becomes a relationship? We were together for two years and started off as bed buddies, and things got more complex. We joked about being on a Jerry Springer program, with the theme:“Can this indifference be saved?” You might enjoy [this relevant _Onion_ article](http://www.theonion.com/articles/fuckbuddy-becomes-fuckfiance,4637/). ---
**Author:** ![Learjeff](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/94ad74/32.png) [@Learjeff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Learjeff)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2013, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/77 "2013-08-08T19:30:35Z")
Sure, but my wife would kill me. Long ago, I had a one night stand with a very attractive young woman. Eventually I figured out that she was using me for some purpose (perhaps to annoy someone else), and it surprised me how much that took the fun out of it for me. I wouldn’t have guessed. Perhaps if she’d been a better actor in bed I wouldn’t have minded. ---
**Author:** ![dracoi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/90db22/32.png) [@dracoi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dracoi)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2013, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/78 "2013-08-08T20:32:49Z")
I’m a man and answering no. As others have said, I _could_ if I wasn’t married, if the person wasn’t too annoying, etc. But realistically, no, I would not. In fact, I have trouble grasping the idea of angry sex or make-up sex… even with someone I love, when there is a fight, it takes me at least a few hours before the idea of sex with her starts to sound like a good idea again. Until I’ve had some space, physical contact is about as appealing as a trip to the dentist. ---
**Author:** ![want2befree](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/3e96dc/32.png) [@want2befree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/want2befree)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2013, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/79 "2013-08-08T21:05:34Z")
Oh yes, I just remembered there’s a guy I know that goes to my bar, and he’s a complete ass. Partly caused the break up of me and his friend. Never talks to me. Practically grimaces at me every time I see him. But for some reason, I’m completely attracted to him, and just want to walk up to him, slap him, and then kiss him. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2013, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459/80 "2013-08-09T02:18:22Z")
I’ve been in a monogamous relationship for over 25 years. But before that, I’m sure I had sex with people I wouldn’t have liked . . . if I had bothered to get to know them at all. There’s something to be said for anonymity. And youth. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-boink-someone-you-dont-particularly-like/665459.md?page=5)