# Could you date/marry someone who is bisexual? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 9, 2009, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254 "2009-06-09T21:22:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![hroark2112](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6a8cbe/32.png) [@hroark2112](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hroark2112)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2009, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/1 "2009-06-09T21:22:46Z")
Along the lines of the threads asking [Could you easily be friends with someone who's had hundreds of sexual partners? - In My Humble Opinion - Straight Dope Message Board](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=520388) and [Could you date/marry someone who has had hundreds of sexual partners? - In My Humble Opinion - Straight Dope Message Board](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=520416), what if the person is bisexual? Age & sex in your answer please!! For me, I have no issue with it, as long as it’s out in the open. I wouldn’t do anything like a polygamous relationship, where someone had a partner outside of our relationship. 42 & male. ---
**Author:** ![Sampiro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2acd7d/32.png) [@Sampiro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sampiro)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2009, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/2 "2009-06-09T21:35:51Z")
42, male, gay (which you didn’t ask for but relevant in this case). I could date/marry a bisexual _IF_ bisexual means “has had sex with women but now considers himself exclusively gay”, but probably not if they are still in the heterosexual reserves. For one thing it way more than doubles the chances of them cheating (since numerically there are a lot more straight women looking to hook up than gay men) plus I’ll admit there’s an ick factor (not logical, but it’s there). Generally I wouldn’t want to date any guy who’s been with a woman in several years. Lots of gay guys have exclusively heterosexual sex when they’re young before they admit their orientation. I don’t make any judgments there, but I think it’s important they have a chance to work on their baggage before entering into a same sex relationship. ---
**Author:** ![Covered\_In\_Bees](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ab992/32.png) [@Covered\_In\_Bees](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Covered_In_Bees)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2009, 9:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/3 "2009-06-09T21:43:38Z")
Straight male in early 20s. Yes I’d date a bisexual woman. I _have_. As long as she passes my tests of character quality, bisexuality shouldn’t be an issue. ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Ashtar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ea924/32.png) [@Lord\_Ashtar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Ashtar)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2009, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/4 "2009-06-09T21:48:20Z")
Straight male, 30. I have as well, twice. Well, the first one had just fooled around with girls and said it was fun, but she still preferred men. The second girl was straight up bi. So long as they aren’t one of those Jerry Springer “I get to have a boyfriend and a girlfriend because I like both” bisexuals, it doesn’t matter in the slightest. If she’s committed to me, I really don’t care which gender(s) she’s had sex with in the past. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2009, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/5 "2009-06-09T21:53:22Z")
Straight female, 41 and yes. I’m willing to date guys who are interested in other women, too… who attracts my partner’s eyes isn’t a problem to me, so long as the rest doesn’t go behind. ---
**Author:** ![Oredigger77](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/oredigger77/32/3181_2.png) [@Oredigger77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oredigger77)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2009, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/6 "2009-06-09T22:17:43Z")
> [@Nava](#): > > Straight female, 41 and yes. I’m willing to date guys who are interested in other women, too… who attracts my partner’s eyes isn’t a problem to me, so long as the rest doesn’t go behind. This. I don’t care who beyond me that my partner is attracted too as long as they don’t act on it. Hell, if we can both look at attractive women and get riled up so much the better. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2009, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/7 "2009-06-09T22:22:45Z")
Of the things that bother me about my wife, bisexuality is by far the least. It counts less than her dislike of _Deep Space Nine_. Late 30s, male, married, mostly straight but thinks Taye Diggs is v. cute. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2009, 10:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/8 "2009-06-09T22:24:31Z")
Male 46, straight. Yes, if she truly loved me. ---
**Author:** ![Sir\_T-Cups](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Sir\_T-Cups](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sir_T-Cups)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2009, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/9 "2009-06-09T22:27:45Z")
Male, 23 I actually insist on it ;)😉 Ok serious answer time: Same as the other two answers basically…If I truly love her I can look past a lot of things, this included. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2009, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/10 "2009-06-09T22:34:22Z")
I dated a bisexual girl for 2 years, and might have married her had it not been for serious issues with her family (her mother, a preacher’s wife, didn’t want her dating a darkie). Rules were the same as with a guy- I considered it cheating if she hooked up with a girl. On the other hand, if she asked first, and I got to watch… ETA: Male, 26. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2009, 10:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/11 "2009-06-09T22:43:43Z")
> [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](#): > > Male 46, straight. > > Yes, if she truly loved me. I love my wife more than I love any other person, but I’m not sure love is requisite for a successful marriage. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2009, 10:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/12 "2009-06-09T22:56:17Z")
Not a problem at all. Of course, I’m bisexual myself, so… ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2009, 1:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/13 "2009-06-10T01:01:26Z")
Splitter! ---
**Author:** ![Sampiro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2acd7d/32.png) [@Sampiro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sampiro)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2009, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/14 "2009-06-10T01:02:58Z")
> [@Miller](#): > > Not a problem at all. Of course, I’m bisexual myself, so… Well _one_ of you needs to be able to make a decision.😃 ---
**Author:** ![Caveat\_lector\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ea5d25/32.png) [@Caveat\_lector\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Caveat_lector_1)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2009, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/15 "2009-06-10T01:08:49Z")
I had no issues with it. Looking back I don’t think she was really bisexual (I think she was trying to get a reaction), but at the time I didn’t know that. I just told her doing anything with a girl would be cheating on me just as much as doing things with a guy. Male, 25 ---
**Author:** ![Idlewild](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8491ac/32.png) [@Idlewild](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idlewild)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2009, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/16 "2009-06-10T01:11:30Z")
Bi (well, I identify as queer) married to bi. I have yet to be seriously attracted to a totally straight man. If it weren’t for bisexual men I’d have no men at all… or something. ---
**Author:** ![Arachne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Arachne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arachne)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2009, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/17 "2009-06-10T01:28:16Z")
Yes, as I am currently dating a bisexual guy (I’m bi myself).Neither of us have a problem with dating bisexual people, and to a certain extent we both prefer bisexuals over straight or gay/lesbian people. We check out/flirt with/occasionally mess around with other people **together** , it’s made us a much closer couple 🙂 I’m female and 18 ---
**Author:** ![tumbleddown](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e9bcb4/32.png) [@tumbleddown](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tumbleddown)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2009, 1:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/18 "2009-06-10T01:47:28Z")
As a pansexual person (who also identifies as simply queer) I have no problem being with another bi or queer person, with rules about monogamy to be negotiated at the time of the formalization of the relationship. ---
**Author:** ![Electric\_Warrior](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@Electric\_Warrior](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Electric_Warrior)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2009, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/19 "2009-06-10T01:59:20Z")
> [@Miller](#): > > Not a problem at all. Of course, I’m bisexual myself, so… as above. Actually, I think dating bisexuals is more fun, because then you can share opinions on whether or not people are good looking. EDIT: Sorry! Female and 18. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2009, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254/20 "2009-06-10T02:12:52Z")
63, gay male. My partner is pansexual, and has been with every type of person imaginable. Neither of us has a problem with the other’s past (although I envy his . . . mostly). [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-date-marry-someone-who-is-bisexual/499254.md?page=2)