# Could you have a satisfying sex life with a partner who would only do oral & manual?
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [December 3, 2010, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829 "2010-12-03T16:57:45Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/1 "2010-12-03T16:57:45Z")
Let us stipulate, for the sake of this discussion, that said partner is willing to both give and receive, and that she or he is extraordinarily skilled at giving; and that the relationship is monogamous.
Poll in a moment. It might take two moments, in fact, as I have to think up a wisecrack for the “Fool of a Took!” option.
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### Author:  [@Covered\_In\_Bees](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Covered_In_Bees)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/2 "2010-12-03T16:59:30Z")
No.
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### Author:  [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/3 "2010-12-03T17:02:49Z")
Since we are both EXTREMELY paranoid about having a child at this time, this is pretty much me right now. I gotta tell ya, it’s actually pretty darn good. Based on the complaints from the neighbors, she likes it too.
ETA: I will be VERY interested to see how this comes out. So to speak.
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### Author:  [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/4 "2010-12-03T17:07:58Z")
Absolutely. That’s what most of my relationships turn into anyway. I don’t find screwing to be all that exciting.
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### Author:  [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 5:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/5 "2010-12-03T17:10:43Z")
I could be ok with it on a temporary basis, but the frustration from no intercourse _ever_ would get to me after a while.
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### Author:  [@Onomatopoeia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Onomatopoeia)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 5:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/6 "2010-12-03T17:10:54Z")
Please pardon what will undoubtedly be seen as a stupid question, but what’s ‘manual’?
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### Author:  [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 5:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/7 "2010-12-03T17:11:55Z")
> [@Onomatopoeia](#):
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> Please pardon what will undoubtedly be seen as a stupid question, but what’s ‘manual’?
Hand jobs.
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### Author:  [@Onomatopoeia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Onomatopoeia)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/8 "2010-12-03T17:15:18Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#):
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> Hand jobs.
Oh jeez…Duh. Thanks. You don’t even want to know where my mind was headed.
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### Author:  [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/9 "2010-12-03T17:17:17Z")
Sure. I don’t really get off from penetrative intercourse anyway (vaginal stimulation isn’t my thing) so I think it would be fine.
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### Author:  [@Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maggie_the_Ocelot)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/10 "2010-12-03T17:17:55Z")
_blink_
So, like with another girl? Sure.
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### Author:  [@Onomatopoeia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Onomatopoeia)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/11 "2010-12-03T17:19:10Z")
Okay, that out of the way, to answer **Skaldy** ’s question, my wife is much more into sex than I am, however, when I want sex, I mean penetrative sex. Oral sex just doesn’t do it for me.
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### Author:  [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/12 "2010-12-03T17:51:09Z")
No. It’s fine some of the time, but I wouldn’t be happy with no fucking ever.
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### Author:  [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/13 "2010-12-03T17:58:43Z")
> [@Onomatopoeia](#):
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> Oh jeez…Duh. Thanks. You don’t even want to know where my mind was headed.
Stick shift?
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### Author:  [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/14 "2010-12-03T18:01:54Z")
“Most of what I like can be found in the manual, yes.”
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### Author:  [@Peeta\_Mellark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peeta_Mellark)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/15 "2010-12-03T18:06:41Z")
Yes. I _was_ that partner for a while. Besides, if someone is particularly skilled at oral I’ve found it to be even better than intercourse.
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### Author:  [@Acid\_Lamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acid_Lamp)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/16 "2010-12-03T18:19:45Z")
No way. While I heartily enjoy both of those activities, nothing is substitute for vaginal intercourse.
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### Author:  [@Rafe\_Hollister](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rafe_Hollister)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/17 "2010-12-03T18:58:22Z")
I can get off with oral or manual, but I gotta have pussy sometimes.
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### Author:  [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/18 "2010-12-03T19:15:27Z")
No. It’s all _good_, of course, but I love the cock.
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### Author:  [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/19 "2010-12-03T19:18:41Z")
I’m not fancy. As long as she wears the Richard Nixon mask, I don’t really care what we do.
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### Author:  [@Implicit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Implicit)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2010, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-have-a-satisfying-sex-life-with-a-partner-who-would-only-do-oral-manual/562829/20 "2010-12-03T19:31:29Z")
> [@tdn](#):
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> Stick shift?
Shifting gears can be fun. 😃
To answer the poll question, sure. There is a lot more to sex than vaginal intercourse.
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