# Could you leave your country if your love of your life lived in anouther? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 24, 2000, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-leave-your-country-if-your-love-of-your-life-lived-in-anouther/30528 "2000-08-24T00:33:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2000, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-leave-your-country-if-your-love-of-your-life-lived-in-anouther/30528/21 "2000-08-24T14:53:08Z")
Yo Anniz, if you came to the USA, you’d have to spend about 10 hours on a plane. Being you can only be out of bed for an hour because of your back, how would you handle that? ---
**Author:** ![C3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/c3/32/3108_2.png) [@C3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/C3)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2000, 2:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-leave-your-country-if-your-love-of-your-life-lived-in-anouther/30528/22 "2000-08-24T14:59:04Z")
I am, in fact, going to leave the U.S. because of my husband. He’s Australian. From the first few months of our relationship, it was understood that he wanted to live in Australia. I married him with the understanding that one day we’ll be moving there. Our plan is to go in 2 1/2 years, although that is dependent on a lot of factors, mainly his career (he’s doing really well here in the U.S. and in 2 1/2 years it might be smarter for us to stay a bit longer). Actually, I’m more eager to move than he is, at this point. He’s been away from home for so long that he anticipates that he’ll have a harder time adjusting to the changes that have happened there than I will to the new environment. Also, he really likes the U.S. and is getting spoiled by the capitalist mentality. I, on the other hand, want our kids to grow up somewhere where there are stricter gun laws, less religious fervor, and a more laid-back attitude. I’m not extremely close to my family and I like new environments, so I’m really excited to move. I’ve been to Australia and liked it, I’ve gotten to know my husband’s group of friends and his family pretty well. I probably would not have been as willing to move if the country had been Guatamala or Botswana or something like that (no offense to those countries 🙂 ). ---
**Author:** ![Tymp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Tymp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tymp)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2000, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-leave-your-country-if-your-love-of-your-life-lived-in-anouther/30528/23 "2000-08-24T15:09:26Z")
A loving union is something that easily transcends physical, social and national boundaries. A declaration of love is a declaration of a new nation. A nation of people independent in their intentions, desires and capabilities from all that has ever been. All the strength of every army and every natural boundary crumbles in impotence as love develops, possesses, and strengthens the soul. Would I leave my country for my love? I dunno. I wouldn’t even be aware of my country’s existence. ---
**Author:** ![Anniz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/cc9497/32.png) [@Anniz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anniz)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2000, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-leave-your-country-if-your-love-of-your-life-lived-in-anouther/30528/24 "2000-08-24T16:04:34Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by handy \* > \*\*Yo Anniz, if you came to the USA, you’d have to spend about 10 hours on a plane. Being you can only be out of bed for an hour because of your back, how would you handle that? \*\* No, you got it wrong, for a couple of month ago it was 1 hour, know it’s 4, yesterday I made 5 hours, hurray to me. So, it’s getting better and better every day. i have no doubt about it will be totaly okey. So, 1 year from now, I’ll go over there ---
**Author:** ![Maeglin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Maeglin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maeglin)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2000, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-leave-your-country-if-your-love-of-your-life-lived-in-anouther/30528/25 "2000-08-24T16:05:48Z")
But like him, I would leave in a minute. I’d grab a spare pair of underwear, my cats, and be on the next plane to wherever. Fortunately my own loving union doesn’t require me to leave my apartment, except when the GF wants me to run downstairs to buy something for her. 🙂 MR ---
**Author:** ![oldscratch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ed655f/32.png) [@oldscratch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/oldscratch)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2000, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-leave-your-country-if-your-love-of-your-life-lived-in-anouther/30528/26 "2000-08-24T16:08:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Anniz \* > \*\*Could you leave friends ,work, family, > yes, everything? \*\* To be honest it depends on the country. Could I leave everything and go live in Tajikistan? Probably not. Sweden? Yeah. \*\* [/QUOTE] ---
**Author:** ![Tymp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Tymp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tymp)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2000, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-leave-your-country-if-your-love-of-your-life-lived-in-anouther/30528/27 "2000-08-24T16:53:27Z")
You’re not alone, **Maeglin**. People are often brought to tears when they find themselves in agreement with me. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2000, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-leave-your-country-if-your-love-of-your-life-lived-in-anouther/30528/28 "2000-08-24T17:36:14Z")
I suppose I could if given time to do the necessary things (packing, international stuff). I would hope my counterpart would not think herself immune to coming here. ---
**Author:** ![soulsling](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a5b964/32.png) [@soulsling](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/soulsling)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2000, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-leave-your-country-if-your-love-of-your-life-lived-in-anouther/30528/29 "2000-08-24T17:53:32Z")
I agree with Tymp. Love does transcend all boundaries. It also makes it easier for myself knowing that I can accept most any type of work, and still be comfortable. I am quite the minimalist. My computer, a good mattress to sleep on, some cushions for sitting, and places to hold my books and art supplies and I’m content. If I fell in love with a woman that loved me back the same, Yes, I would move. Alas, if there were only a woman that I could share myself with and recieve the same in return. ---
**Author:** ![Athena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/35a633/32.png) [@Athena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Athena)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2000, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-leave-your-country-if-your-love-of-your-life-lived-in-anouther/30528/30 "2000-08-24T17:58:08Z")
I don’t think I could leave my family. It’s bad enough living halfway across the country from them, and I’m working hard to find a way to move back to my place of birth because of that. If I met someone from another country, I might consider living there for a few years, but ultimately I want to spend the bulk of my life living close to my parents/brothers/extended family. ---
**Author:** ![Demo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/demo/32/8472_2.png) [@Demo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Demo)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2000, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-leave-your-country-if-your-love-of-your-life-lived-in-anouther/30528/31 "2000-08-24T18:40:11Z")
I’d do it in a heartbeat. Especially if psycat had to go to Jamaica. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2000, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-leave-your-country-if-your-love-of-your-life-lived-in-anouther/30528/32 "2000-08-24T18:46:04Z")
Well, I wouldn’t do it again. Back in '86 I was on a 9-month program in Israel, and I met the love of my life. The program ended, everyone went back to the states, and I stayed behind. Long story short, I’ve been back in the U.S. for 11 years now. Let’s just say I learned my lesson and leave it at that. ---
**Author:** ![Lucky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Lucky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucky)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2000, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-leave-your-country-if-your-love-of-your-life-lived-in-anouther/30528/33 "2000-08-24T19:50:16Z")
It depends what you mean by “leave”. If you mean moving to another country but going home once every year or two for a holiday–no problem. My husband moved to the US for me (though where we would live wasn’t really a tough choice as his country affords none of the modern conveniences such as clean drinking water, hospitals and central heating). My best friend also married a foriegner (a Frenchman) and has been living in France for many years. But if you mean giving up citizenship and never coming home–no way. I’m too close to my family for that. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-leave-your-country-if-your-love-of-your-life-lived-in-anouther/30528.md?page=1)