# Could you participate in a sexual relationship with a morbidly obese person? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 9, 2014, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190 "2014-11-09T23:06:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2014, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/1 "2014-11-09T23:06:17Z")
Simple enough question. If you were single could you participate in a sexual relationship with a [morbidly obese](http://www.urmc.rochester.edu/highland/departments-centers/bariatrics/right-for-you/morbid-obesity.aspx) person? The link I cited uses a 100 lbs, but for this poll lets say someone 70 lbs above their ideal weight. A lot of the women on _The Biggest Loser_ start the show around 210 lbs. Thats 70 to 80 lbs over the ideal for their height. Most of the men on that show start at about 280 lbs and up. Be honest. Sex is largely a mental thing. If you can’t get aroused by a partner its not going to be very satisfying. This is part 1. The 2nd poll in a few days will ask the same question about heavily tattooed partners. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2014, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/2 "2014-11-09T23:15:39Z")
A one off thing? Sure. An ongoing relationship? No. I usually only get involved with women who are at the same weight level (respectively) and fitness as I am. ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Drake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ad7895/32.png) [@Dr.Drake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Drake)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2014, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/3 "2014-11-09T23:17:56Z")
There are limits beyond which I wouldn’t find someone sexually attractive, but 70 or 100 pounds isn’t it. I’d have more trouble being in a long-term relationship because of worries about their health, but a short-term fling or FWB? Sure. ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2014, 11:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/4 "2014-11-09T23:19:53Z")
I guess everybody has entered into a one night stand thanks to beer goggles. 😉 But I was thinking of some kind of ongoing relationship for the poll. It could just be Friends with Benefits or a serious relationship. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2014, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/5 "2014-11-09T23:33:14Z")
When I think of morbidly obesity, I imagine someone a lot more than 70 lbs. above their ideal weight. That being said, my answer is no. I was once in a short relationship with a guy who weighed about 275, but had other qualities to compensate. Eventually his weight became more of a turn-off. ---
**Author:** ![Reply](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/reply/32/15952_2.png) [@Reply](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Reply)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2014, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/6 "2014-11-09T23:33:34Z")
I’m cyclically obese myself, and because of that I am never sexually attracted to obese people (or even the moderately overweight). I see them too much as lazy, disgusting pigs – mirrors of my own uncomfortable reality. ---
**Author:** ![Stringbean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Stringbean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stringbean)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2014, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/7 "2014-11-09T23:33:42Z")
I porked a porker a couple times. As I am fond to say, when the lights are at 0 what difference does it make? ---
**Author:** ![Reply](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/reply/32/15952_2.png) [@Reply](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Reply)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2014, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/8 "2014-11-09T23:35:39Z")
> [@Stringbean](#): > > I porked a porker a couple times. As I am fond to say, when the lights are at 0 what difference does it make? Don’t they smell bad? Aren’t you afraid of losing a limb in their folds? ---
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2014, 11:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/9 "2014-11-09T23:46:17Z")
Absolutely not for me. I am as shallow as they come. It takes a lot less than that for someone to get disqualified. OTOH, I have some friends that love to go pig hunting as they call it. They swear that fat chicks are the best ones in bed because they try harder and are more appreciative. There are some sayings that go along with this. More cushin’ for the pushin’ is one. The other is the moped joke. Fat girls are like a moped. They are a blast to ride but you don’t want your friends to see you on one. ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/10 "2014-11-10T00:11:12Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > When I think of morbidly obesity, I imagine someone a lot more than 70 lbs. above their ideal weight. > > That being said, my answer is no. I was once in a short relationship with a guy who weighed about 275, but had other qualities to compensate. Eventually his weight became more of a turn-off. I had a similar experience with a college friend. We had been friends for quite awhile and both had relationships that ended at about the same time. We started dating and had some epic make out sessions on the sofa. She had huge boobs that got me all worked up. But when we shifted into the bedroom things always cooled off. She was about 50 lbs over weight and it distracted me. I really tried to get used to it and continued with the relationship a couple months. I finally had to accept that her weight made it difficult to fully enjoy our intimate times together. It wouldn’t have been fair to either of us to continue dating. Given that experience, there’s no way I’d have a sexual relationship with someone even heavier. ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 12:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/11 "2014-11-10T00:21:38Z")
I can’t even imagine basing sexual attraction on someone’s weight but I see it’s pretty important to some people. ---
**Author:** ![harmonicamoon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/65b543/32.png) [@harmonicamoon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/harmonicamoon)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 1:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/12 "2014-11-10T01:43:07Z")
Well, to me it all comes down to chemistry. If the blood is not flowing below, it doesn’t work. Obesity doesn’t matter. Its the blood flow. ---
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 1:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/13 "2014-11-10T01:49:57Z")
> [@harmonicamoon](#): > > Well, to me it all comes down to chemistry. If the blood is not flowing below, it doesn’t work. Obesity doesn’t matter. Its the blood flow. Oh a vampire! You people are all the rage these days. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/14 "2014-11-10T01:53:21Z")
> [@Stringbean](#): > > I porked a porker a couple times. As I am fond to say, when the lights are at 0 what difference does it make? You fucked a fucker? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 1:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/15 "2014-11-10T01:54:10Z")
It has been said that there is no such thing as a fat blowjob. ---
**Author:** ![An\_Gadai](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/d6d6ee/32.png) [@An\_Gadai](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/An_Gadai)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/16 "2014-11-10T02:03:59Z")
I’ve been attracted to women of all sizes and women are occasionally attracted to me despite me being significantly more than 70lbs over weight. ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/17 "2014-11-10T02:11:13Z")
To all you ladies who voted no. Thanks for nothin 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Stringbean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Stringbean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stringbean)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/18 "2014-11-10T02:45:41Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > You fucked a fucker? 😕 No I porked a porker ---
**Author:** ![Bijou\_Drains](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bijou_drains/32/2814_2.png) [@Bijou\_Drains](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bijou_Drains)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/19 "2014-11-10T03:19:33Z")
I figured at best 10% would vote yes. I guess it shows this place is really not mainstream. (which I already knew) BTW I’m not really a typical mainstream person myself, but I voted no. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/20 "2014-11-10T03:22:29Z")
> [@Stringbean](#): > > No I porked a porker What is “pork” in this sentence? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190.md?page=2)