# Could you participate in a sexual relationship with a morbidly obese person? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 9, 2014, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190 "2014-11-09T23:06:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/21 "2014-11-10T03:34:13Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > What is “pork” in this sentence? It’s a juvenile way of saying he stuck his penis inside a fat girl. Funny ain’t it? ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/22 "2014-11-10T03:53:06Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > It’s a juvenile way of saying he stuck his penis inside a fat girl. Funny ain’t it? I got the gist of it, I just thought it was just a poorly constructed phrasing (not to mention juvenile). ---
**Author:** ![Stringbean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Stringbean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stringbean)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/23 "2014-11-10T04:01:14Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > I got the gist of it, I just thought it was just a poorly constructed phrasing (not to mention juvenile). > **[Urban Dictionary: Pork](https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pork)** > > To engage in sexual intercourse. > **[Urban Dictionary: Porker](https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Porker)** > > Noun: one who porks. Well constructed. Has a poetic rhythm about it. Read some Shakespeare before criticizing the quality writing of others. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 4:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/24 "2014-11-10T04:20:12Z")
> [@Stringbean](#): > > [Urban Dictionary: Pork](http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pork) > > [Urban Dictionary: Porker](http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Porker) > > Well constructed. Has a poetic rhythm about it. Read some Shakespeare before criticizing the quality writing of others. Funny. Well constructed in slang, yes. The next Shakespeare you are not. It looked stupid. ---
**Author:** ![Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heffalump_and_roo/32/7691_2.png) [@Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heffalump_and_Roo)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/25 "2014-11-10T04:54:36Z")
> [@Bijou\_Drains](#): > > I figured at best 10% would vote yes. > > I guess it shows this place is really not mainstream. (which I already knew) > BTW I’m not really a typical mainstream person myself, but I voted no. What’s the mainstream number, and how do you know it? ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/26 "2014-11-10T05:03:47Z")
Uh-oh. I sense concern. ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 5:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/27 "2014-11-10T05:14:04Z")
Only if I get to be on top. ---
**Author:** ![Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heffalump_and_roo/32/7691_2.png) [@Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heffalump_and_Roo)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 5:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/28 "2014-11-10T05:44:51Z")
> [@Muffin](#): > > Uh-oh. I sense concern. What is this about? ---
**Author:** ![GrumpyBunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bc8723/32.png) [@GrumpyBunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrumpyBunny)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 6:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/29 "2014-11-10T06:00:17Z")
It depends on the person and how they carry the weight and themselves. But it’s not an immediate “no”. I hate to say this, but “morbidly obese” conjures up a very different image of a person than does “obese and active”. Muscle tone. I know clinically obese people who are active and have good muscle tone. I also know people who are obese and not active, and do not have good muscle tone. They are, sorry to say, not attractive. ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_R.Mortiss](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tim_r.mortiss/32/142_2.png) [@Tim\_R.Mortiss](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_R.Mortiss)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 6:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/30 "2014-11-10T06:08:26Z")
I’m pretty shallow, but not that shallow. If someone is kind, loving, intelligent, funny, and accepts me despite all my faults, who am I to reject them for not living up to some arbitrary ideal of body image? Love is love. Besides, a big fat porker is less likely to dump you for Matthew McConaughey. ---
**Author:** ![actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e79b87/32.png) [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/actualliberalnotoneofthose)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 6:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/31 "2014-11-10T06:17:18Z")
> [@Tim\_R.Mortiss](#): > > Besides, a big fat porker is less likely to dump you for Matthew McConaughey. I don’t think that’s true. IMHO, that’s one of the many dangers of settling for someone who might be “below” you on the attractiveness scale- when you think she will be more loyal, lower maintenance, etc- but it doesn’t work out that way. Plus, if the person is of reasonable intelligence, she will easily pick up on that attitude…and probably seek validation elsewhere. ---
**Author:** ![Npatient1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Npatient1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Npatient1)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 7:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/32 "2014-11-10T07:00:02Z")
“Fat” men are adorable. The ones that have teeny-weeny meat, are so eager to please you that they practically give you all their cash. And the ones that have fat mammoth meat are mainly jerks and bastards…I mean like hey Free Willy, do yourself a favor and never, ever eat again. Walgreen’s have free blood pressure tests…try it out! Oh and BTW, where the hell is your neck?? ---
**Author:** ![Cinnamon\_Imp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58956e/32.png) [@Cinnamon\_Imp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cinnamon_Imp)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 11:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/33 "2014-11-10T11:22:50Z")
Love is love. I fall for the person, not the shell. ---
**Author:** ![Fuzzy\_Dunlop](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/848f3c/32.png) [@Fuzzy\_Dunlop](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fuzzy_Dunlop)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/34 "2014-11-10T13:52:41Z")
> [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](#): > > I don’t think that’s true. IMHO, that’s one of the many dangers of settling for someone who might be “below” you on the attractiveness scale- when you think she will be more loyal, lower maintenance, etc- but it doesn’t work out that way. Plus, if the person is of reasonable intelligence, she will easily pick up on that attitude…and probably seek validation elsewhere. Exactly. Being a world famous celebrity like Matthew McConaughey may, for all I know, make you more likely to dump people capriciously. Being good looking or particularly fit, on the other hand, doesn’t. Having 100 pounds of excess adipose tissue doesn’t make you kind or loyal and having a flat tummy and great ass doesn’t make you fickle and inconsiderate - or vice versa. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 2:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/35 "2014-11-10T14:08:31Z")
One of the great things about kayaking is being able to navigate very shallow water. Still, sometimes a stream peters out and it is just too shallow. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 2:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/36 "2014-11-10T14:17:29Z")
I probably would, as long as he had other good qualities. Looks don’t last. We’re all going to get old and ugly one day. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 2:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/37 "2014-11-10T14:35:22Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > We’re all going to get old and ugly one day. I’ve bypassed the old and ugly stage and gone straight to old and distinguished looking.😃 ---
**Author:** ![Lizard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@Lizard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lizard)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 2:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/38 "2014-11-10T14:55:01Z")
How to tell is something is offensive: Replace “morbidly obese” with black/Jewish/Asian. By that standard, I don’t think I’ve _ever_ seen a thread as offensive as this one. And to the person who said he thought only 10% would say “yes,” well, [something like 35% of the adult population is obese](http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/obesity-overweight.htm). Do the math. Obviously mainstream is not what you think it is. ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/39 "2014-11-10T15:06:34Z")
> [@Lizard](#): > > How to tell is something is offensive: > > Replace “morbidly obese” with black/Jewish/Asian. Except that nobody has control over their race. ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2014, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/40 "2014-11-10T15:07:59Z")
Not to nitpick but there’s a difference between obese and morbidly obese. I’d put 70-lbs-above-ideal into the former category. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190.md?page=3)