# Could you participate in a sexual relationship with a morbidly obese person? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 9, 2014, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190 "2014-11-09T23:06:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Lukeinva](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lukeinva/32/17872_2.png) [@Lukeinva](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lukeinva)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/101 "2014-11-12T21:14:38Z")
No. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/102 "2014-11-12T21:42:07Z")
> [@Rachellelogram](#): > > But regardless of **your** intentions, from one fat girl to another: you’ve \*gotta \*realize how it looks. How it looks to WHOM? You? Yes, Rachellelogram, I think you’ve been smoking the crazy pills. You have some kind of chip on your shoulder and you’re not being rational. Here’s the part that I really don’t understand - where the heck am I supposed to find all these fat guys that you think I ought to be willing to date?? Fat guys rarely ask me out. So what am I supposed to do? Go to an overeaters anonymous meeting and start trolling for a date because it bugs you that men in the thin to slightly pudgy range are the ones that show interest in me? The last guy I was involved with was damn near perfect in the body department, and quite good looking as well. Would you be “snickering” at us, or would you think “damn, that is one fine man. That is a lucky woman.” We met at a party, we got along, and he asked me out, and we started seeing each other. No fat men were rejected along the way. So what’s there to snicker at? ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/103 "2014-11-12T21:50:01Z")
> [@Green\_Bean](#): > > How it looks to WHOM? You? > > Yes, Rachellelogram, I think you’ve been smoking the crazy pills. You have some kind of chip on your shoulder and you’re not being rational. > > Here’s the part that I really don’t understand - where the heck am I supposed to find all these fat guys that you think I ought to be willing to date?? > > Fat guys rarely ask me out. So what am I supposed to do? Go to an overeaters anonymous meeting and start trolling for a date because it bugs you that men in the thin to slightly pudgy range are the ones that show interest in me? > > The last guy I was involved with was damn near perfect in the body department, and quite good looking as well. Would you be “snickering” at us, or would you think “damn, that is one fine man. That is a lucky woman.” We met at a party, we got along, and he asked me out, and we started seeing each other. No fat men were rejected along the way. So what’s there to snicker at? You go, girl! I think that rachelle is talking about heavy women who wouldn’t consider dating heavy men, not heavy women who end up with fit men for whatever reason. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/104 "2014-11-12T22:10:51Z")
But I AM a heavy woman who wouldn’t consider dating a morbidly obese man. ---
**Author:** ![LibrarySpy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f9ae1b/32.png) [@LibrarySpy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LibrarySpy)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/105 "2014-11-12T22:39:20Z")
> [@Green Bean](#): > > I suspect there’s a part of you that thinks that you had to “settle” for a fat guy because you’re fat yourself. > [@Green Bean](#): > > Go to an overeaters anonymous meeting and start trolling for a date Okay, I’ll bite. You haven’t directly expressed your motivations for not dating overweight men, but both statements above imply that you judge fat men as something to settle for, and overeaters. Is your reason for not dating obese men is that you find them beneath you somehow? ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190/106 "2014-11-12T22:54:44Z")
Not at all. Overeaters Anonymous was just the only place that came to mind that would be likely to have a lot of fat men hanging around. I have no motivations for not being attracted to very overweight men. I just personally don’t find them attractive. It’s Rachellelogram that seems to think they’re something to settle for. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/could-you-participate-in-a-sexual-relationship-with-a-morbidly-obese-person/704190.md?page=5)