# Couples: Sleep over at your SO's place or yours? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 18, 2011, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-sleep-over-at-your-sos-place-or-yours/593250 "2011-08-18T23:49:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2011, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-sleep-over-at-your-sos-place-or-yours/593250/1 "2011-08-18T23:49:39Z")
I’m making this poll gender specific as I’m curious if there is a gender divide on this topic. I’m a male and I absolutely HATE staying at the SO place. I’m much more comfortable at mine. I’m currently not serious with anyone but still; that’s how it’s always been in the past. ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2011, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-sleep-over-at-your-sos-place-or-yours/593250/2 "2011-08-18T23:52:00Z")
The advantage of having been in a long-distance relationship prior to living together is that this issue was often determined by other factors. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Zsofia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/7bcc69/32.png) [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2011, 12:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-sleep-over-at-your-sos-place-or-yours/593250/3 "2011-08-19T00:34:28Z")
We’re longish distance right now (hour and a half) so he comes here for the weekends and I used to go there some weeknights, except then his work schedule changed. So it used to be 50/50 and now is mostly me. BUT he’s moving here hopefully in two weeks. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2011, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-sleep-over-at-your-sos-place-or-yours/593250/4 "2011-08-19T01:53:33Z")
Before living together, it was about 50/50. We rarely slept apart. ---
**Author:** ![shakabroh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b5e925/32.png) [@shakabroh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shakabroh)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2011, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-sleep-over-at-your-sos-place-or-yours/593250/5 "2011-08-19T02:13:53Z")
> [@Antinor01](#): > > Before living together, it was about 50/50. We rarely slept apart. We rarely slept when we slept together :o;) ---
**Author:** ![ryan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/a8b319/32.png) [@ryan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ryan)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2011, 7:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-sleep-over-at-your-sos-place-or-yours/593250/6 "2011-08-19T07:58:08Z")
I’m single right now, but in the past it’s usually been 50/50 unless other factors came into play such as roommates, parents or distance to respective jobs. ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2011, 12:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-sleep-over-at-your-sos-place-or-yours/593250/7 "2011-08-19T12:54:25Z")
If we’re a couple, why are we living apart? ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2011, 1:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-sleep-over-at-your-sos-place-or-yours/593250/8 "2011-08-19T13:09:10Z")
> [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](#): > > If we’re a couple, why are we living apart? Well, you don’t just move in together after the first date. ---
**Author:** ![Dogzilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e480ec/32.png) [@Dogzilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dogzilla)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2011, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-sleep-over-at-your-sos-place-or-yours/593250/9 "2011-08-19T13:39:30Z")
His house, but because he has three dogs and they require frequent attention. You don’t leave dogs overnight. I have one cat and he’s fine by himself overnight. When I had a dog, I had to get up and leave – we never spent the night together until my dog died. ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2011, 1:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-sleep-over-at-your-sos-place-or-yours/593250/10 "2011-08-19T13:59:59Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > Well, you don’t just move in together after the first date. Now people are couples after the first date? :eek: I’m definitely not up on current relationship mores. ---
**Author:** ![Oredigger77](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/oredigger77/32/3181_2.png) [@Oredigger77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oredigger77)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2011, 3:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-sleep-over-at-your-sos-place-or-yours/593250/11 "2011-08-19T15:05:08Z")
My girlfriend lives with some family friends and her room is next door to a 12 year old. So even when I drive the 6 hours to see her we get a hotel room. I vastly prefer having her stay at my place. In general I prefer having girldfirend over to my house I have a dog so I don’t like leaving him alone over night. Plus my house is really nice and I havne’t had a girlfirend who’s was any where near as comfrotable. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2011, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-sleep-over-at-your-sos-place-or-yours/593250/12 "2011-08-19T15:24:26Z")
We initially divided it 50/50. But, her place is way nicer than mine (was), so I sold my house.