# Couples: what is the height difference between the two of you? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 13, 2009, 7:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085 "2009-12-13T07:26:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![RiverLethe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/cdc98d/32.png) [@RiverLethe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RiverLethe)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 7:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/1 "2009-12-13T07:26:12Z")
So, as is probably obvious, this is inspired by: [Women: obese vs short men - In My Humble Opinion - Straight Dope Message Board](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=543581) I seem to notice quite a few short women dating extremely tall men. I’ve always thought of it as stabilizing selection, based purely on observation of taller men and women I know. I’d really like to know if this is the norm, because I don’t see as many very tall couples. In fact, I see taller women going for men that are about their height or shorter, but not too much taller. So, I’d like to know the height difference between you and your partner (I’ll define partner as someone you have had or plan on having children with (you don’t have to want to have kids, but someone you’ve been with long enough/love enough that, if you wanted children, you’d be that committed to them)). Please provide the height of you and your partner. Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![ShibbOleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@ShibbOleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShibbOleth)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 7:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/2 "2009-12-13T07:51:29Z")
I am 6’ [sup]1[/sup]/2" (183 cm) tall. Mrs Shibb is 5’0" (150 cm, maybe 151 on a good day). FWIW, our daughter, who turns 14 in a few days, is already about 5 inches taller than her Mom. Our son is maybe an inch or so shorter than his Mom at 11 years old. She will soon be, by far, the shortest one in the house. ---
**Author:** ![Weedy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/weedy/32/301_2.png) [@Weedy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Weedy)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 8:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/3 "2009-12-13T08:15:44Z")
We are both 5’9". My parents are both 6’. My two brothers are 6’6" and their partners are 5’8" and 5’10". ---
**Author:** ![Dervorin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/eb8c5e/32.png) [@Dervorin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dervorin)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 11:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/4 "2009-12-13T11:22:10Z")
I’m 6’2"; SO is 5’6". 8 inches difference, about 20cm. ---
**Author:** ![QuercusMax](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/8baadc/32.png) [@QuercusMax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuercusMax)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/5 "2009-12-13T13:10:28Z")
I’m 5’11, my wife is 5’5. Nothing too crazy here. ---
**Author:** ![BrotherCadfael](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@BrotherCadfael](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrotherCadfael)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 1:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/6 "2009-12-13T13:26:52Z")
6’5" vs 5’7". I’ve dated girls who were 5’0" to 5’11" But, we’re all the same height lying down. ---
**Author:** ![Rico](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rico/32/3582_2.png) [@Rico](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rico)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/7 "2009-12-13T13:34:42Z")
My wife is 5’ 2". I’m 6’ 7". 17 inches difference. No kids, and none expected. Too old for that. ---
**Author:** ![SmartAlecCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/67e7ee/32.png) [@SmartAlecCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmartAlecCat)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/8 "2009-12-13T13:36:20Z")
6’2" for me and 4’11" for her. I also weigh \>2X of her. (Our 3yo daughter is very tiny too.) ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 2:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/9 "2009-12-13T14:06:31Z")
I’m 5’9" and he’s 5’10" which is great for me, since I dislike wearing heels and would feel dorky towering over him if I did. ---
**Author:** ![MsRobyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/90ced4/32.png) [@MsRobyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsRobyn)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/10 "2009-12-13T14:10:04Z")
I’m 5’7" and he’s 6’2", give or take. The sprog is pretty tall, and his pediatrician thinks he’ll top out at about 6’3" or 6’4". ---
**Author:** ![Ruffian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/71e660/32.png) [@Ruffian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruffian)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/11 "2009-12-13T14:47:49Z")
I’m 5’7", and hubby is 6’4" (difference of 9"). Like **MsRobyn** , our son is very tall–he’s always been in the 90-95th percentile for height. Even Son 2.0, still baking in the oven, has consistently measured 2-3 weeks ahead. ---
**Author:** ![Gomi5](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8491ac/32.png) [@Gomi5](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gomi5)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/12 "2009-12-13T15:06:11Z")
I’m 5’3", my husband is 6’7". No kids yet. My father is 6’5", and my mother is 5’3". My brother is 5’9". ---
**Author:** ![corvidae](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/898d66/32.png) [@corvidae](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corvidae)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/13 "2009-12-13T15:32:00Z")
I’m 5’0 and my husband is 5’10. According to the kids’ doctor, my girls are projected to be in the 5’4 to 5’6 range. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/14 "2009-12-13T15:37:43Z")
I’m 5’ 3’’, my husband is 5’7’’, which makes a height difference of 4’’. The biggest height disparity I know is between my Aunt and her husband – she is 5’7’’ and he is 6’7’’, making a height difference of one foot. ---
**Author:** ![BaconAndEggs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f4b2a3/32.png) [@BaconAndEggs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BaconAndEggs)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/15 "2009-12-13T16:34:41Z")
I’m 5’5’’ and my SO is 6’2’’. So that is 9 inch difference. ---
**Author:** ![sunstone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunstone/32/3372_2.png) [@sunstone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sunstone)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/16 "2009-12-13T16:55:51Z")
Wife 5’3" Me 5’9" So 6 inch difference, which is enough to make me respond to yells to reach up for things. It might be more important to express the difference in couple height as a percentage, rather than raw numbers. That way, you can compare results easily across the range of statures. ---
**Author:** ![Acid\_Lamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Acid\_Lamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acid_Lamp)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/17 "2009-12-13T16:58:15Z")
I am 5’7-5’8 depending on shoes, and **Nashiitashii** Is 5’9 in bare feet. I’m surprised at how many people think it’s weird that I’m married to a taller woman. ---
**Author:** ![brendon\_small](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/brendon_small/32/17101_2.png) [@brendon\_small](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brendon_small)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/18 "2009-12-13T17:04:17Z")
My wife is 5’8"-ish and I’m about 5’10" - we kinda match… Brendon Small ---
**Author:** ![pepperlandgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f17d59/32.png) [@pepperlandgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pepperlandgirl)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 5:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/19 "2009-12-13T17:32:17Z")
I’m about 5’3 and my husband is 6’3. No kids. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2009, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/20 "2009-12-13T17:49:51Z")
No children planned or desired here, but I’m 5’7" and he’s 5’9". My mom is 5’3" and my dad is 6’2". [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085.md?page=2)