# Couples: what is the height difference between the two of you? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 13, 2009, 7:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085 "2009-12-13T07:26:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Daerlyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/898d66/32.png) [@Daerlyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Daerlyn)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2009, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/61 "2009-12-14T17:51:30Z")
I’m 5’4, give or take half an inch. The boyfriend is a shade less than 6’. My ex husband is 6’4, and I once dated a guy who was 6’6. I’m not sure if it’s that I go for tall guys or they go for me. Of course, once you get over about 5’8, everyone looks more or less the same height to me, unless they’re standing side by side. At that point, all I really process is ‘tall’. ---
**Author:** ![RedBloom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/dbc845/32.png) [@RedBloom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RedBloom)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2009, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/62 "2009-12-14T18:01:46Z")
I am 5’3" and the hub is 6’7"… our daughter is taller than average, and our son is shorter than average. ---
**Author:** ![FallenAngel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@FallenAngel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FallenAngel)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2009, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/63 "2009-12-14T21:06:47Z")
I’m 6’1". My wife is 5’2" on a good day. ---
**Author:** ![lindsaybluth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/90db22/32.png) [@lindsaybluth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lindsaybluth)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2009, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/64 "2009-12-14T21:10:53Z")
I’m 5’4 and he’s 5’10, so a 6 inch difference. I don’t notice it, always dated much taller guys. He’s the only man I’ve ever met who actually underestimated his height - his driver’s license says he’s 5’6 because “I just guessed”. I was with a guy who was 6’4. It was a little awkward, I didn’t like that I came up to his mid-chest. ---
**Author:** ![Snickers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@Snickers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snickers)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2009, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/65 "2009-12-14T22:23:48Z")
I’m 5’6", he’s 6’6"- so I’m an even foot shorter than he. He often rests his chin on the top of my head. It’s fun to hug him when I’m standing on the bottom stair and he’s standing on the floor - gives me a new perspective, as we’re about eye-to-eye then. ---
**Author:** ![badbadrubberpiggy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/57b2e6/32.png) [@badbadrubberpiggy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/badbadrubberpiggy)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2009, 10:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/66 "2009-12-14T22:24:56Z")
About 3 inches - my husband is about 5’7", I am about 5’4". Most of the guys I’ve dated have been around 1-3 inches taller than me, with two notable exceptions, who were both at least a foot taller than me. ---
**Author:** ![kenobi\_65](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kenobi_65/32/13178_2.png) [@kenobi\_65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenobi_65)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2009, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/67 "2009-12-14T22:51:13Z")
About 4 inches…I’m 5’ 10 1/2", my wife is just under 5’ 7". The biggest height difference I personally know is between a friend of mine (6’ 7") and his wife (4’ 10"). They have two daughters, which she had difficulty carrying, since they both got dad’s frame. ---
**Author:** ![Yeticus\_Rex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/a698b9/32.png) [@Yeticus\_Rex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yeticus_Rex)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2009, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/68 "2009-12-15T00:13:12Z")
I’m 6’3’’ and she’s 5’5.5". Difference of 9.5 weeks…er inches. ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21906_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2009, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/69 "2009-12-15T00:27:38Z")
I’m 5’5", he’s 5’9", and our daughter is around 5’7" or so. As I think back, the guys I dated most seriously were all 5’9"-5’10". I never felt comfortable with guys who towered over me. ---
**Author:** ![Hari\_Seldon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hari_seldon/32/5173_2.png) [@Hari\_Seldon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hari_Seldon)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2009, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/70 "2009-12-15T01:04:55Z")
I was just under 6’1" and my wife was about 7" shorter. We’re both a bit shorter now. Our daughter is about 5’5" and both sons are 6’2". A former neighbor died the night before last. His ex was 6’ and he was 6’11". They had a son the same height as his father and two daughters, one 6’ like her mother and the other 6’5". She had a T-shirt that read, “I am only 4’29”. Kind of sad, although she was very attractive. My mother had a friend whose parents were maybe 5’ and 5’6" and she was over 6’. I think there was some hormone imbalance because she had a man’s voice. (She said that ordering bras over the phone was a hoot.) She married a man who was about 6’4" and they had a daughter who was 5’7" with a normal woman’s voice. ---
**Author:** ![Monstera\_deliciosa](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monstera_deliciosa/32/109_2.png) [@Monstera\_deliciosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monstera_deliciosa)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2009, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/71 "2009-12-15T01:39:37Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > I’m 5’6" and Jim is 5’8". If I had to choose a perfect height for a guy for me, it would be 5’8" - we have none of the height issues that other couples have; we can drive each other’s cars by just hopping in and going, no bed size issues, no furniture concerns, none of that stuff. Plus, I can still wear heels if I want to, but never do (bad feet). It’s kind of funny at his family gatherings, though, because he’s the tallest in his family - we both sort of tower over everyone, at our very average heights. 🙂 My husband and I are both 5’6" and I _wish_ we could just hop in each other’s car and go! I have a short torso and long legs and he is the opposite. I always have to readjust the driver’s seat after he’s used my car. But I often don’t notice until I’ve driven a short distance, and I have to pull over somewhere to make the adjustment, or risk leg cramps. ---
**Author:** ![BwanaBob](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bwanabob/32/2985_2.png) [@BwanaBob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BwanaBob)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2009, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/72 "2009-12-15T18:31:44Z")
I’m 5-9, my spouse is 5-4. ---
**Author:** ![RoniaBorkason](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/9dc877/32.png) [@RoniaBorkason](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RoniaBorkason)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2009, 6:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/73 "2009-12-16T06:27:00Z")
I’m 5’8", and my husband is 6’8". I’ve never even dated a guy shorter than 6’3" - I have a hard time seeing short men as my equals. Too much time as a big sister, I suppose. If they’re shorter than me, they are obviously there to be bossed around. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2009, 7:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/74 "2009-12-16T07:52:07Z")
I’m 5’4" and he’s 6’ even. ---
**Author:** ![Radegast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c4cdca/32.png) [@Radegast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Radegast)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2009, 8:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/75 "2009-12-16T08:35:33Z")
11 inches – I’m 6’3" and my wife is 5’4". ---
**Author:** ![appleciders](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85f322/32.png) [@appleciders](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/appleciders)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2009, 8:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/76 "2009-12-16T08:47:14Z")
Six inches- I’m 5’11" and she’s 5’5". The largest difference I’ve ever been involved with was 9" (she was 5’2") and the shortest difference was 4" (she was 5’7"). ---
**Author:** ![Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hilarity_n.suze/32/6223_2.png) [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hilarity_N.Suze)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2009, 8:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/77 "2009-12-16T08:51:47Z")
11 inches. He’s theh tall one. ---
**Author:** ![Caprese](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a9a28c/32.png) [@Caprese](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Caprese)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2009, 1:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/78 "2009-12-16T13:42:38Z")
I’m just under 5’7" and the husband is just above 5’10. Our sons are hovering around 6 feet. ---
**Author:** ![Max\_Torque](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Max\_Torque](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_Torque)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2009, 4:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/79 "2009-12-16T16:48:36Z")
I’m 6’2" and my wife is 5’2" at a stretch (I think she’s about a half inch shorter, but she’s adamant that she’s 5’2"). So, a full foot. ---
**Author:** ![melodyharmonius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/melodyharmonius/32/21310_2.png) [@melodyharmonius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/melodyharmonius)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2009, 4:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085/80 "2009-12-16T16:54:44Z")
My dad was 6’3" and my mom is 5’3". It was cute to come home and see them kissing, my mom 2 steps up on the stairs. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/couples-what-is-the-height-difference-between-the-two-of-you/521085.md?page=5)