# "Coward's way out"; attitudes to suicide

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cowards-way-out-attitudes-to-suicide/608776>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [January 8, 2012, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cowards-way-out-attitudes-to-suicide/608776 "2012-01-08T00:00:01Z")\
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**Author:** ![Foggy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foggy/32/1082_2.png) [@Foggy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foggy)\
**Post date:** [January 8, 2012, 3:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cowards-way-out-attitudes-to-suicide/608776/20 "2012-01-08T03:16:33Z")

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> [@Mr.Kobayashi](#):
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> Please, please see a doctor or even call a helpline before you do anything. Even thinking about it is a sign that things are seriously wrong.

> [@Sudden\_Kestrel](#):
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> I won’t try to argue with you; I know exactly what you mean. I’ve lived in that place off and on for much of my life, alternating between exhausted resignation and overwhelming anguish. I do hope you can find some kind of relief before you make that ultimate choice, **Foggy**. My heart goes out to you.

I appreciate your concern, but I have had help and it didn’t. Here is what I wrote back in August:

> [@I am soo tired and just want this to be over with. (pathetic & depressing)](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-soo-tired-and-just-want-this-to-be-over-with-pathetic-depressing/592448/1):
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> I have had help, it didn’t. Been in & out of therapy since I was 9, the last 15 years (1995-2010) it was continuous with about a dozen or so different medications (I lost count). I guesstimate I have seen some 40 different mental health people in that time (most were just one or two visits), one doctor after 8 years said he couldn’t help me, after two years a hospital run clinic said they couldn’t help me, there have been two Partial Hospitalizations and I applied for ECT (denied). I have been in many different therapy groups and I have done volunteer work (with cats, with people, prefer cats (I would kill to have a cat but that isn’t a good idea)).
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> No change, no help, so in April 2010, against doctors orders I quit taking all medications and seeing all doctors.
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> I have contemplated suicide for about 40 years. For much of the past decade or so it’s been a daily thought. I have even made some half-assed weak-assed attempts. My only concern is for my mother and my ex and how it will affect them.
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> Some people are just broken and nothing can be done for them. I’m one of those people and I want out. With my 50th birthday just a day away it seems like a good time. I like the neatness of living exactly 50 years (or nearly so).
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> I have tried to deal and failed multiple times. It’s time to act like a man, man up, grow a pair, and just do it.
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> I just afraid that I’m too fat to climb over the damn railing.

I have done or tired nearly everything people suggested in that thread to no avail.

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