# Creepy or not? Waiter getting someone a date. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 12, 2012, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933 "2012-06-12T18:16:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/121 "2013-04-11T00:48:52Z")
> [@BlakeTyner](#): > > Eh… > > I suppose it depends on the pool of competition, no? Well thank goodness you came in and revived this discussion almost a year later to let us know where you stand on this pressing issue. ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/122 "2013-04-11T00:50:25Z")
Jesus H. A zombie thread? I gotta start looking out for that. ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/123 "2013-04-11T00:52:29Z")
> [@panaccione](#): > > Jesus H. A zombie thread? I gotta start looking out for that. And deprive us of your “nice guy” opinion about how money talks when attempting to get a date with a woman? Don’t go changing. ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 12:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/124 "2013-04-11T00:55:14Z")
Yeah, I’m way off-base here. Women (and men) don’t care if you make decent money. It’s meaningless. My sincerest apologies. ---
**Author:** ![BlakeTyner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/50afbb/32.png) [@BlakeTyner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlakeTyner)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/125 "2013-04-11T00:56:28Z")
Why thank you. I will be sure to religiously check the date and time of every post I read from here out, to assure myself that I will not incur your wrath. In the course of digging through several links, I happened to forget that the internet, and the SDMB in general, is _serious business._ Apologies. ---
**Author:** ![psychobunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/54ee81/32.png) [@psychobunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/psychobunny)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/126 "2013-04-11T01:00:19Z")
I wonder what happened. Did he ever talk to her? ---
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/127 "2013-04-11T01:00:25Z")
> [@BlakeTyner](#): > > Why thank you. I will be sure to religiously check the date and time of every post I read from here out, to assure myself that I will not incur your wrath. In the course of digging through several links, I happened to forget that the internet, and the SDMB in general, is _serious business._ > > Apologies. If you’re really sorry, show us your picture so we can all rate how handsome you are. ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/128 "2013-04-11T01:00:54Z")
> [@panaccione](#): > > Yeah, I’m way off-base here. Women (and men) don’t care if you make decent money. My sincerest apologies. I can feel the wind off your backpedaling! Give me a break. With this attitude I’m starting to really understand some of your previous threads, especially [this one](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=675104). Seriously, I love this place. ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/129 "2013-04-11T01:12:24Z")
Backpedaling? Either you don’t understand sarcasm or you are seriously naive. Oh, and bringing up past threads to insult me. That’s not petty. ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/130 "2013-04-11T02:52:22Z")
> [@panaccione](#): > > Oh, and bringing up past threads to insult me. That’s not petty. We only know things about you because you shared them on a public forum on the internet, and we can only know posters by their posts (excepting off-board relationships of course). You should consider this when deciding what to share. ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/131 "2013-04-11T03:53:10Z")
> [@Bob Ducca](#): > > We only know things about you because you shared them on a public forum on the internet, and we can only know posters by their posts (excepting off-board relationships of course). You should consider this when deciding what to share. Ok. Not sure what to say. I’m a very different person than I was in 2009, or even early 2012. I feel like I’ve made some big steps since then. I like sharing stuff here too cause I usually get great advice. So I guess feel free to call it like you see it. I feel like I’m ok. My mom says she loves me. That’s gotta mean something. ---
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/132 "2013-04-11T03:54:31Z")
> [@panaccione](#): > > My mom says she loves me. What a coincidence… that’s what she says about me, too. ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 4:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/133 "2013-04-11T04:07:42Z")
> [@panaccione](#): > > … My mom says she loves me. That’s gotta mean something. If she’s the _only_ one who says it, it doesn’t mean much. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 4:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/134 "2013-04-11T04:14:47Z")
> [@panaccione](#): > > My mom says she loves me. Oh yeah? Well _my_ mom says I’m the most handsome boy in the world. _That’s_ gotta mean a shit-ton. ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/135 "2013-04-11T04:16:14Z")
> [@Boyo\_Jim](#): > > If she’s the _only_ one who says it, it doesn’t mean much. Speak for yourself, pal. Means the world to me. ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/136 "2013-04-11T04:19:50Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Oh yeah? Well _my_ mom says I’m the most handsome boy in the world. _That’s_ gotta mean a shit-ton. I’m sure it does. ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2013, 4:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/137 "2013-04-11T04:29:45Z")
> [@rhubarbarin](#): > > As someone who has been put in a similar position as the scenario involving the woman in the OP, I figure the way I look is the only reason male strangers who I’ve never had a conversation with will offer to buy me things, compliment me and ask for my number, etc. And it irritates me that I am judged only by the way I look on these occasions. As someone who is plain at best, let me say that some male strangers will do these things to any woman who is by herself. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2013, 12:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933/138 "2013-04-15T12:34:47Z")
> [@psychobunny](#): > > I wonder what happened. Did he ever talk to her? Nah. I started dating someone about three weeks later. For the record (and I think I said this earlier), I really did not want my friend the waiter to do this, and really did not seriously consider it. I was just asking how wacky it sounded to you folks. FTR, I’ve never sent a woman a drink in a bar, either, so the meal-buying thing was way out of my comfort zone from the beginning. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/creepy-or-not-waiter-getting-someone-a-date/624933.md?page=6)