# Cristi Lamb (Persephone) R.I.P. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 4, 2004, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525 "2004-03-04T15:50:40Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 17
**Author:** ![Gazelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Gazelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gazelle)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2004, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/321 "2004-03-18T18:42:00Z")
Tim and Euty, I’m so sorry. I can’t believe this. Cristi, you are missed. ---
**Author:** ![tigereye001](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c89c15/32.png) [@tigereye001](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tigereye001)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2004, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/322 "2004-03-18T19:04:08Z")
Oh, my God, I was reading a post by her from a long-ago thread just a few minutes ago… I’m so, so sorry. Please accept my deepest sympathy. ---
**Author:** ![Guy\_Incognito](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guy_incognito/32/3920_2.png) [@Guy\_Incognito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guy_Incognito)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2004, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/323 "2004-03-19T19:50:08Z")
I didn’t know Persephone at all except as a member of this board. She was a good presence here and will be missed greatly. My prayers go out to her family, friends and, of course, Patrick. I think I’ll call my wife now to tell her that I love her… ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [March 21, 2004, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/324 "2004-03-21T16:05:49Z")
My prayers and wishes to all who were close to Cristi. ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [March 21, 2004, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/325 "2004-03-21T20:22:58Z")
What sad news. I’m sorry to hear this. (I can’t believe I have only just seen this thread) ---
**Author:** ![purrplebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/90ced4/32.png) [@purrplebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purrplebear)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2004, 6:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/326 "2004-03-22T06:25:55Z")
**Billdo** , thank you for your words, they helped me. **Eve** , thank you so much for that quote, it was a good time for me to read that. **Shirley Ujest** , that was an awesome description of **Christi** , thank you. **DantheMan** , that is a wonderful thing you are doing, copying all that. Bless you. I wanted to offer, but my pc is acting up too much. **Tim** … I have no words. I am humbled that you were able to come on here and tell us all that; share with us all you are going through. I hope to see you on here more often; not just to hear about how the kidlings are doing, but I want to hear about you, and get to know you better. You are a remarkable man. **Euty** … I have so much I want to say, but the words keep sticking in my throat, so to speak. I am here for you, any time, day or night. I have MSN messenger, Yahoo messenger, AIM, and ICQ, as well as my email address. I am proud to count you as a friend, though we have only interacted on here, and that only occasionally. You are all in my prayers, Tim, Patrick, John and Diana. Dory has it right: just keep swimming, just keep swimming… ---
**Author:** ![celestina](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/258eb7/32.png) [@celestina](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/celestina)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2004, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/327 "2004-03-23T01:27:54Z")
I’m so sorry to hear this. I didn’t know **Persephone** , but from what I saw of her on the Dope, she was a very nice person. My condolences to her family and friends. ---
**Author:** ![China\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@China\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/China_Guy)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2004, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/328 "2004-03-23T02:20:12Z")
Sending some good thoughts from this part of the world to all of Christi’s extended family and virtual family during this time of grief… ---
**Author:** ![dantheman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dantheman/32/9421_2.png) [@dantheman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dantheman)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2004, 12:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/329 "2004-03-23T12:09:08Z")
> [@purrplebear](#): > > **DantheMan** , that is a wonderful thing you are doing, copying all that. Bless you. I wanted to offer, but my pc is acting up too much. I wish I could do more. Of course, as Cristi had many, many friends, she also created many, many threads. I am considering sending them to Tim and the family in installments, rather than in one giant shipment. ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2004, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/330 "2004-03-23T19:12:30Z")
I simply cannot believe that I’ve been so busy with other things that I didn’t see this until today! This is shocking and heartbreaking news. I keep thinking of those poor babies growing up without their mommy. And poor, poor **Euty** , who seemed to have such a bright and hopeful future planned out with this wonderful woman. Her presence here will be greatly missed, but only a tiny fraction as much, I’m sure, as she will be missed by those whose lives she was a more. . .solid presence in. God, I’m screwing this up so bad. There’s nothing to say. I’m so sorry for everyones’ loss, and will be praying for God to bring comfort to all. ---
**Author:** ![China\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@China\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/China_Guy)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2004, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/331 "2004-03-24T00:45:25Z")
Just an idea for a doper with time to consider. Humbly suggest that someone might want to download all of Persephone’s posts, copy to a CD, and send to her husband for her kids. I’d bet that someday when they are old enough, her kids would really like to get to know their Mommy through what she left her on the boards. Persephone was quite active and treasured on the SDMB, and what she posted is a way for her kids to get to know her from a different perspective. ---
**Author:** ![vivalostwages](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/d07c76/32.png) [@vivalostwages](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vivalostwages)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2004, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/332 "2004-03-24T03:51:23Z")
I am very sorry. ---
**Author:** ![dantheman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dantheman/32/9421_2.png) [@dantheman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dantheman)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2004, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/333 "2004-03-24T04:18:28Z")
> [@China Guy](#): > > Just an idea for a doper with time to consider. Humbly suggest that someone might want to download all of Persephone’s posts, copy to a CD, and send to her husband for her kids. > > I’d bet that someday when they are old enough, her kids would really like to get to know their Mommy through what she left her on the boards. Persephone was quite active and treasured on the SDMB, and what she posted is a way for her kids to get to know her from a different perspective. It’s not a bad idea, but it would take a LOT of time. Cristi had 7,000 posts, and one would have to do a search and then open/save each one. If someone does have the time and inclination, that would be wonderful, of course; and if they do so and would like to send it with the printed-out threads I’m sending, I’d be happy to include it (or, certainly, he/she could send it on their own). ---
**Author:** ![liirogue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dbc845/32.png) [@liirogue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/liirogue)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2004, 4:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/334 "2004-03-24T04:27:39Z")
> [@dantheman](#): > > It’s not a bad idea, but it would take a LOT of time. Cristi had 7,000 posts, and one would have to do a search and then open/save each one. If someone does have the time and inclination, that would be wonderful, of course; and if they do so and would like to send it with the printed-out threads I’m sending, I’d be happy to include it (or, certainly, he/she could send it on their own). Maybe it could be divided up in blocks of several months? Say, Doper A takes January through March of year XXXX, Doper B takes April through June, etc. ---
**Author:** ![pestie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/e5b9ba/32.png) [@pestie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pestie)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2004, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/335 "2004-03-26T21:08:06Z")
**Persephone** was one of those users who epitomized the SDMB for me. She had been around forever, wrote great posts, and had a cool user name. It’s hard to believe she’s gone. I never even had any direct contact with her, but she touched me nonetheless. ---
**Author:** ![LolaBaby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d2c977/32.png) [@LolaBaby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LolaBaby)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2004, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/336 "2004-03-27T22:04:10Z")
i haven’t been around but I do recall her name. My deepest condolences to her loved ones. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![shijinn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cc9497/32.png) [@shijinn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shijinn)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2004, 4:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/337 "2004-03-28T04:39:39Z")
i don’t know her and i haven’t read her posts. this thread however, is enough to tell me that she must be a very nice person indeed. my condolences… ---
**Author:** ![NinetyWt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/cc9497/32.png) [@NinetyWt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinetyWt)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2004, 7:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/338 "2004-03-28T07:09:29Z")
Tim… Euty … I, like a lot of folks, was overwhelmed when I heard the news. When I think about … the relationship that Persephone had with foks… she was just … real. When she laughed, I laughed. When she cried, I cried. When she rejoiced, I rejoiced. Hmm. The hard part. When I met my now-husband, he seemed so … un-real. Like, how could anyone in this universe Ever understand me, ever connect to me … ever reach me … touch me. Forgive me for being forward, I saw that in Euty and Persephone’s relationship. I remember the first days of knowing my husband … I had to reach out, to touch him, to … hear him breathe. Lots of times we would look at one another … reach out to tap the other … “are you for real … ?” Unless I’ve figured wrong, this is what I figure Euty and Persephone had. This is really hard for me to live up to… I always told him … “if we never kiss, if we never make love … my life is better just for knowing you”. It’s hard to put my “money where my mouth is” today. I can’t bear knowing Euty is THERE right now To put myself in Euty’s shoes … he’s like we were those few first months. I can’t honestly bear the thought of not knowing Sweety like I now know him… Yes I said the words. Yes I meant them at the time. But … to have the promise of something so beautiful and so big … dashed on the rocks of fate… If I could take your pain, I gladly would. Better that I go through a thousand lashes or torment… then for fate to take a shining glorious thing and kill it. Better for me to hurt than for you to. Death is our Big Fear. I’m not, personally, afraid of Death. But I worry about what Death will do to my family. My stepchildren witnessed the death of their mother last fall. The fallout from that will be several years in the assuaging. That’s what Tim is facing. Guess I’m up late, and drinking too much … suffice it to say that, I’m hurting so because you two beautiful men are hurting so … you guys are in my thoughts and prayers. I’m not afraid to say, I love y’all … my thoughts go to you … heck I can’t see thru the tears … \*May the road rise up to meet you May the wind be always at your back May the sun shine warm upon your face May the rain fall soft on your fields And until we meet again … until we meet again … May God hold you in the palm of his hand… Until we meet again.\* ---
**Author:** ![t-keela](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a3d4f5/32.png) [@t-keela](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/t-keela)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2004, 7:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/339 "2004-03-29T07:55:39Z")
☹ Too sad for mere words. **Cristi** was apparently well loved by everyone here. People whose lives she touched (mine included) and I would venture, many more folks not present here. She is forever alive within all of us and in the words written by her to us. This “simple message board” is a community for many of us here. It also has a value which is painfully clear to me now. The words, the wisdom, the love expressed at this site must be preserved for **her** sake and our own. I will go back and read some of the threads Cristi took part in. I do this with many of you as we become acquainted. The SDMB is (at least IMHO) an invaluable record of humanity that we should cherish. Can this be done? **Euty** what can I say…you are not alone. We love you and feel the pain. If we could only ease some of it for you, God knows we would. **Tim** Jesus, I can’t imagine… I pray you are okay and the kids will be. For some reason I keep thinking of the old saying which begins, _I cried because I had no shoes…_ I am humbled. take care, t-k ---
**Author:** ![raz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/9f8e36/32.png) [@raz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raz)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2004, 1:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525/340 "2004-03-31T13:11:11Z")
My deepest sympathies to all who knew and loved her. I did not know her IRL but I know that the boards won’t be the same without her. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525.md?page=16) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/cristi-lamb-persephone-r-i-p/232525.md?page=18)