# Dad is dying. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 12, 2015, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-dying/730773 "2015-09-12T03:50:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Helena330](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/helena330/32/531_2.png) [@Helena330](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena330)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2015, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-dying/730773/21 "2015-09-12T22:51:55Z")
I went through this with my grandmother. I’m so sorry that you lost your dad, but I’m glad that he wasn’t in pain when he died, and that you were with him. Hugs. I’m thinking about you and your dad as well, **beowulff**. I’m sorry you both have to go through this. About not knowing what to say: most of the time it’s not what anyone says, but that they cared enough to say it. Even if you think it’s stupid, say something. A simple “I’m sorry” shows that you care. ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2015, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-dying/730773/22 "2015-09-12T23:13:42Z")
I lost my father in January of 2014. His death was not easy. You have my sympathy here for all that is coming. Steel yourself. ---
**Author:** ![brachyrhynchos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/brachyrhynchos/32/376_2.png) [@brachyrhynchos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brachyrhynchos)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2015, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-dying/730773/23 "2015-09-12T23:15:00Z")
> [@StGermain](#): > > My condolences, **Archeonomist**. Those of us who have lost a loved one through a long illness can certainly sympathize. Take time for yourself, you need it. It’s not only your father who went through this, you did, too. > > StG This is so true. You have my complete sympathies. ---
**Author:** ![Honey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honey/32/5074_2.png) [@Honey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honey)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2015, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-dying/730773/24 "2015-09-13T01:02:53Z")
I’m so glad for you that he got those pain free days, and was able to communicate with his loved ones before the end. I’m so very sorry that you’ve lost your dad though. ---
**Author:** ![Lacunae\_Matata](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@Lacunae\_Matata](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lacunae_Matata)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2015, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-dying/730773/25 "2015-09-13T06:50:06Z")
Echoing **Honey** , I’m glad for his sake and yours that he was able to communicate, that you were there, and mostly that he had pain relief at the end. Take care of yourself. Be gentle with yourself. Your grief is yours to express as you will, and I’m sorry that you are facing this. Wishing you peace. ---
**Author:** ![Whatever4](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@Whatever4](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Whatever4)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2015, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-dying/730773/26 "2015-09-13T23:14:23Z")
My condolences. I was with my dad when he died. He was 54; I was 15. I remember how guilty I felt for the relief I felt when his cancer struggle was over. I still think of and miss my dad every day. You will get through all this; just don’t try to rush the process. hugs ---
**Author:** ![Archeonomist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/7cd45c/32.png) [@Archeonomist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Archeonomist)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-dying/730773/27 "2015-09-14T00:01:53Z")
Thank you all again for taking the time to post those kind words and advice. I really appreciate it. The funeral will probably be on Friday. We spoke with the funeral agent today. He was happy to come around on a Sunday afternoon - family friend after all. He will take care of most of the things, we just have to pick music, flowers, casket and such. We’ll meet the priest later this week. I don’t look forward to it, but it’s one of those things you just have to go through. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-dying/730773.md?page=1)