# Dad is gone :( **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 2, 2013, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956 "2013-06-02T16:20:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![MacTech](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c0e974/32.png) [@MacTech](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MacTech)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/1 "2013-06-02T16:20:20Z")
Too hard to type right now, details later, 85 years old, last 2 years were hard due to complications from advanced chronic Lyme disease that went undiagnosed for two years, and misdiagnosed as “mild Parkinson’s” Miss ya, Dad, thanks for everything Since I’m an Athiest, I can see him on an honored journey to Sto-Vo-Kor, or Valhalla ---
**Author:** ![moldmonkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ee59a6/32.png) [@moldmonkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moldmonkey)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/2 "2013-06-02T16:41:27Z")
My condolences. I know what a kick in the gut that is. It will get easier. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/3 "2013-06-02T16:42:01Z")
Well, that sucks. I’m very sorry for your loss. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![OttoDaFe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ottodafe/32/356_2.png) [@OttoDaFe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OttoDaFe)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/4 "2013-06-02T16:44:37Z")
It’s been almost exactly twelve years since my father left (in his case, at 89). Like yours, his last few years were very difficult due to a degenerative muscular syndrome. I think of him frequently, and when I do, [this](http://www.poetryloverspage.com/poets/kipling/to_wolcott_balestier.html) (with a one word substitution) usually comes to mind. While it is religiously themed at heart, there may be enough other references to give you something to reflect on, and perhaps take comfort from. Pax. ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/5 "2013-06-02T17:01:17Z")
I lost my dad two years ago. The pain and loss is intense but day by day it gets easier to cope. Best wishes to you. ---
**Author:** ![MacTech](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c0e974/32.png) [@MacTech](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MacTech)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 5:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/6 "2013-06-02T17:14:00Z")
Please don’t take this the wrong way, I’m going to be blunt here “God” is not welcome in this thread, keep any and all _religious_ drivel out of this thread, any other thoughts of sympathy and comfort are welcome, but “god” is not welcome in this thread Seeing what dad had to go through, TEN MONTHS of incompetent, criminally negligent “care” from Big Medical, well, lets just say that if I wasn’t an Athiest already, this experience would have made me one There is no god, god does not exist, keep religious drivel out of this thread I’ll detail what Dad went through over his ten miserable months when I have had time to sit down and think, collect my thoughts and get them typed out ---
**Author:** ![DigitalC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ebca7d/32.png) [@DigitalC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DigitalC)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/7 "2013-06-02T17:15:47Z")
Sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a88e4f/32.png) [@Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Digital_is_the_new_Analog)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/8 "2013-06-02T17:22:00Z")
My condolences, **MacTech**. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![nonacetone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nonacetone/32/2819_2.png) [@nonacetone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nonacetone)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/9 "2013-06-02T17:22:37Z")
I’m sorry. I send you my most sincere condolences. ---
**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 6:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/10 "2013-06-02T18:52:48Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. Come back and talk it out when you can. ---
**Author:** ![InternetLegend](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/internetlegend/32/13154_2.png) [@InternetLegend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InternetLegend)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/11 "2013-06-02T21:40:44Z")
It does get easier with time, but losing a parent is always going to hurt. My mother and mother-in-law both died three years ago, three months apart, and my husband and I still miss them every day. With time, it does get easier to remember better times rather than the circumstances around their deaths. Please accept my condolences for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Pai325](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c68b51/32.png) [@Pai325](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pai325)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/12 "2013-06-02T23:22:56Z")
My parents died in 1974 and 1978, and I think of them every day. The pain isn’t as sharp as it was, but it’s still there. I’m sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![scareyfaerie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scareyfaerie/32/3135_2.png) [@scareyfaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scareyfaerie)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2013, 9:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/13 "2013-06-03T09:10:07Z")
My condolences, I’m so sorry for your loss especially under such circumstances ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Antigen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/848f3c/32.png) [@Antigen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antigen)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2013, 10:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/14 "2013-06-03T10:53:57Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss, and so sorry that the misdiagnosis made it that much harder. I hope you’ve got family and friends around to help you through, but you’ve always got us Dopers if you need us. ---
**Author:** ![6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/e19adc/32.png) [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2013, 11:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/15 "2013-06-03T11:09:53Z")
I’m so very, very sorry, **MacTech**. Take care. ---
**Author:** ![Machine\_Elf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/82dd89/32.png) [@Machine\_Elf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Machine_Elf)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2013, 11:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/16 "2013-06-03T11:50:48Z")
Sucks, **MacTech**. It’s the normal order of things that a person’s parents die before they do, but that doesn’t make it any easier. If he made it to 85 years that’s a pretty good run, even if the last two were difficult; I’m glad you got that much time with him. ---
**Author:** ![Sailboat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sailboat/32/461_2.png) [@Sailboat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sailboat)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2013, 11:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/17 "2013-06-03T11:58:16Z")
Sorry, man. ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2013, 11:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/18 "2013-06-03T11:59:31Z")
**MacTech** I’m so sorry for your loss. You, your family and your dad are in my thoughts. Losing a parent is always tough no matter how old you are or how old the parent is at the time of his/her death. I lost my father nine years ago and still miss him terribly. ---
**Author:** ![leftfield6](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leftfield6/32/18780_2.png) [@leftfield6](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/leftfield6)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2013, 12:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/19 "2013-06-03T12:33:57Z")
Sorry, man. That sucks. My dad is on borrowed time at 96. I’ll be dealing with this soon. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2013, 1:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956/20 "2013-06-03T13:30:19Z")
Losing my father was the worst day in my life. My condolences to you **MacTech**. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dad-is-gone/659956.md?page=2)