# Dad's dead. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 12, 2014, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dads-dead/698257 "2014-09-12T03:32:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 16\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dads-dead/698257/1 "2014-09-12T03:32:57Z")
Bye dad. You died last night just after midnight, in case you didn’t know. You did a pretty good job at life, especially given what you started with. You were always disappointed with me, I know. I can’t help that, and I think it was a bit unfair of you. But you couldn’t help your feelings could you? I’m not a fighter. Not a sportsman. Never liked football like you did. I liked ‘girly’ sports like gymnastics, and I couldn’t stand to watch any sports. We were quite different in many ways. So we were distant. I learned that we could be civil to eachother if we kept our distance. The last few years were nicer. Bye. ---
**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dads-dead/698257/2 "2014-09-12T03:38:34Z")
I’m sorry for your loss, **Isamu**. No matter how strained the relationship is, it’s always hard to lose a parent. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dads-dead/698257/3 "2014-09-12T03:42:11Z")
RIP **Isamu-dad**. I am sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Pai325](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c68b51/32.png) [@Pai325](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pai325)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 5:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dads-dead/698257/4 "2014-09-12T05:50:55Z")
I’m sorry, Isamu. ---
**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 5:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dads-dead/698257/5 "2014-09-12T05:59:54Z")
Sorry Isamu. It’s strange to lose a parent who was always disappointed in you - even when you had made peace with that and stopped trying to please someone whose expectations you could never live up to. Their death just drives home how sad the whole thing is/was. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 6:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dads-dead/698257/6 "2014-09-12T06:59:43Z")
So sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![usedtobe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ec9cab/32.png) [@usedtobe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/usedtobe)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 8:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dads-dead/698257/7 "2014-09-12T08:08:01Z")
My dad made it easy to say “The bastard’s dead”. (Mother was a different story). You, on the other hand, still cared. Another normal person. Sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Tremblay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e56c9b/32.png) [@Tremblay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tremblay)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 1:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dads-dead/698257/8 "2014-09-12T13:32:36Z")
Despite the circumstances, I’m sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![GrumpyBunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bc8723/32.png) [@GrumpyBunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrumpyBunny)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 1:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dads-dead/698257/9 "2014-09-12T13:45:55Z")
I’m sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is so hard. ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 2:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dads-dead/698257/10 "2014-09-12T14:23:18Z")
I’m sorry, Isamu. For both losses. ---
**Author:** ![swampspruce](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampspruce/32/261_2.png) [@swampspruce](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampspruce)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dads-dead/698257/11 "2014-09-12T14:53:31Z")
My condolences. It’s never easy to see someone go. ---
**Author:** ![Prof.Pepperwinkle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/prof.pepperwinkle/32/13627_2.png) [@Prof.Pepperwinkle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Prof.Pepperwinkle)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 2:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dads-dead/698257/12 "2014-09-12T14:58:32Z")
My condolences. ---
**Author:** ![gwendee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/35a633/32.png) [@gwendee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gwendee)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dads-dead/698257/13 "2014-09-12T15:09:34Z")
I am sorry for your loss. Whatever your relationship was, and however his death affects you people are here to read anything you’d like to share. Take care of yourself. ---
**Author:** ![pancakes3](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ba9def/32.png) [@pancakes3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pancakes3)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dads-dead/698257/14 "2014-09-12T15:51:43Z")
Sorry, man. ---
**Author:** ![Whatever4](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@Whatever4](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Whatever4)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dads-dead/698257/15 "2014-09-12T16:42:53Z")
Had a similar relationship with my mom. When she died, I didn’t so much miss her as I did what I’d lost out on all my life. My sympathies. ---
**Author:** ![Si\_Amigo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/si_amigo/32/2877_2.png) [@Si\_Amigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Si_Amigo)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2014, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dads-dead/698257/16 "2014-09-12T17:38:09Z")
I had a similar relationship with my dad and feel for you. Sorry for your loss.