# Damit don't have unprotected sex if you know you have Herpes!!! **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [June 2, 2005, 7:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520 "2005-06-02T07:50:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 10
**Author:** ![splatterpunk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3be4f8/32.png) [@splatterpunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/splatterpunk)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/181 "2015-04-24T03:10:54Z")
> [@DrDeth](#): > > The modes and likelyhood mean nothing when the question is “what % of the ove- all population has _one form or the other_?” That was the question, and that’s what I answered. And, I didn’t ignore “the oral/genital herpes overlap” as here is my qords “So- that’s up to 80% has Herpes I, and 20% has Herpes II. _Of course, there’s overlap,_ but still, that qualifies as “most” in anyones book.”. Even if the overlap is 90%, it’s still “most”. > > And do note my quote “# Most people contract oral herpes when they are children by receiving a kiss from a friend or relative.” > > You just don’t read other dudes posts do you? Jesus fuck. Even ten years ago you were an ignorant bloviating shitbag. You should be given the Lifetime Achievement Award for most hurrs ever durred on a message board. ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/182 "2015-04-24T04:02:20Z")
> [@Indistinguishable](#): > > Sympathetically, I will offer this point: having herpes is a bummer, but it does not make you unwantable. You needn’t stay in your relationship just because you think it would be impossible for anyone else to ever be interested in you. I agree. Talk to your doctor about managing the virus and do what you need to for yourself in a relationship. ---
**Author:** ![splatterpunk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3be4f8/32.png) [@splatterpunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/splatterpunk)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 4:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/183 "2015-04-24T04:38:58Z")
What’s the point? As the good Dr pointed out, most dudes already have it. ---
**Author:** ![Wile\_E](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c37758/32.png) [@Wile\_E](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wile_E)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 5:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/184 "2015-04-24T05:09:29Z")
Aw. A zombie thread about herpes kinda made me miss Diogenes again. ---
**Author:** ![usar\_jag](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/f0a364/32.png) [@usar\_jag](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/usar_jag)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 9:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/185 "2015-04-24T09:55:38Z")
> [@Wile\_E](#): > > Aw. A zombie thread about herpes kinda made me miss Diogenes again. I was thinking the same thing. ---
**Author:** ![BigAppleBucky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigapplebucky/32/178_2.png) [@BigAppleBucky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigAppleBucky)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 11:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/186 "2015-04-24T11:06:32Z")
> [@kidchameleon](#): > > Ask her if she’d feel fine if one of the guys had AIDS and wasn’t telling her. New to this old thread, but this sentiment has to be the thread winner. ---
**Author:** ![Jackmannii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackmannii/32/311_2.png) [@Jackmannii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackmannii)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 12:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/187 "2015-04-24T12:03:53Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > Makes me all damn warm and fuzzy That’s not herpes - it’s fungus. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![GrumpyBunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bc8723/32.png) [@GrumpyBunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrumpyBunny)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 12:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/188 "2015-04-24T12:14:15Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > Yeah, threads like this reappear from time to time. There’s no medication to keep herpes threads from recuring. ---
**Author:** ![bienville](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4bbf92/32.png) [@bienville](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bienville)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/189 "2015-04-24T13:10:28Z")
> [@andros](#): > > I stand by everything **Jackmannii** said 10 years ago. Don’t stand too close- **phouka** says herpes can be transmitted by simple skin to skin contact. > [@Indistinguishable](#): > > Sympathetically > [@Indistinguishable](#): > > (Or is the word “empathetically”? Are you saying you find the words indistinguishable? > [@Indistinguishable](#): > > I can never get them straight. This is not true. Straight sex certainly involves a risk of exposure. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/190 "2015-04-24T13:36:16Z")
> [@Jackmannii](#): > > That’s not herpes - it’s fungus. :eek: I always suspected you were a fun guy. ---
**Author:** ![Sparky812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eb9ed0/32.png) [@Sparky812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sparky812)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/191 "2015-04-24T15:06:25Z")
Maybe it was a fatal case of Herpes and they’ve come back! > [@kidchameleon](#): > > Ask her if she’d feel fine if one of the guys had AIDS and wasn’t telling her. > [@BigAppleBucky](#): > > New to this old thread, but this sentiment has to be the thread winner. Yes, shocking… even as far back as 2005, they still believed you could actually catch AIDS. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/192 "2015-04-24T15:37:26Z")
… you do understand that people with AIDS transmit HIV during bodily fluid exchange, right? ---
**Author:** ![Fallen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e99b99/32.png) [@Fallen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fallen)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/193 "2015-04-24T16:01:51Z")
> [@johnpost](#): > > zombie or no > > a condom would have helped you. Well, it helps, but it is no guarantee whatsoever. As for zombie poster, I’m not sure what the point of her/his post, but even basic research on topic is that people can have it and not recognize that they do. (This can of course sometimes involve willful ignorance or active disregard (a/k/a lying to oneself), but it can also be that their system reacted more efficiently than average person’s. Bottom line is that one must account for the possibility of contracting it and other STDs at any time if one is sexually active, whether or not one believes his/her only sexual contact (directly or indirectly) is with one other person on the planet. (As we know, if you fiddle with someone (in any number of ways), you are in effect in sexual contact with everyone they’ve fiddled with, and everyone those folks have fiddled with…) ---
**Author:** ![Darth\_Panda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ee7513/32.png) [@Darth\_Panda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darth_Panda)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/194 "2015-04-24T16:15:07Z")
> [@Fallen](#): > > (As we know, if you fiddle with someone (in any number of ways), you are in effect in sexual contact with everyone they’ve fiddled with, and everyone those folks have fiddled with…) So, you’re saying we’ve all banged Kevin Bacon? ---
**Author:** ![Doug\_K](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b5ac83/32.png) [@Doug\_K](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doug_K)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/195 "2015-04-24T16:46:45Z")
> [@Darth\_Panda](#): > > So, you’re saying we’ve all banged Kevin Bacon? Would that even be kosher? ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 5:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/196 "2015-04-24T17:24:45Z")
> [@Fallen](#): > > (As we know, if you fiddle with someone (in any number of ways), you are in effect in sexual contact with everyone they’ve fiddled with, and everyone those folks have fiddled with…) This is why I only have sex with sheep. ---
**Author:** ![Your\_Great\_Darsh\_Face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ac8455/32.png) [@Your\_Great\_Darsh\_Face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Your_Great_Darsh_Face)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2015, 12:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/197 "2015-04-25T12:12:16Z")
> [@Darth\_Panda](#): > > So, you’re saying we’ve all banged Kevin Bacon? I thought I had a rash, but I see what I actually have is a rasher. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Nylock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/77aa72/32.png) [@Mr.Nylock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Nylock)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2015, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/198 "2015-04-25T16:34:25Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > Yeah, threads like this reappear from time to time. You never know quite when it will happen though. ---
**Author:** ![susan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/susan/32/17537_2.png) [@susan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/susan)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2015, 5:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/199 "2015-04-25T17:21:40Z")
It’s when the thread title tingles that I whip out the acyclovir. ---
**Author:** ![GrumpyBunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bc8723/32.png) [@GrumpyBunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrumpyBunny)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2015, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/200 "2015-04-26T03:42:48Z")
> [@susan](#): > > It’s when the thread title tingles that I whip out the acyclovir. It’s ineffective on recurring herpetic threads. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520.md?page=9) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520.md?page=11)