# Damit don't have unprotected sex if you know you have Herpes!!! **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [June 2, 2005, 7:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520 "2005-06-02T07:50:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 9
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2005, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/161 "2005-06-06T16:25:09Z")
> [@Jackmannii](#): > > Apart from your having adopted the upper end of the 50-80% estimate and ignored the oral/genital herpes overlap, you still misunderstand or are in denial about modes and likelihood of genital herpes infection. > > . The modes and likelyhood mean nothing when the question is “what % of the ove- all population has _one form or the other_?” That was the question, and that’s what I answered. And, I didn’t ignore “the oral/genital herpes overlap” as here is my qords “So- that’s up to 80% has Herpes I, and 20% has Herpes II. _Of course, there’s overlap,_ but still, that qualifies as “most” in anyones book.”. Even if the overlap is 90%, it’s still “most”. And do note my quote “# Most people contract oral herpes when they are children by receiving a kiss from a friend or relative.” You just don’t read other dudes posts do you? ---
**Author:** ![seschoville](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@seschoville](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/seschoville)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2015, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/162 "2015-04-23T18:04:39Z")
I have herpes and the guy tht gave me it says he dnt have it but I no he does bc I only slept w him in 5 yrs so I get emotional about it bc I want out of our relationship but who is ever guna want me? ---
**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2015, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/163 "2015-04-23T18:22:28Z")
Ten year old zombie thread. Wow. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2015, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/164 "2015-04-23T18:30:29Z")
Yeah, threads like this reappear from time to time. ---
**Author:** ![Kinthalis](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kinthalis/32/16084_2.png) [@Kinthalis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kinthalis)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2015, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/165 "2015-04-23T18:40:19Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > Yeah, threads like this reappear from time to time. Water. All over. My keyboard! ---
**Author:** ![johnpost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f17d59/32.png) [@johnpost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnpost)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2015, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/166 "2015-04-23T19:17:37Z")
zombie or no a condom would have helped you. ---
**Author:** ![Kimballkid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b5a626/32.png) [@Kimballkid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimballkid)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2015, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/167 "2015-04-23T19:35:38Z")
Do zombie herpes go after the braaaains? ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2015, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/168 "2015-04-23T19:55:20Z")
I know it’s a zombie but while I agree with what the OP said, it’s unlikely anyone is going to change their behavior the way he wishes. If somebody wasn’t responsible enough to use a condom before they caught herpes, why would they start using one after they caught herpes? At that point, they’ve already suffered the consequences of being irresponsible - using a condom now won’t undo the herpes. And anyone who wasn’t concerned about protecting themselves isn’t going to worry too much about protecting other people. ---
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2015, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/169 "2015-04-23T20:02:07Z")
You know the one I can’t understand? IV drug users that share syringes, what in the FOOK?! There are websites online that sell hundred packs for cheap, they ask for no info except your CC#. And any pharmacist that has ever denied someone syringes thinking they were doing good should be prosecuted, imagine if they asked for a marriage cert before selling condoms. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2015, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/170 "2015-04-23T21:13:01Z")
> [@Kinthalis](#): > > Water. All over. My keyboard! _bows_ ---
**Author:** ![bobot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bobot/32/21622_2.png) [@bobot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobot)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2015, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/171 "2015-04-23T21:56:12Z")
> [@seschoville](#): > > I have herpes and the guy tht gave me it says he dnt have it but I no he does bc I only slept w him in 5 yrs so I get emotional about it bc I want out of our relationship but who is ever guna want me? How do you decide which words to shorten, and which to spell completely? I’m a grammar nut, but not a scholar, that’s why I always use an apostrophe when I write the word “ain’t”. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2015, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/172 "2015-04-23T22:00:52Z")
> [@grude](#): > > You know the one I can’t understand? IV drug users that share syringes, what in the FOOK?! > > There are websites online that sell hundred packs for cheap, they ask for no info except your CC#. > > And any pharmacist that has ever denied someone syringes thinking they were doing good should be prosecuted, imagine if they asked for a marriage cert before selling condoms. IV drug users who have credit cards probably do not share needles. It’s the ten heroin addicts living in a tiny apartment in the crackhead part of town who share needles. ---
**Author:** ![Jackmannii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackmannii/32/311_2.png) [@Jackmannii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackmannii)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2015, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/173 "2015-04-23T22:00:58Z")
i stand by everything I said 10 years ago, whatever that was. This time out, I thought the thread title was “Dems don’t have unprotected sex if you know you have Herpes!!!” Guess I’m already suffering from election overload. Sigh. ---
**Author:** ![phouka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c5a1d2/32.png) [@phouka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phouka)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2015, 11:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/174 "2015-04-23T23:46:39Z")
> [@johnpost](#): > > zombie or no > > a condom would have helped you. And here I am, living proof that requiring your partner wear a condom does not prevent the transmission of herpes simplex virus. Decrease your odds of getting it? Sure. However, unlike HIV, HSV can be passed by simple skin to skin contact, no bodily fluids necessary. So judging after the fact? Not so much with the helpful, sir. ---
**Author:** ![andros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e480ec/32.png) [@andros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andros)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/175 "2015-04-24T00:40:58Z")
I stand by everything **Jackmannii** said 10 years ago. ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/176 "2015-04-24T00:44:03Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > Yeah, threads like this reappear from time to time. The thread that keeps on giving 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Indistinguishable](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/90ced4/32.png) [@Indistinguishable](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indistinguishable)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 12:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/177 "2015-04-24T00:49:27Z")
> [@seschoville](#): > > I have herpes and the guy tht gave me it says he dnt have it but I no he does bc I only slept w him in 5 yrs so I get emotional about it bc I want out of our relationship but who is ever guna want me? Sympathetically, I will offer this point: having herpes is a bummer, but it does not make you unwantable. You needn’t stay in your relationship just because you think it would be impossible for anyone else to ever be interested in you. ---
**Author:** ![Indistinguishable](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/90ced4/32.png) [@Indistinguishable](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indistinguishable)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/178 "2015-04-24T01:25:45Z")
> [@Indistinguishable](#): > > Sympathetically (Or is the word “empathetically”? I can never get them straight. Anyway, I meant “kindly”; I’m afraid I’m not speaking from personal experience. But again, my sense of the world is that herpes is not nearly the sentence to a life of loneliness and categorical rejection that you are worried it is.) ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/179 "2015-04-24T01:57:03Z")
> [@Jackmannii](#): > > i stand by everything I said 10 years ago, whatever that was. > > This time out, I thought the thread title was “Dems don’t have unprotected sex if you know you have Herpes!!!” > > Guess I’m already suffering from election overload. Sigh. Makes me all damn warm and fuzzy to find that we once agreed on something. 😉 (Still don’t have herpes.) ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2015, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520/180 "2015-04-24T02:20:47Z")
> [@grude](#): > > You know the one I can’t understand? IV drug users that share syringes, what in the FOOK?! Maybe if you shot up some heroin, you’d be able to understand better. I say do it! In the name of ignorance! > [@seschoville](#): > > I have herpes and the guy tht gave me it says he dnt have it but I no he does bc I only slept w him in 5 yrs so I get emotional about it bc I want out of our relationship but **who is ever guna want me**? No one, that’s who. You might as well join a nunnery, but even they might keep their distance. /ridiculous sarcasm [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520.md?page=8) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/damit-dont-have-unprotected-sex-if-you-know-you-have-herpes/306520.md?page=10)