# Dammit, do you want to go out with me or what?!! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 15, 2000, 4:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-do-you-want-to-go-out-with-me-or-what/45755 "2000-12-15T16:23:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2000, 3:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-do-you-want-to-go-out-with-me-or-what/45755/21 "2000-12-19T15:49:59Z")
Excellent! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![douglips](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@douglips](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/douglips)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2000, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-do-you-want-to-go-out-with-me-or-what/45755/22 "2000-12-19T17:07:34Z")
OK, but when _ **this** _ date falls through, give up on her. Just kidding - sort of. Good luck! ---
**Author:** ![SuaSponte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/67e7ee/32.png) [@SuaSponte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuaSponte)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2000, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-do-you-want-to-go-out-with-me-or-what/45755/23 "2000-12-19T20:44:30Z")
I didn’t cut myself shaving. I didn’t break out anywhere. I’m not, er, um, gassy. Therefore, I should have been forewarned that this date wasn’t going to happen. She cancelled with the flu. Sua ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2000, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-do-you-want-to-go-out-with-me-or-what/45755/24 "2000-12-19T20:56:13Z")
Sua, m’friend, being the sort that gets jerked around a lot, this is looking pretty familiar to me. I think ($.02) that she’s playing with your head. But don’t worry…I could be way off here. ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2000, 11:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-do-you-want-to-go-out-with-me-or-what/45755/25 "2000-12-19T23:36:23Z")
That absolutely bites. Sorry, **Sua**. ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2000, 2:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-do-you-want-to-go-out-with-me-or-what/45755/26 "2000-12-20T14:15:43Z")
Did I get the timing right? you posted in the am that you were going out, then several hours later she cancelled again?? or were you late about posting it??? what a twit. I am embarrassed on her behalf. Ya want I should talk to Guido or something? ---
**Author:** ![Falcon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/49beb7/32.png) [@Falcon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Falcon)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2000, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-do-you-want-to-go-out-with-me-or-what/45755/27 "2000-12-20T15:28:35Z")
Sua - I’ll now buy you TWO beers whenever you get yer ass down here to DC. Got it? _hugs_ ---
**Author:** ![MissBHaven](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/missbhaven/32/7170_2.png) [@MissBHaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MissBHaven)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2000, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-do-you-want-to-go-out-with-me-or-what/45755/28 "2000-12-20T15:35:20Z")
I’ll match the two beers and raise you a shot of tequila if you come to St. Louis. 😉 Sorry about the date but I think you deserve better! ---
**Author:** ![Tommy\_the\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@Tommy\_the\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tommy_the_Cat)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2000, 3:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-do-you-want-to-go-out-with-me-or-what/45755/29 "2000-12-20T15:43:38Z")
Sorry man. That really sucks. I went through the same kind of thing a while back. My advice, take the high road. Don’t try to get back at her, be polite and conversational (if it is called for), but don’t respond to any flirting. If she should say something about going out again, just say thanks but no thanks. Just my $0.02. You’ll find the one for you. She’s out there. It’ll all be worth it when you do. Good luck. ---
**Author:** ![sgl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8edcca/32.png) [@sgl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sgl)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2000, 5:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-do-you-want-to-go-out-with-me-or-what/45755/30 "2000-12-20T17:32:18Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Tommy the Cat \* > \*\*Sorry man. That really sucks. I went through the same kind of thing a while back. My advice, take the high road. Don’t try to get back at her, be polite and conversational (if it is called for), but don’t respond to any flirting. If she should say something about going out again, just say thanks but no thanks. \*\* I agree, but suggest that if you are really interested in this girl, don’t totally close the doors on going out with her. Just use the above strategy for awhile and see if it will make her want to go out with you EVEN MORE. Often times showing no interest in somone will make that someone want you more. If it does, then you may get a REAL date out of her and then learn more about her, if not, you still aren’t out anything. ---
**Author:** ![douglips](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@douglips](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/douglips)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2000, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-do-you-want-to-go-out-with-me-or-what/45755/31 "2000-12-20T18:58:29Z")
In the meantime, go get you some lovin! Do something. Never studied a martial art? Check out the aikido-dojo down the street. Try rock-climbing in the local gym, or go shopping in a book store. The babes are out there, you just have to avail yourself of them. Once you get a couple of phone numbers, Li’l Miss Thang will be unable to resist you, but it will be too late as you’ll be up to your neck in bodacious babes who don’t cancel on you. So there. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2000, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-do-you-want-to-go-out-with-me-or-what/45755/32 "2000-12-20T19:39:07Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by sgl \* > I agree, but suggest that if you are really interested in this girl, don’t totally close the doors on going out with her. Just use the above strategy for awhile and see if it will make her want to go out with you EVEN MORE. Often times showing no interest in somone will make that someone want you more. If it does, then you may get a REAL date out of her and then learn more about her, if not, you still aren’t out anything. So you’re suggesting that Sua play the kind of games with this woman that she is playing with him? Great. That sounds like the start of a real honest and mutually fulfilling relationship. :rolleyes: I think this experience is showing him that she’s not worth the effort. C’mon, **Sua** , you cutie! We’ll find you a real nice girl on Jan. 6! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-do-you-want-to-go-out-with-me-or-what/45755.md?page=1)