# Dammit!! If ya' don't want me starring at your boobs; don't put glitter on them!! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 24, 2006, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689 "2006-03-24T05:00:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Tripler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripler/32/21807_2.png) [@Tripler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tripler)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/41 "2006-03-24T15:47:56Z")
You know, it slipped my mind with my first post. Now, I feel it incumbent that I must protest the lack of pictures in this thread. Purely for factual evidence, of course. . . Tripler Seriously. It’s purely for evidentiary value. ---
**Author:** ![DianaG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ab992/32.png) [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 4:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/42 "2006-03-24T16:09:42Z")
[QUOTE=Tripler] You know, it slipped my mind with my first post. Now, I feel it incumbent that I must protest the lack of pictures in this thread. Purely for factual evidence, of course. . . Tripler Seriously. It’s purely for evidentiary value. [/QUOTE] [Here you go!](http://www.diariodenavarra.es/actualidad/20060317/fotos/2006031719552298_300.jpg) ---
**Author:** ![D\_Odds](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/d_odds/32/2882_2.png) [@D\_Odds](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D_Odds)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 4:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/43 "2006-03-24T16:13:17Z")
That’s just…wrong! :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Gangster\_Octopus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a8b319/32.png) [@Gangster\_Octopus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gangster_Octopus)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/44 "2006-03-24T16:17:38Z")
Hey SHAKES, what was her tone? I mean was it kind of “Hey SHAKES, my eyes are up here (you goofball _girlish giggle_)” or was it "Hey SHAKES, my eyes are up here (you fucking asshole _lasers from eyes_)? ---
**Author:** ![The\_Weird\_One](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@The\_Weird\_One](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Weird_One)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/45 "2006-03-24T16:20:02Z")
Reminds me of a story my high school boyfriend told me. He was talking to another girl in the hallway, and she was well-endowed and wearing a shirt with lots of writing across the chest. He was trying to read what it said, and she got insulted because he was staring at her boobs. :smack: I seem to’ve been born without the ability to notice when someone’s staring at my boobs. Maybe I just don’t make eye contact enough - maintaining contstant eye contact feels like a threatening gesture to me, but if I don’t keep looking at their eyes, how can I tell when they stray? So go ahead guys, stare all you want, I’m completely oblivious. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Weird\_One](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@The\_Weird\_One](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Weird_One)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/46 "2006-03-24T16:22:16Z")
[QUOTE=DianaG] [Here you go!](http://www.diariodenavarra.es/actualidad/20060317/fotos/2006031719552298_300.jpg) [/QUOTE] Oog. You, ah, I hope you’re getting that taken care of. Oog. ---
**Author:** ![Binarydrone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3da27b/32.png) [@Binarydrone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Binarydrone)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/47 "2006-03-24T16:29:59Z")
[QUOTE=picunurse] So, what you are all saying is that women must wear approved clothing if they don’t want to be objectified? I’m well past the age of oogling, but I was once quite ooglable. No matter how I dressed, I expected to be treated with respect. Is there a difference between this and blaming a rape victim because she was dressed provocatively? Grow up, boys, and look the girl in the eye! [/QUOTE] I am sorry, but this strikes me as one of those “I am woman, hear me roar” sophomore in college and just discovering my Yoni power arguments. Are we seriously equating men looking at tits that have obviously been put on display with rape? WTF? No one is trying to force women (should I say womyn?) to wear “approved” clothing. We are just saying that men like to look at tits and if you put them out there we are going to look at them. Really, it is a logical consequence of how you choose to display them. Sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/48 "2006-03-24T16:39:30Z")
[QUOTE=DianaG] No, I mean that it minimizes my 340 lb frame, and hides the enormous Basketcase-like tumor on my left side. Still hot, boys? 😃 [/quote] 340lb? In that case I’m probably oblivious to whether or not you have boobs. Feel happier? 😛 > [@](#): > > **Dangerosa** , I agree with everything you said. If I’m showing loads of sparkly cleavage, of \*course \* I expect people to look. But there are plenty of guys who’ll talk to your chest if you’re wearing anything other than a parka. The fact is, what would be a modest V neck on a B-cup is going to be just a bit cleavagy (and I do mean a bit, not a full on tittie show) on a D cup. Does that mean I should restrict myself to crewnecks? Hell no. No, just get something that fits the figure you’ve got, not the one you wish you had. 😛 [sup]3[/sup] ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/49 "2006-03-24T16:46:33Z")
[QUOTE=DianaG] Seriously, though. It’s okay to look. It’s not okay to talk to my chest. Can we all agree that there’s a difference between appreciative glances and treating me as though I am an inconsequential appendage to my own breasts? [/QUOTE] I second, or third this. This is what it comes down to, really. ---
**Author:** ![Plynck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Plynck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Plynck)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/50 "2006-03-24T17:23:23Z")
[QUOTE=TokyoPlayer] I saw a special on boob surgery and the bar tender said her tips were directly proportional to the amount of tits showing. [/QUOTE] Well… yeah! Stands to reason… I mean, you can find tip jars everywhere, but… What? ---
**Author:** ![ralph124c](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/8797f3/32.png) [@ralph124c](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ralph124c)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/51 "2006-03-24T17:40:14Z")
What about provocatively-dressed women in a place like South Beach, Miami? I saw a gal walk off the beach dressed in a microbikini. There was literally nothing abu a few strings and postage stamps. Its just not possible to ignore something like that. ---
**Author:** ![HPL](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/3da27b/32.png) [@HPL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HPL)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/52 "2006-03-24T17:48:40Z")
This thread reminds me of a monologue on Chapelle’s show. [Dave Chapelle] Girls dress up all sexy and then when you say so, they get all offended. “Well, ex-cuse me! Just because I am dressed this way does not make me a whore!” And you’re right; it doesn’t. But ladies, you gotta understand, that it’s damn confusing! That’s like if I dressed up like a cop and stood on the sidewalk. "Oh, thank God you’re here, officer. We need your help, just - " “Well, ex-cuse me! Just because I am dressed this way does not make me a police officer!” [/Dave Chapelle] ---
**Author:** ![Chanteuse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9de053/32.png) [@Chanteuse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chanteuse)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/53 "2006-03-24T18:01:50Z")
[QUOTE=The King of Soup] So you’re not offended if the attractive woman next to you asks about your health insurance, how much your house cost, and persistently tries to peek at your bank-book, right? Or if the mostly much plainer women and more than a few men in the room do the same thing? Because _you’re_ the one drawing attention to your financial status, and to draw the line somewhere, or to not welcome that attention, democratically, from _everyone_ in sight would be hypocritical. No? Stuck-up bitch. [/QUOTE] Well, if I have my bank book open with the grand total written in HUGE RED NUMBERS and glued to my forehead, it’d be a little pissy of me to claim a violation of privacy because someone couldn’t keep from repeatedly looking at it! 🙂 IOW, it’s not having breasts attractively clothed that causes the problem–it’s putting them on intentional and obvious _display_ and then complaining that no one notices that you even have eyes, much less what color they are. If a guy were to walk into a bar with jeans so tight that he bulged and had a red ribbon pinned to the bulge, I’d be unable to keep from staring, and he’d be a real turd to say, “Hey, girl! My eyes are up HERE, you know!” ---
**Author:** ![Binarydrone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3da27b/32.png) [@Binarydrone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Binarydrone)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/54 "2006-03-24T18:30:41Z")
[QUOTE=Chanteuse] Well, if I have my bank book open with the grand total written in HUGE RED NUMBERS and glued to my forehead, it’d be a little pissy of me to claim a violation of privacy because someone couldn’t keep from repeatedly looking at it! :)… [/QUOTE] But how is that any different than stuffing you full of roofies and viagra and rafing you? ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/55 "2006-03-24T18:31:29Z")
The classic Non Sequitur cartoon, captioned “Why men will never understand women,” a featuring a woman at the plastic surgean’s, saying “I want them big enough that I can yell at men for looking at them.” 😃 ---
**Author:** ![The\_Weird\_One](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@The\_Weird\_One](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Weird_One)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/56 "2006-03-24T18:40:06Z")
[QUOTE=Binarydrone] But how is that any different than stuffing you full of roofies and viagra and rafing you? [/QUOTE] Man, I hate getting rafed. Every time I go out clubbing these days, some British guy slips something into my drink, and next thing I know I’m in the Royal Air Force. Those Brits must be really short of pilots. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/57 "2006-03-24T18:57:45Z")
I saw a woman on the street the other day that had a t-shirt that seeme to read: STOP TARIN I, of course, had to stare at her for a minute to figure out what she was trying to say. ---
**Author:** ![taxi78cab](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e47c2d/32.png) [@taxi78cab](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/taxi78cab)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/58 "2006-03-24T19:00:32Z")
If I go out wearing something low-cut, I would certainly expect to be checked out. (I hope I would!) But if I guy \*only \*stares at my chest, that is going to affect what I think of him. Probably not “Asshole!” but I’m probably not going to be planning to spend the rest of my life with him either. That’s really what it comes down to for me: if I don’t like how a guy is looking at me, I always have the option of walking away. No, the bartender really can’t, but in most cases it’s your choice whether to continue a conversation with a guy who’s staring. You may end up with no one left to talk to at a party or at the bar, but it’s your perogative, both to wear “slutty” clothes and to walk away from anyone who doesn’t treat you the way you want to be treated. No reason to call him a jerk. Just end the conversation. Why is that so hard? ---
**Author:** ![Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ac8455/32.png) [@Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bippy_the_Beardless)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/59 "2006-03-24T19:02:10Z")
Was she saying 'My eyes are up here" in friendly jest, or was she really annoyed? She must have known her clothing was designed to cause attention, and there is nothing wrong with that at all. If she was jesting, I would reply 'I know, but your boobs are down there and they are sparkaling at me" with a big cheeky smile, followed by a stronger attempt to look her in the eye whilst talking. If she was annoyed, I might say nothing, blame her mood on a bad day at work, and try not to stare again. ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2006, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689/60 "2006-03-24T19:17:08Z")
> [@](#): > > I saw a woman on the street the other day that had a t-shirt that seeme to read: > > STOP > TARIN > > I, of course, had to stare at her for a minute to figure out what she was trying to say. Indeed, Tarin must be Stopped! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dammit-if-ya-dont-want-me-starring-at-your-boobs-dont-put-glitter-on-them/349689.md?page=4)