# Dating a prenant woman. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 30, 2011, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-a-prenant-woman/590794 "2011-07-30T00:44:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2011, 9:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-a-prenant-woman/590794/21 "2011-07-30T09:05:40Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > I don’t know. Let’s say you’ve been friends with a girl who has always been in a committed relationship with her long time BF. One day, this girl and BF have a bad fight and split up. She calls to you for comfort. You two go out and have a few drinks to forget about the BF. She gets a little tipsy and says “fuck it lets have sex. You’re the one I’ve always liked anyway.” > > Are you saying you would have no reservations under these circumstances? Especially if you had true feelings for this girl? That’s a considerably different scenario than the OP. ---
**Author:** ![Becky2844](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@Becky2844](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Becky2844)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2011, 11:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-a-prenant-woman/590794/22 "2011-07-30T11:53:26Z")
This hypothetical whatever leaves me with many questions: 1. why is she taking a cooking class instead of Lamazze? 2. why is she spending the money on a class instead of saving up for the baby? 3. how does he know she’s pregnant? 4. knowing that, why would he pursue? 5. why would she LET him pursue? (she’s got plenty on her plate already----pun intended) ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2011, 12:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-a-prenant-woman/590794/23 "2011-07-30T12:06:23Z")
> [@Becky2844](#): > > This hypothetical whatever leaves me with many questions: > > 1. why is she taking a cooking class instead of Lamazze? > 2. why is she spending the money on a class instead of saving up for the baby? > 3. how does he know she’s pregnant? Are you serious? ---
**Author:** ![Lamia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Lamia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamia)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2011, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-a-prenant-woman/590794/24 "2011-07-30T13:34:53Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > Things start to heat up as they kiss each other passionately. Then from out of nowhere, HG withdraws and says to Juliet: “I don’t feel this is right. I think we should wait til after the pregnancy before we continue further with this relationship.” > > When Juliet asks why, HG expresses his concern that although he knows _his_ feeling are true for her, he can’t be sure _her’s_ are true as she is pregnant and the hormones might be affecting her judgement. > > So, is HG an ass? Ladies, if you were this woman what would you do? I can think of a number of good reasons why HG might want to put things on hold for a while, but “the hormones might be affecting her judgment” isn’t one of them. It’s stupid and condescending. It’s also troubling that no other potential problems seem to have occurred to him. If he’d said he was concerned that caring for a newborn wouldn’t leave much time for romance and that it would be better to continue as just friends until things settled down then that would indicate some awareness of the reality of the situation. If HG is really concerned that Juliet is (temporarily) irrational and doesn’t know what she wants, I have to wonder why this didn’t prevent him from declaring his love for Juliet in the first place. We’re not told in the OP who was the first one to say it, but even if it was Juliet then HG could have replied that he cared about her a lot but didn’t want to rush things with a baby on the way. As for what I think Juliet should do, as far as we’re told HG has nothing going for him beyond being handsome. He doesn’t seem very bright, or tactful, so I’d say she’s probably better off without him. ---
**Author:** ![gallan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ee59a6/32.png) [@gallan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gallan)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2011, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-a-prenant-woman/590794/25 "2011-07-30T17:03:43Z")
> [@Becky2844](#): > > This hypothetical whatever leaves me with many questions: > > 1. why is she taking a cooking class instead of Lamazze? > 2. why is she spending the money on a class instead of saving up for the baby? > 3. how does he know she’s pregnant? > 4. knowing that, why would he pursue? > 5. why would she LET him pursue? (she’s got plenty on her plate already----pun intended) 1. She plans to eat the placenta and wants to be able to prepare it properly. 2. She’s independently wealthy and doesn’t need to save. 3. Through the magic of sight. She’s either pregnant or really fat just in the stomach area. 4. He’s got a fetish for pregnant women that he’s wanted to explore for a while. 5. According to “The One with the Creepy Holiday Card,” being pregnant makes you really, really horny. ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2011, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-a-prenant-woman/590794/26 "2011-08-01T17:25:20Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > I think you need to reread the op. > > From the OP, you can deduce that the couple have spent “loads” of time together. I think you need to reread your own OP. The scenario set up is that they’ve spent “loads of time” together at a cooking class. How often can that possibly meet? They’ve gone on one date. Now you can argue that the they’ve spent “loads of time” as platonic friends away from cooking class but they’ve still only known each other for one month. Frankly, That’s not enough time to profess your love to anyone. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2011, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-a-prenant-woman/590794/27 "2011-08-01T23:25:56Z")
> [@Enderw24](#): > > I think you need to reread your own OP. The scenario set up is that they’ve spent “loads of time” together at a cooking class. How often can that possibly meet? They’ve gone on one date. > > Now you can argue that the they’ve spent “loads of time” as platonic friends away from cooking class but they’ve still only known each other for one month. > Frankly, That’s not enough time to profess your love to anyone. Again, your reading comprehension sucks. > [@](#): > > FF a month later. Juliet and HG finally and sheepishly admit their romantic feelings towards the other. The couple up until this point have spent loads of time together but they have always kept it platonic up until now. How you came to the conclusion that the only time they saw each other was at cooking class is beyond me. Also, you’re the only one in this thread who read it that way. You might want to think about that for a second. ---
**Author:** ![Tranquilis](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tranquilis/32/3639_2.png) [@Tranquilis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tranquilis)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 5:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-a-prenant-woman/590794/28 "2011-08-03T17:10:56Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > So, is HG an ass? Ladies, if you were this woman what would you do? Potentially an ass. Maybe just really insecure. Certainly needs to grow up and decide what he wants in life. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-a-prenant-woman/590794/29 "2011-08-03T17:41:25Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > How you came to the conclusion that the only time they saw each other was at cooking class is beyond me. > > Also, you’re the only one in this thread who read it that way. You might want to think about that for a second. Even spending tons of time together for a month doesn’t sound like too much time. It sounds like HG might have been going a bit too fast. Maybe that’s the real reason he panicked, not the pregnancy? ---
**Author:** ![irishgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8edcca/32.png) [@irishgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/irishgirl)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-a-prenant-woman/590794/30 "2011-08-04T18:15:44Z")
Well, the whole “starting a relationship while the woman is pregnant with another man’s baby” thing seems to have worked out OK for Heidi Klum and Seal. He might have cold feet and be trying to find a tactful way out. He might find the idea of sex with a pregnant woman off-putting and be trying to find a tactful way out. He might just be clueless about how hormones affect judgement. Whatever- he’s probably not the right guy to settle for. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-a-prenant-woman/590794.md?page=1)