# Dating Advice (Wow, this got long. Sorry!) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 3, 2008, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-advice-wow-this-got-long-sorry/475509 "2008-12-03T15:25:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 29
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2008, 10:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-advice-wow-this-got-long-sorry/475509/29 "2008-12-03T22:52:59Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > That’s the part that’s manipulative - not that he’s testing my physical relaxation with a little hand to hand contact, but that he had to memorize the steps and study the process for what presumably indicates greater reproductive fitness. At the risk of starting a hijack, that doesn’t sound quite fair. What’s the problem with somebody basically learning how to be suave and charismatic. Why should only people with naturally-born talent benefit from such skills? Of course, perhaps it’s not meant to be fair. I also don’t necessarily see how being a Don Juan / player (take your pick depending on how you view the game), correlates to greater reproductive fitness. I know that’s the way many women are wired, but I don’t get how it would be true. Boy, maybe this should go into another thread? > [@](#): > > It’s manipulation because, unless this Mystery’s Method extends beyond getting laid to creating a functional long term relationship, it’s misrepresenting the goods. Of this I am not sure. I’m still not convinced the whole thing isn’t just a scam, so I haven’t gotten more involved other than signing up for the free newsletter. --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-advice-wow-this-got-long-sorry/475509)._