# Dating after the big "D"

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-after-the-big-d/5301>\
**Category:** Factual Questions\
**Created:** [December 13, 1999, 4:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-after-the-big-d/5301 "1999-12-13T16:48:00Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 4\
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**Author:** ![Kiki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dc4da7/32.png) [@Kiki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kiki)\
**Post date:** [December 13, 1999, 4:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-after-the-big-d/5301/1 "1999-12-13T16:48:00Z")

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I’ve been divorced about 6 months now and have just recently started dating someone.

I just want to hear about some other people’s experiences with their ex-spouses meeting their new lover. Good/Bad reactions from the ex’s?

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**Author:** ![douglips](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@douglips](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/douglips)\
**Post date:** [December 13, 1999, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-after-the-big-d/5301/2 "1999-12-13T17:00:00Z")

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My ex said she wanted to meet my new flame/future spouse, but her actions said otherwise. We’ve really lost contact now except for the odds and ends that crop up once in a while (e.g. when her dentist sent me a bill…)

It really depends on the relationship you have with your ex, AND with your new beau/belle. Consider the new person’s feelings as well - they may think it’s funky too. Lots of conversation is a good idea.

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**Author:** ![Guy\_Propski](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/5e9695/32.png) [@Guy\_Propski](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guy_Propski)\
**Post date:** [December 14, 1999, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-after-the-big-d/5301/3 "1999-12-14T06:04:00Z")

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I avoided my ex as much as possible. I believe in ending a relationship completely.

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**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\
**Post date:** [December 14, 1999, 6:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-after-the-big-d/5301/4 "1999-12-14T06:09:00Z")

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Feelings are pretty much the same whether it was a marriage or not.

How would you like to meet your exhusbands’ new girlfriend Rach?