# Dating etiquette & who pays? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 11, 2003, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-etiquette-who-pays/187768 "2003-07-11T18:15:14Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Artemius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Artemius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Artemius)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2003, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-etiquette-who-pays/187768/101 "2003-07-18T22:11:34Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by mipiace \* > \*\*You can say all day “I never said that” but pretty much everyone is picking up in your attitude that you are very chauvenistic. Iknow, I know…you never said that. But you imply that in every dripping fighter pilot bra burning sarcastic I’m a hottie doctor comment. You really don’t have to come out and spell it out. If it were ONE person thinking that then maybe I am a Freudian nutcase as you would liek to imply that I have all these issues but you have implied one by one that we are all just silly little bra burning wenches with issues - but you know what they say about when you think EVERYONE ELSE HAS A PROBLEM…no why does every female that responded not have a problem with paying but take offense to the comments and generalizations you make about women? Have you considered that you are making offensive comments about women? Have y ou considered this is not an attractive quality for a man who is fresh on the dating market regardless of what his profession? \*\* > > Everyone? It appears only man-hating ones. I know, I know…you never said that. How about the offenseive comments and generalizations you have made about me. You, Annas, and Audrey have come across as extremely immature and closed-minded. My comments about women are only offensive if you _choose_ to see them as offensive. We all have our own filter systems that we perceive our world. Anyway, get off the man-hating high horse. You’re glowing in the dark > > B]Honest feedback not based on false assumption…you aren’t going to get that on a message board. We don’t know your whole life story - only what you present and you are presenting a picture of a pretty closed minded person. That is what I’m basing feedback on and you are not liking it much. So I think that is what was meat about not being about not being about the message we are sending. She wasn’t calling you a liar - just saying maybe you weren’t aware that you are painting a picture of a narrow minded male chauvenist. You probably aren’t that at all. I’m thinking you are so caught up in proving your point, you are not about to back down regardless what it makes you look like…then again maybe not…I really don’t know. Think about it…are y ou arguing just to argue?\*\* > > You can judge and assume all you like. I never asked you to start judging my personal life. As a female, you jumped on that like ducks to water. And like you’re the epitome of an open-minded person. PLEASE! I wasn’t the one that got the thread off topic and starting making things personal. That was you and your cohorts. You’re a closet man-hater or at least a woman with serious man issues. That’s why you got fixated to this thread like a moth to lights. > > \*\*The beginning point we all agree on - money, everyone should share. But you have made some really lame and condescending comments about women that I find really offensive and off base. You have been married a long time and I think you need to find your self in the 21st century a lot has changed since 1986. Women are not going to put up with that cave man attitude. Women do not need to marry for security anymore - that left with Laura Petry thanks to my fighter plane flying sisters. I can pay my own damned mortgage and really don’t care of I ever get marriaed again. I can pay my own kids college tuition - all three of them thank y ou. \*\* Phew!!! Can you spew a little more man-hate? No, I wouldn’t count on getting married anytime soon, Mipiace. Therapy first. Anyway, got’ta run. Takin’ my date to Angel Fire for the weekend. Guess what? I’m payin’. He, he! See you…hmmmmm…gals!!! Ha, Ha, Ha, Ha!!! ---
**Author:** ![Artemius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Artemius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Artemius)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2003, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-etiquette-who-pays/187768/102 "2003-07-18T22:29:32Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by mipiace \* > \*\*Boy you sure do like to kick people out of your thread when they disagree with you…but that’s the trouble with public forums. They can respond whether you like what they or not. Dammit! communist gay leftwing liberal femminist catholic bitches unite ! \*\* Anna posted this prior to the one Mipiace referred to of mine) \<\\> Gee, Mipiace, it appears Anna kicked me out first. She sure does like to kick people off threads when someone disagrees with her. Damn man-hater! 😉 You, Audrey, and Anna just can’t seem to get anything right. So sorry. Also, at what point did you (pl) decide to abandon logic and the topic of the thread and just go _personal attack_? Seriously, got’ta go. 5 hr drive ahead and still have to stop by Walgreen’s for condoms. :smack: 🙂 😃 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Contrary](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/db5fbb/32.png) [@Contrary](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Contrary)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2003, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-etiquette-who-pays/187768/103 "2003-07-18T22:36:49Z")
I sincerely hope you are not this way in person. Enjoy your drive. ---
**Author:** ![eunoia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eunoia/32/97_2.png) [@eunoia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eunoia)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-etiquette-who-pays/187768/104 "2003-07-19T00:33:14Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by annaplurabelle \* > \*\*A Bronx Tale. > > It was used in song lyrics too - but I can’t remember details. Anyone else? \*\* **annaplurabelle** , back at ya: A sound clip from A Bronx Tale with the Chazz Palminteri “car door test” speech was used in the Ataris “Your Boyfriend Sucks”. How _a propos_, is this what you were referring to? ---
**Author:** ![Quasimodem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/e274bd/32.png) [@Quasimodem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodem)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-etiquette-who-pays/187768/105 "2003-07-19T00:56:59Z")
53 . The lady I am seeing at the present time I have known for 10 years (we work together), and we are very comfortable with each other. Here is my policy: If I ask **her** out, I assume the financial responsibilty. If she calls **me** and wants to go to a movie, she will usually offer to pay her own way. It’s that way with the movie and with dinner beforehand. She’s a little older than me, so she likes the gentlemanly touch, and I am happy to provide it. At my age, the etiquette just falls into place, but foremost is having a great time and being comfortable with each other. Q ---
**Author:** ![annaplurabelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/919ad9/32.png) [@annaplurabelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/annaplurabelle)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 10:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-etiquette-who-pays/187768/106 "2003-07-19T10:47:09Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by eunoia \* > \*\ ***annaplurabelle** , back at ya: A sound clip from A Bronx Tale with the Chazz Palminteri “car door test” speech was used in the Ataris “Your Boyfriend Sucks”. How _a propos_, is this what you were referring to? \*\* Yes, that’s it. I googled for it later on, but didn’t think anyone else was interested. Thanks **eunoia** , for remembering. ---
**Author:** ![Audrey\_Levins](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Audrey\_Levins](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Audrey_Levins)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 10:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-etiquette-who-pays/187768/107 "2003-07-19T10:58:23Z")
Good lord. Funny how a guy asks about “dating etiquette” and then shits all over the women who reply. He didn’t want advice. He wanted a soapbox. It’s all yours, **Artemius.** _Please_ use those condoms. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-etiquette-who-pays/187768.md?page=5)