# Dating opinion - "it's raining" **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 10, 2014, 12:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-opinion-its-raining/680967 "2014-02-10T12:54:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 2\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2014, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-opinion-its-raining/680967/121 "2014-02-13T17:56:14Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > I’ve said that before, too, and everyone here looked at me like I’d grown an extra head. Apparently simply not responding is considered perfectly polite in online dating situations. Not responding to an initial email is (IMO) different from chatting with someone for a while and then going silent when they suggest meeting in real life. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2014, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-opinion-its-raining/680967/122 "2014-02-13T18:17:31Z")
> [@Inna\_Minnit](#): > > Wait. What? What’s the point of online dating if it isn’t to actually meet people? > > And I gotta tell you, that’s just effing rude. It’s not hard to say “I’m sorry, I don’t think we are a match. Good luck with your search.” To do otherwise (assuming the other person has been polite and normal) shows a real flaw in ones character IMO. If the person is behaving badly, all bets are off. In that case the message you send is a decisive block. Clearly, online dating was not for me which is why I stopped doing it. But I didn’t think it would make things any better to give that message. I haven’t done much internet dating but I’ve done a lot of IRL dating and if I barely know the person, I would prefer they just quit calling than that they tell me “hey, I’m making a conscious decision now to stop calling you because I’m just not that into you”. So that’s what I do. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-opinion-its-raining/680967.md?page=6)