# dating outside of your town? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 27, 2002, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077 "2002-12-27T02:01:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![cherry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/da6949/32.png) [@cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cherry)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/1 "2002-12-27T02:01:47Z")
How inclined are you to date outside of your town? If someone asked you out on a date and you knew they lived far away would you agree? ---
**Author:** ![roadrunner70](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e19b73/32.png) [@roadrunner70](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/roadrunner70)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/2 "2002-12-27T02:14:47Z")
Being that I’m married, I find it’s better that _all_ my dating should occur in another town. 😉 Before I was married though, I had several long distance relationships. They were tedious to say the least, and expensive. ---
**Author:** ![susan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/susan/32/17537_2.png) [@susan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/susan)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 2:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/3 "2002-12-27T02:21:40Z")
In my single youth, I was willing to go up to 2 hours by car for a date. ---
**Author:** ![Slainte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a698b9/32.png) [@Slainte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slainte)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/4 "2002-12-27T02:23:49Z")
If it was **Monstre** asking, I’d go. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 2:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/5 "2002-12-27T02:58:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by superbee \* > Being that I’m married, I find it’s better that _all_ my dating should occur in another town. 😉 Oh yeah…what is that called…scheduling problems?? 😃 > [@](#): > > Before I was married though, I had several long distance relationships. They were tedious to say the least, and expensive. Me an my wife **Cyn** lived about an hour apart and met via internet. Since I barely lived from check to check as is it was very difficult spending another $100/month in gas, plus another $40-50 a month in phone bills. We were just far enough apart to be inconvenient to squeeze in a visit, especially since I worked 2 jobs. ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 3:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/6 "2002-12-27T03:21:21Z")
I don’t see a problem with it for a worth while person. ---
**Author:** ![japatlgt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df705f/32.png) [@japatlgt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/japatlgt)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 4:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/7 "2002-12-27T04:47:13Z")
Yes, tedius to say the least. I hooked back up with an old flame years ago. When they resurfaced they were living two hours away so I was pretty much staying with them on the weekends. Both of our jobs kept us in our respective locales. It worked out okay until we started having crises and then it became “tedius to say the least.” Actually the two hour gap wound up being the deal buster.but damn it was fun while it lasted! ---
**Author:** ![Skerri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f04885/32.png) [@Skerri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skerri)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 4:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/8 "2002-12-27T04:51:54Z")
I do the 7 hour commute. I think it’s worth it, although I am steadily working my way towards moving in with him. I think if you’re in a decent sized town (I live in Charleston, SC, pop. 99,100) you’re going to eventually make your way through the dating pool. Or at least meet a majority of the people that live close enough to you that have similar interests. I know I’ve exhausted the list of guys that I want to date here. ---
**Author:** ![Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angel_of_the_lord/32/2949_2.png) [@Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angel_of_the_Lord)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/9 "2002-12-27T05:12:23Z")
I’m doing the long-distance thing right now. My SO (finace, actually, but since I don’t know if I’m spelling the term right, I’m loathe to use it) lives 2 1/2-3 hours away from my school, and about 40-45 minutes away from my house. We’re marginally in the same group of friends, though, so that’s not so bad. However, my last–and only other–serious relationship was about two hours by plane, and about 6-8 hours by car from school/home. There’s a definite improvement. The distance thing pretty much killed my last relationship; not knowing if you’re ever going to see someone again can really slam the brakes of any relationship, romantic or not. Also, he was younger; so much younger, in fact, that he could not travel out to see me. I was forced to go to see him, which grew…well, tedious and expensive, to say the least. Now, on the other hand, there’s more of a balance, and the possibility of living together this summer; in other words, there’s a defined future. Now…looking at your profile, it doesn’t seem like you’re in high school, or close to that age, so things have a better chance of working out. Also…by “outside of your town”, you could mean across the river or across the country. One’s obviously going to be more feasible than the other. It really depends on you, though–and if you love this person, by God, don’t let a little thing like distance stop you before you’ve even got a chance to start! ---
**Author:** ![Keith\_Berry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/22d042/32.png) [@Keith\_Berry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Keith_Berry)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 7:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/10 "2002-12-27T07:19:24Z")
Depends on how much I like someone, and what kind of relationship it is. About a year ago, I was dating someone who lived far north of Baltimore, which is about a 35 mile drive from where I live, and had no problems at all initially. After a couple of months, the two of us started losing steam, and I came to really resent doing 70 mile roundtrips 3 or 4 times a week. Nothing personal against the girl, who was really great, but there wasn’t enough interest to keep going through the effort. On the other hand, back in 97 I had a girlfriend who went to school in Philadelphia, and the 220-mile roundtrip I took every weekend to see her was a very small price to pay for the benefits of being with her. ---
**Author:** ![I\_can\_t\_believe\_that\_s\_butter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8edcca/32.png) [@I\_can\_t\_believe\_that\_s\_butter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/I_can_t_believe_that_s_butter)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 8:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/11 "2002-12-27T08:28:30Z")
It’s hard to not avoid dating in a small town, since we’ve so many around here, and relatively close. However, I don’t drive, so if the situation arose, it would be interesting. ---
**Author:** ![I\_can\_t\_believe\_that\_s\_butter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8edcca/32.png) [@I\_can\_t\_believe\_that\_s\_butter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/I_can_t_believe_that_s_butter)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 8:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/12 "2002-12-27T08:30:46Z")
Er, I meant outside town. ---
**Author:** ![Genseric](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Genseric](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Genseric)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 10:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/13 "2002-12-27T10:28:10Z")
I guess you could say I would, considering my girlfriend, who I met on this board, lives 1060 miles away. Yep, 17 hour drive. It’s worth it, though. I’ve driven it once, and I’d drive it tomorrow if I were able. Actually I’m flying out there for a visit in mid-January, it’s only about four or five hours total time for a flight. I also wouldn’t describe our visits as “dating” in the traditional sense, I mean we do stuff, but we tend to spend several days together and squeeze as much into what time we have as we can. ---
**Author:** ![Urban\_Ranger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Urban\_Ranger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urban_Ranger)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 11:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/14 "2002-12-27T11:16:35Z")
This town being somewhat big with seven million people, it seems rather unnecessary to go outside. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 11:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/15 "2002-12-27T11:39:07Z")
I date a woman who is a mear 6 hours away. By plane, that is. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 1:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/16 "2002-12-27T13:12:39Z")
Can you really call it “dating” if the person is 6 hours away? To me a date is dinner and a movie (or cooking at home and watching a video, which is still, I guess, dinner and a movie). The guy I’m currently dating is about 45 minutes away, which is about as far away as I’m currently willing to go. We talk on the phone most evenings and get together on weekends. ---
**Author:** ![Maeglin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Maeglin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maeglin)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/17 "2002-12-27T15:18:07Z")
Well, I live in NYC. I’m currently dating a woman “out of town.” I live in Manhattan, she lives in Queens. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![cherry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/da6949/32.png) [@cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cherry)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/18 "2002-12-27T15:35:39Z")
I used to date someone that was six hour plane ride as well and would do it again but aside from that I just wanted an idea of how many people actually do it in the first place. ---
**Author:** ![Washte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/dc4da7/32.png) [@Washte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Washte)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2002, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/19 "2002-12-28T14:30:51Z")
Well, **cherry** , hubby and I began interestingly. I was living in N California and he in Nottingham, England… 10,000 odd air-miles apart. We managed to maintain the interest via email and phonecalls - my phone company _loved_ me! Then, when I graduated from university, I moved to the UK. Darn tootin’ was it all worth it. I am a very lucky lass! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![cherry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/da6949/32.png) [@cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cherry)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2002, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077/20 "2002-12-28T18:25:22Z")
Oh thats neat. So you dated and courted via the phone and email. Or did you feel like you needed the face time and thats when things took off between you two? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-outside-of-your-town/145077.md?page=2)