# Dating/relationships. What's your +/-? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 9, 2011, 1:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939 "2011-01-09T01:48:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 1:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/1 "2011-01-09T01:48:50Z")
What’s the most years younger (than you) and the most years older. Me: **Years older: 22 Years younger: 10 Male. Straight.** ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 1:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/2 "2011-01-09T01:55:57Z")
Most years I’ve been older than a partner: 2 years. Most years I’ve been younger than a partner: 5 years. Straight male. ---
**Author:** ![Sage\_Rat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sage_rat/32/399_2.png) [@Sage\_Rat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sage_Rat)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/3 "2011-01-09T01:57:46Z")
Older: 3 Younger: 9 Male Straight ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/4 "2011-01-09T02:08:21Z")
Straight woman, 51. The most years older I’ve been is just a few months shy of 12 years The most years younger than a partner was approximately 5 years. ---
**Author:** ![Jaledin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Jaledin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jaledin)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 2:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/5 "2011-01-09T02:16:25Z")
22, woman was 27 or 28. Straight male. She seemed pretty old but entirely serviceable at the time. I don’t know how much younger a partner I’ve had was, but I think about 5 years or so seems about right. ---
**Author:** ![Nametag](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nametag/32/406_2.png) [@Nametag](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nametag)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/6 "2011-01-09T03:01:21Z")
Years older: 20 Years younger: 14 Male Straight ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 3:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/7 "2011-01-09T03:02:54Z")
Straight male here. 18 years older (she was 46, I was 28) 16 years younger (she’s 24, I’m 40) ---
**Author:** ![BigBertha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d78d45/32.png) [@BigBertha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigBertha)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 3:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/8 "2011-01-09T03:28:57Z")
Younger-15 years. I was 34, he was 20. Olderer-I was 48 he was 78. I am interested in the straight males here who have liked women much older, what were your ages, because I like a guy 20 years younger than me and wonder if there were any problems. Female. Straight. ---
**Author:** ![Surly\_Chick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ec9cab/32.png) [@Surly\_Chick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Surly_Chick)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 3:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/9 "2011-01-09T03:44:35Z")
Straight female. Older: 18 Younger: 18 What can I say - I’m nothing if not consistent. ---
**Author:** ![Jaledin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Jaledin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jaledin)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/10 "2011-01-09T04:02:41Z")
> [@BigBertha](#): > > Younger-15 years. I was 34, he was 20. Olderer-I was 48 he was 78. > I am interested in the straight males here who have liked women much older, what were your ages, because I like a guy 20 years younger than me and wonder if there were any problems. > Female. Straight. I am 34 now, but when I was in my early twenties, I was interested and would have been receptive to any advances from a few women in their early 50s, but it wouldn’t have been appropriate because of their status as professors and mentors in my chosen field. Probably wouldn’t have lasted long, though, in several respects. But a woman who is an accomplished scholar and author and teacher whom I respected and with whom I had an intellectual relationship would not have been verboten – mutatis mutandis for your own situation. ---
**Author:** ![Student\_Driver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3da27b/32.png) [@Student\_Driver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Student_Driver)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/11 "2011-01-09T04:18:21Z")
Straight male. Older than me: 10 years. I was 18, she was 28. Younger than me: 14 years. I was 36, she was 22. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 7:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/12 "2011-01-09T07:37:34Z")
Gay male. My partner is exactly 20 years younger than I am (same birthday). In the past, I had gone with guys up to about 30 years older than I was. I really don’t care about someone’s age, either way. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 11:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/13 "2011-01-09T11:00:47Z")
In terms of actual relationships: Older than me: 3 months Younger than me: 2 years Male Straight Even if you lop in more casual relationships, I think I may have gone a year or two older, and no more than three years younger. Apparently, I date in a very narrow band. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 11:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/14 "2011-01-09T11:22:00Z")
Straight male, 43 Older: 6 months Younger: 17 years ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 12:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/15 "2011-01-09T12:17:21Z")
Straight male, 27. Older: 10 years Younger: 1 year ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 1:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/16 "2011-01-09T13:54:08Z")
Younger: 4 years Older: 2 years Ever since becoming an adult, I generally feel like I am always at least couple years mentally younger than my physical age. Especially now that I’ve lost a couple years of my life to those stupid benzos. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/17 "2011-01-09T14:33:06Z")
Straight male, 50 SO older: 14 years for sure, once had a brief “thing” in my early 20s with someone probably 20+ years older (we never discussed her exact age) SO younger: 7½ years (Mrs M.) ---
**Author:** ![Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/8c91f0/32.png) [@Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bam_Boo_Gut)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/18 "2011-01-09T15:59:38Z")
Straight woman - 47 Older? Same age - never dated an older man Younger - he’s 15 years younger than me. ---
**Author:** ![Ibanez](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/a4c791/32.png) [@Ibanez](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ibanez)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/19 "2011-01-09T16:06:27Z")
Younger: 16 years Older: 5 years Male 40 Straight ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2011, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939/20 "2011-01-09T16:08:58Z")
2 years younger, 17 years older. I’m happily partnered now but age is just a number… if I ever date again I wouldn’t hesitate to have relationships with much, much greater age differences. Biased towards older, probably, I tend to find people older than me much more interesting. Female, 25 [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-relationships-whats-your/566939.md?page=2)