# Dating & twins - did you or they switch? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 12, 2015, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-twins-did-you-or-they-switch/709651 "2015-01-12T21:09:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Hari\_Seldon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hari_seldon/32/5173_2.png) [@Hari\_Seldon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hari_Seldon)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2015, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-twins-did-you-or-they-switch/709651/21 "2015-01-13T23:02:11Z")
I would imagine that if I had dated one twin and not the other, I would have shared experiences with one that other had not shared and that would be a dead giveaway. Incidentally, the legal question raised about who was the father has an answer. The husband is the presumptive father. That presumption is subject to refutation but not in this case. ---
**Author:** ![Claverhouse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/13edae/32.png) [@Claverhouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Claverhouse)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2015, 5:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-twins-did-you-or-they-switch/709651/22 "2015-01-14T05:33:52Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > [QUOTE=Namkcalb] > Aren’t they both effectively the father… Morally, ethically, and emotionally: no. Genetically: also no. [/QUOTE] Genealogically: yes. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2015, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-twins-did-you-or-they-switch/709651/23 "2015-01-14T15:45:50Z")
> [@jsgoddess](#): > > On a twist on this, one of my brothers convinced a girl he was dating that he had a twin. > > He does not have a twin. … that you know of! > [@74westy](#): > > Please tell me he pretended to be his brother and tried to seduce her! Sounds like a sitcom episode. ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2015, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-twins-did-you-or-they-switch/709651/24 "2015-01-14T17:01:02Z")
Sounds like the only [Donald Westlake novel](http://www.amazon.com/Two-Much-Donald-E-Westlake/dp/0445407190) I ever didn’t care for the ending of… ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2015, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-twins-did-you-or-they-switch/709651/25 "2015-01-14T17:07:44Z")
> [@74westy](#): > > Please tell me he pretended to be his brother and tried to seduce her! What he told me was that they went somewhere, like a restaurant or something, and he said his brother really liked the place and maybe they’d run into him. Then he got up to go to the restroom, changed shirts, and came back as his own twin brother. He claims she fell for it. Knowing the girl, who was the nicest person in the world and, well, not the sharpest? I can believe it. Not for long, but for a little while. ---
**Author:** ![susanlinda823](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce7236/32.png) [@susanlinda823](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/susanlinda823)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2015, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-twins-did-you-or-they-switch/709651/26 "2015-01-14T17:08:08Z")
Honestly [Yes]([http://kahunaejuice.com/](http://kahunaejuice.com/) [http://exoticseliquid.com/](http://exoticseliquid.com/)) yes I would pull the switch. I have guy friends who have done this before…But they make the switch at a much more personal time :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Grestarian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grestarian/32/3227_2.png) [@Grestarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grestarian)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2015, 11:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-twins-did-you-or-they-switch/709651/27 "2015-01-19T23:47:41Z")
There were a couple gorgeous girls at the movie theater where I worked who were reputed to be twins. They didn’t dress, groom, or sound alike but they shared the same surname and had the same birth date and sorta had some similar features. One was a math major with a scholarship, the other was struggling to get her General Education requirements completed at a junior college. The official story was that one of the usher guys dated the smart one for a short while, then broke up with her to date the twin sister for a lot longer. My suspicion was that he dated the smarter of the pair, got dumped because he couldn’t keep up (mentally), and was more compatible with the slower-witted one. It was well known that even she eventually dumped him because she thought he was a knucklehead, so he must have been a pretty dim bulb. –G! ---
**Author:** ![Hokkaido\_Brit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/d26b3c/32.png) [@Hokkaido\_Brit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hokkaido_Brit)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2015, 2:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-twins-did-you-or-they-switch/709651/28 "2015-01-20T14:17:16Z")
My grandmother, who was an identical twin (she died at 93, her other half is still alive at 99 ) did this, aged fifteen, to my grandfather. He met her when he came to the house where she was in service to mend something, and later asked her out on a date. On the day of the date, my grandmother’s mistress was ill and asked her if she would stay in and look after her. So my grandmother wrote a note to her sister and ran round to the house where she was in service, asking her to pretend to be her and go and meet my grandfather. At their 50th wedding anniversary, she stood up and asked my grandpa if he remembered their first date. He of course said, yes, every moment of it. My granny said well, she didn’t remember ANY of it, whereupon her sister stood up and said “But I remember it very well!” and they confessed! We weren’t sure whether it was just a good story or not but when we were sorting through memorabilia when my grandfather died, we found the actual letter to her sister, which ended with "I think I shall like this one. Awwwwww! Oh, and they were identical enough that when the two sisters lived together with all their children during the war, sharing clothes and everything, my father could only tell his mother from his aunt by sniffing them! Apparently they smelled different. I never could be sure which I was talking to if they were sitting together! ---
**Author:** ![alphaboi867](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alphaboi867/32/3898_2.png) [@alphaboi867](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alphaboi867)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2015, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-twins-did-you-or-they-switch/709651/29 "2015-01-20T21:57:18Z")
One of my exes had a identical twin, but he was straight so I highly doubt they ever switched. 😉 I’ve known both since grade school & could tell them apart so I would’ve noticed; also the straight one was uncircumcised. ---
**Author:** ![chacoguy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/50afbb/32.png) [@chacoguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chacoguy)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2015, 10:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-twins-did-you-or-they-switch/709651/30 "2015-01-20T22:55:38Z")
> [@alphaboi867](#): > > One of my exes had a identical twin, but he was straight so I highly doubt they ever switched. 😉 I’ve known both since grade school & could tell them apart so I would’ve noticed; also\*\* the straight one was uncircumcised\*\*. Was that so the parents could tell them apart? ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2015, 11:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-twins-did-you-or-they-switch/709651/31 "2015-01-20T23:54:14Z")
> [@Hokkaido\_Brit](#): > > At their 50th wedding anniversary, she stood up and asked my grandpa if he remembered their first date. He of course said, yes, every moment of it. My granny said well, she didn’t remember ANY of it, whereupon her sister stood up and said “But I remember it very well!” and they confessed! Aww… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-twins-did-you-or-they-switch/709651.md?page=1)