# Dating Website and the weight question... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 14, 2008, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-website-and-the-weight-question/467818 "2008-10-14T01:17:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![gravitycrash](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/977dab/32.png) [@gravitycrash](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gravitycrash)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2008, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-website-and-the-weight-question/467818/61 "2008-10-16T19:41:31Z")
> [@BrknButterfly](#): > > The thing with “A few extra pounds” is while that may be some what acceptable, I don’t want to deal with the disappointing face when he first sees me. Like I said, isn’t like I don’t like myself or accept myself for who or what I am.. I just don’t want to deal with.. “Well I think you are a little more heavier then what you said on your profile”. or the “led on” factor. > > So I tend to over state it. Maybe it goes with the mentality of expect and prepare for the worse but then be surprised when it isn’t… type thing. This is why I put so much importance in candid photos. Find a picture of yourself in profile standing up or just one of you standing up. I just went back to look at your pictures again but I guess you took them down. But they were just pictures of you sitting. You look great but as a guy I want to see the whole package. As everyone else has said, you are not BBW. I say this because I have been burned with the less than candid pictures more than once. I don’t get the point of this at all. It wastes everybody’s time. And if any guy would say that he is an asshole and not worth dating anyway. ---
**Author:** ![BrknButterfly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/439d5e/32.png) [@BrknButterfly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrknButterfly)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 2:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-website-and-the-weight-question/467818/62 "2008-10-17T14:24:30Z")
> [@gravitycrash](#): > > I just went back to look at your pictures again but I guess you took them down. The link should still work. I haven’t touch the pictures. Odd. I am going to see if I can find the most unflattering picture and post it.. I tend to do that anyways on any profile I put up. A ton of good ones and one unflattering one.. I think it tends to give the whole package.. Lemme see what I can find. ---
**Author:** ![vandal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/858c86/32.png) [@vandal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vandal)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-website-and-the-weight-question/467818/63 "2008-10-17T20:18:11Z")
Based on your pictures, I’d put you in the “few extra pounds” category. I consider BBW to be in the obese range, and you’re definitely not obese. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dating-website-and-the-weight-question/467818.md?page=3)