# Daycare center has a no-share policy **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 17, 2013, 12:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/daycare-center-has-a-no-share-policy/655934 "2013-04-17T12:39:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![huck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@huck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/huck)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/daycare-center-has-a-no-share-policy/655934/41 "2013-04-18T00:50:05Z")
From what I understand of this idea, it has nothing to do with whether giving up a toy to another child constitutes sharing/is desirable, or with that overused phrase “entitlement”; it’s that kids age 2 or 3 aren’t developmentally ready for structured sharing so to speak. Rather, while little kids will sometimes share spontaneously and can be quite empathetic, they learn real sharing by example which they will hopefully follow when they are old enough. I’m not sure this fits completely with my observations of my own kids at this age but I can follow the logic that even if the child can understand it’s not fair for one person to eat all the cookies she is probably not yet able to follow through on that consistently and there’s not much point in forcing her to do it. ---
**Author:** ![jz78817](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jz78817/32/1028_2.png) [@jz78817](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jz78817)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/daycare-center-has-a-no-share-policy/655934/42 "2013-04-18T00:57:29Z")
> [@April\_R](#): > > What? You want to watch my kids during the day while I have to work full time? That is total crap. Do you even have kids? if you’re in a situation where you’re going to need a third party to take care of your kids for you, then maybe you shouldn’t have them. ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/daycare-center-has-a-no-share-policy/655934/43 "2013-04-18T01:02:35Z")
> [@Nzinga\_Seated](#): > > Haaa! It’s like you are asking her, [“do you even lift?”](http://www.tickld.com/images/gif/d2dce4ebaf602a70c6dee1580b9f8a89.jpg) well it is kinda the same thing 😊 ---
**Author:** ![huck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@huck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/huck)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/daycare-center-has-a-no-share-policy/655934/44 "2013-04-18T01:04:07Z")
> [@jz78817](#): > > if you’re in a situation where you’re going to need a third party to take care of your kids for you, then maybe you shouldn’t have them. why? ---
**Author:** ![Nzinga\_Seated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5ac83/32.png) [@Nzinga\_Seated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nzinga_Seated)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 1:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/daycare-center-has-a-no-share-policy/655934/45 "2013-04-18T01:05:15Z")
> [@jz78817](#): > > if you’re in a situation where you’re going to need a third party to take care of your kids for you, then maybe you shouldn’t have them. Welp, this is about to escalate fast. ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 1:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/daycare-center-has-a-no-share-policy/655934/46 "2013-04-18T01:05:17Z")
> [@jz78817](#): > > if you’re in a situation where you’re going to need a third party to take care of your kids for you, then maybe you shouldn’t have them. I agree. Do you think I can list them on Craig’s List? _Two 5 year olds, one boy, one girl. Free to a good home. All shots up to date. Have problems sharing._ ---
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/daycare-center-has-a-no-share-policy/655934/47 "2013-04-18T01:11:38Z")
> [@April\_R](#): > > I agree. Do you think I can list them on Craig’s List? _Two 5 year olds, one boy, one girl. Free to a good home. All shots up to date. Have problems sharing._ I might be interested… would you say they are more roasters or more fryers? ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/daycare-center-has-a-no-share-policy/655934/48 "2013-04-18T01:15:00Z")
> [@colander](#): > > I might be interested… would you say they are more roasters or more fryers? Roasters definately ---
**Author:** ![R3d\_Anonymous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/aeb1de/32.png) [@R3d\_Anonymous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R3d_Anonymous)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 1:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/daycare-center-has-a-no-share-policy/655934/49 "2013-04-18T01:16:43Z")
> [@The\_Librarian](#): > > People in general could stand to be nicer to each other, teaching childeren to play together and share their toys is a start. ‘Forcing’ them to share sounds dumb, I would suggest ‘encourage’. +1 I don’t entirely agree with the philosophy because sharing is a common courtesy. You look like a dick if you’re using something and don’t let your guest at least have it for a little bit. But at the same time, forcing them to share is idiotic. It should be encouraged. I completely agree with **The Librarian**. ---
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/daycare-center-has-a-no-share-policy/655934/50 "2013-04-18T01:20:45Z")
> [@April\_R](#): > > Roasters definately Why, I’ll take 10! Do you accept bloodstained rubles? ---
**Author:** ![Nzinga\_Seated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5ac83/32.png) [@Nzinga\_Seated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nzinga_Seated)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/daycare-center-has-a-no-share-policy/655934/51 "2013-04-18T01:22:01Z")
> [@Anonymous User](#): > > +1 > > I don’t entirely agree with the philosophy because sharing is a common courtesy. You look like a dick if you’re using something and don’t let your guest at least have it for a little bit. But at the same time, forcing them to share is idiotic. It should be encouraged. > > I completely agree with **The Librarian**. Yes, and yes. Sharing is a common courtesy, but being forced to share may not be a good idea. I can understand being forced to share some things, (the crayons…) but not others (the truck or the doll). We want Canada, not China! ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/daycare-center-has-a-no-share-policy/655934/52 "2013-04-18T01:31:08Z")
> [@colander](#): > > Why, I’ll take 10! Do you accept bloodstained rubles? I only have 2 and one on the way, but I’ll take the rubles, credit, or gold pieces. You’ll have to get the rest from another breeder. I’m tapped out. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/daycare-center-has-a-no-share-policy/655934.md?page=2)