# Dayna Morales, the waitress who claims she didn't get tipped because of her homosexuality, exposed. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [November 26, 2013, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823 "2013-11-26T15:21:58Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![kstarnes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4da419/32.png) [@kstarnes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kstarnes)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/1 "2013-11-26T15:21:58Z")
[http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/new-jersey-waitress-victim-discrimination-forged-receipt-article-1.1529227](http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/new-jersey-waitress-victim-discrimination-forged-receipt-article-1.1529227) I fucking knew it! There are people out there who will exploit our modern protective instincts towards victim groups and they perpetrate these hoaxes. It’s sickening. When caught all she can say is, “all I know is what I know.” This is what a 7 year old says when caught lying. The other party has a credit card statement to back up their claim. The good that can come out of this is that society will be more skeptical of these claims in the future. Earlier in the month, there was [http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/red-lobster-customer-claims-racist-bad-tipper-article-1.1490962](http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/red-lobster-customer-claims-racist-bad-tipper-article-1.1490962) ---
**Author:** ![kstarnes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4da419/32.png) [@kstarnes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kstarnes)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/2 "2013-11-26T15:28:10Z")
In her defense, the waitress who perpetrated this particular hoax may have felt that a bad tip was a tantamount to the N-word. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/3 "2013-11-26T15:30:21Z")
And which claims should society be more skeptical of in the future: that Waitstaff get stiffed, that gays are being discriminated against, or something else? ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 3:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/4 "2013-11-26T15:34:45Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > And which claims should society be more skeptical of in the future: that Waitstaff get stiffed, that gays are being discriminated against, or something else? Wouldn’t it be simpler just to completely lose your faith in humanity? ---
**Author:** ![Labrador\_Deceiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7c8e57/32.png) [@Labrador\_Deceiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Labrador_Deceiver)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/5 "2013-11-26T15:36:25Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > And which claims should society be more skeptical of in the future: that Waitstaff get stiffed, that gays are being discriminated against, or something else? Are those really the only two options you could think of? How about attention-seeking assholes who go to facebook and other media outlets with outrageous stories? ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 3:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/6 "2013-11-26T15:38:21Z")
> [@Labrador\_Deceiver](#): > > Are those really the only two options you could think of? How about attention-seeking assholes who go to facebook and other media outlets with outrageous stories? I believe that would fall into the “…or something else” category. ---
**Author:** ![Labrador\_Deceiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7c8e57/32.png) [@Labrador\_Deceiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Labrador_Deceiver)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 3:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/7 "2013-11-26T15:38:59Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > I believe that would fall into the “…or something else” category. Yes, and I was showing you what that something else might look like. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 3:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/8 "2013-11-26T15:41:06Z")
> [@Labrador\_Deceiver](#): > > Yes, and I was showing you what that something else might look like. Thank you. If I thought that the first two options were the _only_ ones, and wouldn’t have added that third one. ---
**Author:** ![Labrador\_Deceiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7c8e57/32.png) [@Labrador\_Deceiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Labrador_Deceiver)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 3:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/9 "2013-11-26T15:42:37Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > Thank you. If I thought that the first two options were the _only_ ones, and wouldn’t have added that third one. Yeah, you clearly couldn’t think of more than two, but I’m enjoying the hell out of this spin you’ve got going on. The meaning of your post was abundantly clear to everyone reading along. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/10 "2013-11-26T15:48:21Z")
> [@Labrador\_Deceiver](#): > > Yeah, you clearly couldn’t think of more than two, but I’m enjoying the hell out of this spin you’ve got going on. The meaning of your post was abundantly clear to everyone reading along. Thank you for your insight on the _real_ meaning of my post, “Everyone”. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Eonwe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eonwe/32/240_2.png) [@Eonwe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eonwe)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 3:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/11 "2013-11-26T15:49:26Z")
1. I totally agree that just about every story that ‘trends’ on social media should be assumed false until proven otherwise, unless the original source is verifiable and trustworthy. 2. People lie all the time. People believe lies all the time. Pointing at this and then starting to rant about our modern/victim-worshiping society is ridiculous. Get a sense of perspective. What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun. The only difference today is that thanks to facebook, etc, we are all given more opportunities to be taken in, and any time anyone is taken in, we are all given the opportunity to see it happen. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/12 "2013-11-26T15:51:18Z")
> [@kstarnes](#): > > In her defense, the waitress who perpetrated this particular hoax may have felt that a bad tip was a tantamount to the N-word. Bad tip? She got 20%. It is possible that someone else on the wait staff wrote the note and she did not know. The account was charged the full amount with tip. Maybe it was a plot to get publicity for the restaurant. This one pinged my radar from the beginning like no other similar stories. Maybe that was why. There have been similar truthful stories in the news and it seemed like this one was just someone jumping on the bandwagon. This is a local story here. I pass the place twice most days. Not too long ago it was an IHOP. Then it changed into an IHOP-like diner. Then it closed. It was closed for a long time. Then it looked like there were renovations going on. But those renovations were taking forever. Most of the time it looked like one guy was there doing the work. It had to be a year or more before it reopened as Gallop. Seeing it everyday it made me wonder how anyone could afford to own the property and presumably pay a mortgage for a year without any money coming in. It would not surprise me to find that they need to boost business to make up for the renovation costs. The parking lot does seem to be reasonably full most nights. And I hear good things about the food. ---
**Author:** ![Fiveyearlurker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/da6949/32.png) [@Fiveyearlurker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fiveyearlurker)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/13 "2013-11-26T15:52:00Z")
It probably seemed like easy money after very few people bothered to follow up and report that [this](http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/lifestyle/2013/10/red-lobster-waitress-gets-10k-tip-after-racist-receipt/) one looks like it was a hoax as well. ---
**Author:** ![Labrador\_Deceiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7c8e57/32.png) [@Labrador\_Deceiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Labrador_Deceiver)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/14 "2013-11-26T15:52:15Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > Thank you for your insight on the _real_ meaning of my post, “Everyone”. :rolleyes: Oh, cut the shit. You obviously thought the OP was being unreasonable by suggesting this story should make us more skeptical of anything, as evidenced by your absurd suggestions. Now you want us to believe that you were being totally sincere in asking the question “What claims should we be more skeptical of”, and that the _most_ reasonable answers you could think of to that question were the ones that you offered? Do I have that right? ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/15 "2013-11-26T15:52:45Z")
> [@Eonwe](#): > > 1. I totally agree that just about every story that ‘trends’ on social media should be assumed false until proven otherwise, unless the original source is verifiable and trustworthy. > > 2. People lie all the time. People believe lies all the time. Pointing at this and then starting to rant about our modern/victim-worshiping society is ridiculous. Get a sense of perspective. What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun. The only difference today is that thanks to facebook, etc, we are all given more opportunities to be taken in, and any time anyone is taken in, we are all given the opportunity to see it happen. True enough. At this time we don’t know which receipt is valid, though the evidence is leaning towards the customer at this time. ---
**Author:** ![kstarnes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4da419/32.png) [@kstarnes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kstarnes)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/16 "2013-11-26T15:55:48Z")
> [@Eonwe](#): > > 1. I totally agree that just about every story that ‘trends’ on social media should be assumed false until proven otherwise, unless the original source is verifiable and trustworthy. > > 2. People lie all the time. People believe lies all the time. Pointing at this and then starting to rant about our modern/victim-worshiping society is ridiculous. Get a sense of perspective. What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun. The only difference today is that thanks to facebook, etc, we are all given more opportunities to be taken in, and any time anyone is taken in, we are all given the opportunity to see it happen. You’re basically correct, these hoaxes were almost exclusively reported media outlets deemed by many to be ‘Liberal,’ The media outlets are at fault too. This stuff is sensationalism and plays well with their audience’s to feel outraged. Call it outrage porn if you like. ---
**Author:** ![Malthus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/85f322/32.png) [@Malthus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malthus)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/17 "2013-11-26T16:00:51Z")
> [@Eonwe](#): > > 1. I totally agree that just about every story that ‘trends’ on social media should be assumed false until proven otherwise, unless the original source is verifiable and trustworthy. > > 2. People lie all the time. People believe lies all the time. Pointing at this and then starting to rant about our modern/victim-worshiping society is ridiculous. Get a sense of perspective. What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun. The only difference today is that thanks to facebook, etc, we are all given more opportunities to be taken in, and any time anyone is taken in, we are all given the opportunity to see it happen. There are two reasons why this particular instance is sorta interesting: 1. The category of sympathetic victimhood - if anything, the fact that people are now lying about being discriminated against because they are gay is kinda encouraging. Fraudsters will, of course, lie about anything they think will get them sympathy, and the fact that “being gay and discriminated against” is something a fraudster reasonably thinks will get them sympathy is sorta a backhanded example of progress … 2. The technology means that, more than ever, a lie can go around the world before the truth gets its boots on. ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/18 "2013-11-26T16:01:13Z")
If that’s the waitress’s own handwriting on the receipt, she’s pretty stupid and a liar. If it’s not hers, it’s entirely possible she got set up by someone else at the restaurant (who pocketed her tip). She claims to be donating everything that was donated to her to _Wounded Warriors Project_. It’ll be really interesting to see if that checks out. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/19 "2013-11-26T16:01:16Z")
> [@kstarnes](#): > > You’re basically correct, these hoaxes were almost exclusively reported media outlets deemed by many to be ‘Liberal,’ The media outlets are at fault too. This stuff is sensationalism and plays well with their audience’s to feel outraged. Call it outrage porn if you like. 1. “…deemed by many to be ‘Liberal,’…”. Would you happen to be one of those “many”? 2. And this doesn’t usually happen on Conservative media outlets? ---
**Author:** ![Jophiel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jophiel/32/66_2.png) [@Jophiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jophiel)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823/20 "2013-11-26T16:01:22Z")
The blowback will be worth it if I never again have to read another “news” story about a waitress somewhere who didn’t get tipped. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dayna-morales-the-waitress-who-claims-she-didnt-get-tipped-because-of-her-homosexuality-exposed/674823.md?page=2)