# dealing with SOs sexual issues (fake Os etc)?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dealing-with-sos-sexual-issues-fake-os-etc/697378>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [September 3, 2014, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dealing-with-sos-sexual-issues-fake-os-etc/697378 "2014-09-03T16:35:28Z")\
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**Author:** ![choie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/choie/32/7829_2.png) [@choie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/choie)\
**Post date:** [September 4, 2014, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dealing-with-sos-sexual-issues-fake-os-etc/697378/15 "2014-09-04T00:56:40Z")

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> [@timewilltell](#):
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> Hi,
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> I am in my mid-30s and my GF is in her early 30s.
> 
> We have been seeing each other for around 6 months.
> 
> There are a few issues with our sex life.

Damn, I’d definitely agree your sex life has issues. Especially if this is the same woman you describe [in this “bring up inconsistencies”\* thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=730493) two weeks ago, i.e. the one whom you were seeing back in August. Back then you said you thought she was probably having an affair, what lying about her incredibly active social life, dressing kinda skanky (what with those painted-on clothes and breasts practically falling out of her top), the fact that she wouldn’t tell you anything about her past, and especially that was spending nights out. As you said,

> [@Bring up inconsistencies to sig. other?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/bring-up-inconsistencies-to-sig-other/695031/1):
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> So, I am suspecting infidelity due to her past (she has jumped from relationship to relationship and everyone in her family is cheater as is her best friend) and changes in her (emotionally withdrawn but with excuses related to stress).
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> (snip to shorten lengthy post - **choie** )
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> I feel that our culture has pretty much killed the expectation of monogamy. It is sad for me. Also, it is sad that I can’t communicate with her better without setting her off. But if she is cheating, I would be wise to communicate judiciously so that I will know sooner (cheaters rarely admit to it).

Eventually you even broke up with her.

Since in that thread you mentioned that you were disappointed one couldn’t expect monogamy in this day and age, it’s surprising to learn that you yourself were apparently seeing _two_ women, one of whom was sexually promiscuous and addicted to social media (perhaps to be expected since she was five years your junior), whereas this woman is apparently withholding, prim, traumatized and anorgasmic.

My suggestion is to find a happy medium between these two partners of yours, or if this is the same woman, then you need to find someone who isn’t so much of a Sybil. At least find someone consistent.

- Irony alert!

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