# Dear Attractive Married Women: Plz Wear A Ring. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [November 17, 2012, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336 "2012-11-17T19:13:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 25
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/481 "2012-11-29T21:39:37Z")
> [@SouthernGuy](#): > > Can’t we just be friends? Oh my god. I can’t believe you’d reject me. You’ve been flirting with every woman in this thread with your words-- teasing us, leading us on. Finally, I work up the courage to hint that I want to touch your penis and THIS is how you react toward me? I can’t believe it. I just can’t. You should have been more considerate of my feelings, sir. You’re nothing but a filthy tease. ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 9:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/482 "2012-11-29T21:43:10Z")
Nobody puts Diosa in the friendzone! ---
**Author:** ![SouthernGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/82dd89/32.png) [@SouthernGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SouthernGuy)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/483 "2012-11-29T21:50:03Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > Oh my god. I can’t believe you’d reject me. You’ve been flirting with every woman in this thread with your words-- teasing us, leading us on. Finally, I work up the courage to hint that I want to touch your penis and THIS is how you react toward me? I can’t believe it. I just can’t. You should have been more considerate of my feelings, sir. You’re nothing but a filthy tease. I’m not sure if you are joking or trying to prove a point in regards to my earlier post about the tease. I’m just thick-headed like that. To my rather derogatory comment about feminists it was both. It was a reply to **Bosstone** ’s comment which I thought was humorous and a bit of ire on my part. Consider it a bad joke. I didn’t realize not approving of Feminists’ intervening in child custody cases would get me labeled a part of the “he-man woman haters club”. Although its my fault for not clarifying in the first place. “I recognize my failing and will be sure to correct it.” ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/484 "2012-11-29T21:58:29Z")
Sigh. You still don’t get it. Color me still shocked that you’re having trouble getting a date. ---
**Author:** ![Slithy\_Tove](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slithy_tove/32/18248_2.png) [@Slithy\_Tove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slithy_Tove)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/485 "2012-11-29T22:11:53Z")
You don’t like being accused of misogyny by a feminist? Don’t get a job at the post office. Those poor guys get yelled at all day long by feminist demanding to register for Selective Service. ---
**Author:** ![SouthernGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/82dd89/32.png) [@SouthernGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SouthernGuy)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/486 "2012-11-29T22:37:57Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > Sigh. You still don’t get it. Color me still shocked that you’re having trouble getting a date. Then why don’t you explain it to me? We’ll consider it ignorance fought. ---
**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/487 "2012-11-29T23:08:30Z")
> [@SouthernGuy](#): > > I’m not certain what you are getting at, but it seems you are being too technical. Are you saying that it’s impossible for a girl who is a complete tease(sexualy with grabbing in some instances) who you’ve been friends with for a reasonable(at least a year or so) amount of time and have grown fond of and perhaps as far as falling in love through all the time spent together not to be putting someone in the friend zone? Even when the only times she’s wanted to act on whatever feelings she may have had for me while she was dating my best friend(Which is something I would **NEVER** do because it’s against my ethics) and even admitted to as much herself meaning it wasn’t just wishfull thinking on my part and deluding myself. Or do you just not like the term “friend zone” to describe a situation like that? À solid case of “she’s not that into you.” She finds you a handy fall back when she wants an ego boost, and she probably does have passing thoughts that it would be nice to have a boyfriend who is completely gaga over her, but if she was actually attracted to you, honey, wild horses wouldn’t have stopped her. You were the flirty gay gay to her fag hag- a “safe” way to get some sexual attention while she waited to find a guy she actually real life wants to fuck. And no, this doesn’t make her a bad person. Not liking the rules doesn’t buy you a lot of high ground when you just keep on playing the game. ---
**Author:** ![SouthernGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/82dd89/32.png) [@SouthernGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SouthernGuy)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/488 "2012-11-29T23:17:31Z")
**even sven** I attributed that to my own naivette(I posted that earlier) at that time and hold myself just as responsible as her if not more for the way it turned out. Lesson learned. I put my case forward as to illustrate a possible friend zone. I was a kid at the time and probably still am by y’all’s standards. ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/489 "2012-11-29T23:40:58Z")
> [@SouthernGuy](#): > > **even sven** > > I attributed that to my own naivette(I posted that earlier) at that time and hold myself just as responsible as her if not more for the way it turned out. Lesson learned. I put my case forward as to illustrate a possible friend zone. I was a kid at the time and probably still am by y’all’s standards. You quoted Little Rascals, can’t be under 30. ---
**Author:** ![SouthernGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/82dd89/32.png) [@SouthernGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SouthernGuy)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/490 "2012-11-29T23:48:23Z")
> [@Troppus](#): > > You quoted Little Rascals, can’t be under 30. Why? Because I like a classic movie? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 11:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/491 "2012-11-29T23:54:27Z")
> [@SouthernGuy](#): > > Why? Because I like a classic movie? 😃 Ah. The movie. I assumed the series. But since you called the Rascals remake a classic, I admit my opinion of you needs be revaluated. Of course, if you claimed the original series as “classic” I’d call you a racist. It’s really hard to win cred with Rascals references. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/492 "2012-11-30T00:00:20Z")
This is some funny shit. Just sayin. ---
**Author:** ![SouthernGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/82dd89/32.png) [@SouthernGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SouthernGuy)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 12:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/493 "2012-11-30T00:07:47Z")
> [@Troppus](#): > > Ah. The movie. > I assumed the series. But since you called the Rascals remake a classic, I admit my opinion of you needs be revaluated. Of course, if you claimed the original series as “classic” I’d call you a racist. It’s really hard to win cred with Rascals references. Not really trying to win cred per say, but trying to defuse the situation with what I thought was a funny reference. I didn’t think about the reception it would have due to speaking with majorly an older croud. That’s why I tend to read instead of post. I do so to learn from those with more experiences than myself from both sides of an argument. Nice to see things from multiple angles. ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/494 "2012-11-30T00:13:36Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > This is some funny shit. Just sayin. You know what’s funny to me? The idea of a nervous guy approaching me at the grocery for small talk expecting either a harp playing angel to descend over the blossoming romance, or for me to turn on him like a snake-haired, teeth-baring, screeching harpy who laughs manically as he turns to stone. ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/495 "2012-11-30T00:19:42Z")
> [@SouthernGuy](#): > > Not really trying to win cred per say, but trying to defuse the situation with what I thought was a funny reference. I didn’t think about the reception it would have due to speaking with majorly an older croud. That’s why I tend to read instead of post. I do so to learn from those with more experiences than myself from both sides of an argument. Nice to see things from multiple angles. Just yanking your chain. ---
**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/496 "2012-11-30T00:50:10Z")
> [@SouthernGuy](#): > > **even sven** > > I attributed that to my own naivette(I posted that earlier) at that time and hold myself just as responsible as her if not more for the way it turned out. Lesson learned. I put my case forward as to illustrate a possible friend zone. I was a kid at the time and probably still am by y’all’s standards. But you see how that’s not some mythical situation where the woman _would_ get with you, if only you hadn’t made some terrible mistake and inadvertently got “friend zoned.” In the situation you describe, the potential for “something more” was never there. There was nothing you could have done to make for a different outcome. You were her friend, not her would-be-if-only-xyz boyfriend. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/497 "2012-11-30T00:52:39Z")
> [@Troppus](#): > > You know what’s funny to me? The idea of a nervous guy approaching me at the grocery for small talk expecting either a harp playing angel to descend over the blossoming romance, or for me to turn on him like a snake-haired, teeth-baring, screeching harpy who laughs manically as he turns to stone. Smoke some weed. Some states it’s legal, and it’ll all chill and make sense. SWIM says. ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/498 "2012-11-30T01:20:14Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > Smoke some weed. Some states it’s legal, and it’ll all chill and make sense. SWIM says. Kind of what I was getting at. I doubt if anyone in this thread is extreme at all IRL. I’ve been hit on exactly once in six months, and he left dust when I said I’m married with newborn. I do hear about what coldhearted teases women are from male coworkers and a few of my lunkhead friends. But I clearly don’t know what the hell men are thinking and I don’t understand men at all, because I was complimented, flirted with, and propositioned more the last three months I was duck waddling pregnant than in the previous 41 years. You guys are into some weird shit. No wonder guys get all bent out of shape if an average woman turns them down, cause some of you sure seem willing to go the extra mile. ---
**Author:** ![Slithy\_Tove](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slithy_tove/32/18248_2.png) [@Slithy\_Tove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slithy_Tove)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/499 "2012-11-30T01:26:10Z")
> [@Troppus](#): > > But I clearly don’t know what the hell men are thinking and I don’t understand men at all, because I was complimented, flirted with, and propositioned more the last three months I was duck waddling pregnant than in the previous 41 years. No mystery. If a woman’s pregnant, it’s just proof she puts out. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336/500 "2012-11-30T01:29:34Z")
> [@Slithy\_Tove](#): > > No mystery. If a woman’s pregnant, it’s just proof she puts out. 😃 I beg your pardon! I’ll have you know I found myself in such a state via divine intervention. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336.md?page=24) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-attractive-married-women-plz-wear-a-ring/641336.md?page=26)