# Dear CitizenPained **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [February 1, 2012, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362 "2012-02-01T00:19:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 13
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 3:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/241 "2012-02-12T03:14:32Z")
[Target](http://www.target.com/c/furniture-bedroom-furniture-beds-headboards/-/N-5xtne#navigation=true&facetedValue=/-/N-5xtne&viewType=medium&sortBy=PriceLow&isleaf=true&navigationPath=5xtne&parentCategoryId=9976161&facetedValue=/-/N-5xtne&RatingFacet=0&customPrice=false&productsCount=619) has some very basic bedroom sets – some for less than $100. ---
**Author:** ![Farmer\_Jane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Farmer\_Jane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Farmer_Jane)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/242 "2012-02-12T03:40:51Z")
I had no idea the Dope was full of ob-gyns! :o The docs did several u/s…the reason why there was no immediate danger is because a) it’s a viable pregnancy and b) I wasn’t far. I have no idea how the F I had so many pains or what it was, but I do know that I am 7 and a half weeks [preggers](http://tinypic.com/r/22zsk9/5). In the other thread you keep referencing, I said there was a yolk sac, no fetal pole, so it would have to be repeated. Do you want me to start scanning bills form the ER showing the ultrasounds? :rolleyes::rolleyes: Really, people. As far as my son not having a bed, he doesn’t want one. He didn’t before and he doesn’t now. He’ll get one in a few months, but I’m sure he’ll use it for his stuffed animals. I don’t mind if he sleeps with me. I have several friends who do the same thing and their kids are just fine. Also, **Emouse** , I think even references to incest aren’t allowed in the Pit. ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 3:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/243 "2012-02-12T03:44:07Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > As far as my son not having a bed, he doesn’t want one. He didn’t before and he doesn’t now. It’s you that’s supposed to be the responsible adult in your household. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 3:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/244 "2012-02-12T03:48:28Z")
> [@MichaelEmouse](#): > > Why? My mother and I shared a bed until I was that age and we have a great sex life. My cousin Frank did it and he turned out just fine. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/245 "2012-02-12T03:50:43Z")
I have close relatives who shared beds with parents or grandparents until they went off to college. I don’t really see it as one of the problems that the OP needs to address immediately. ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/246 "2012-02-12T03:51:50Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > My cousin Frank did it and he turned out just fine. I am not **Freudian Slit** ’s cousin. As far as I know. ---
**Author:** ![Farmer\_Jane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Farmer\_Jane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Farmer_Jane)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 3:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/247 "2012-02-12T03:52:41Z")
> [@Frank](#): > > It’s you that’s supposed to be the responsible adult in your household. Co-sleeping isn’t awkward in my circle. ---
**Author:** ![Meyer6](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cc9497/32.png) [@Meyer6](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meyer6)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/248 "2012-02-12T03:53:18Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > As far as my son not having a bed, he doesn’t want one. The mark of a good parent is not that they give their kid whatever they want. He wants cereal for lunch, he wants to sleep with mommy every night (even when mommy has been taking serious medication and is crying all the time). That doesn’t necessarily make those things okay. ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/249 "2012-02-12T03:55:06Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > As far as my son not having a bed, he doesn’t want one. He didn’t before and he doesn’t now. He’ll get one in a few months, but I’m sure he’ll use it for his stuffed animals. I don’t mind if he sleeps with me. I have several friends who do the same thing and their kids are just fine.Pit. Not going to get into whether it is healthy for a boy to not want his own bed. But if what you say is true and he doesn’t want his own bed and you aren’t bothered either, why do you keep bringing it up? Why is he going to a school that costs more than you make in a year? What is so special about this school that you must sacrifice your sanity and your kid’s chances at having a normal social life? I do not think you’re a fraud, **CP**. But you’ve got to at least admit that there is cause for confusion. I am certainly confused. ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/250 "2012-02-12T03:56:19Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > Co-sleeping isn’t awkward in my circle. How about not leaving the house to buy food and suicide attempts? Equally accepted? ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/251 "2012-02-12T03:57:21Z")
> [@Frank](#): > > I am not **Freudian Slit** ’s cousin. As far as I know. Actually, he became Francine in 1976, then joined a cult. I think he goes by Mother Shabubu now. ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/252 "2012-02-12T03:59:31Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > Actually, he became Francine in 1976, then joined a cult. I think he goes by Mother Shabubu now. Not me. 😛 Thank heavens. ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 4:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/253 "2012-02-12T04:05:12Z")
Is it just me or did she go way below the belt for MPSIMS with her last post in the other thread? ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 4:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/254 "2012-02-12T04:08:56Z")
Hell yes. ---
**Author:** ![Farmer\_Jane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Farmer\_Jane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Farmer_Jane)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 4:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/255 "2012-02-12T04:11:13Z")
I was posting about how much I didn’t want to have an abortion when I had to, and she has to say that? Yeah, she can grow her own. I don’t care how unhospitable her reproductive system is - it doesn’t give her a right to be a bitch about it, especially since I’ve sent her PMs wishing her all the best. ---
**Author:** ![coolbyrne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bc79bd/32.png) [@coolbyrne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/coolbyrne)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/256 "2012-02-12T04:13:38Z")
I love how **CitizenPained** picks and chooses what to answer, all the while avoiding the questions that involve real factual explanations. “My son doesn’t want a bed” is an opinion, and of someone who has admitted to not being all that healthy emotionally at that. The internet is an untrustworthy place, but the more truth a poster gives, the less suspicion they receive. I would think someone who doesn’t want to be “bullied” would either cough up some facts, or stfu. Neither seems to be forthcoming here. I would like to clarify what I mean about a 7 year old needing a bed, by the way. I was not implying anything sordid, but rather pointing out that it might not be healthy for him emotionally nor mentally to not have his own private space. I won’t even get into how unhealthy it must be for him to be that close in proximity to a parent who is clearly in need of some help. How does he escape dealing with that as a 7 year old? ---
**Author:** ![EmAnJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d2c977/32.png) [@EmAnJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EmAnJ)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 4:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/257 "2012-02-12T04:15:26Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > I was posting about how much I didn’t want to have an abortion when I had to, and she has to say that? Yeah, she can grow her own. I don’t care how unhospitable her reproductive system is - it doesn’t give her a right to be a bitch about it, especially since I’ve sent her PMs wishing her all the best. Yeah, calling the baby an ‘alien’ that you want out of you and repeatedly saying you’ll use a coat hanger sure comes across as you really wanting to keep it. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Farmer\_Jane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Farmer\_Jane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Farmer_Jane)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 4:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/258 "2012-02-12T04:15:35Z")
You’re in the wrong thread. Photographic evidence the other way. ---
**Author:** ![Clockwork\_Jackal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b5e925/32.png) [@Clockwork\_Jackal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clockwork_Jackal)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 4:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/259 "2012-02-12T04:17:26Z")
I hope you reap what you sow, CitizenPained. I hope you reap what you sow. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 4:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/260 "2012-02-12T04:22:18Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > I was posting about how much I didn’t want to have an abortion when I had to, and she has to say that? Yeah, she can grow her own. I don’t care how unhospitable her reproductive system is - it doesn’t give her a right to be a bitch about it, especially since I’ve sent her PMs wishing her all the best. But see, that is the downside of posting your bidness all up and through the internets! She actually does have the right to be a bitch. People have the right to call you any horrible name they want to and not give your feelings nary a thought. You can’t honestly expect people to leave you alone to your private pain when you are making your pain very public and dramatic. It is strange to me that you do not seem the least bit bothered that you are splashed all over the internet. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362.md?page=12) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362.md?page=14)