# Dear CitizenPained **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [February 1, 2012, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362 "2012-02-01T00:19:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 15
**Author:** ![Farmer\_Jane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Farmer\_Jane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Farmer_Jane)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 4:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/281 "2012-02-12T04:52:55Z")
> [@florez](#): > > MPSIMS Post # 261 sez “there is an ultrasound photo next to my bed…” , the point is your son, if he is real, he is smart enough to take in your pain, even if you are trying to hide it from him. You do not seem to be considering the position you are putting him in (if he is real) . I guess all parents with pain shouldn’t have children. There goes 99 per cent of parents. Get over yourself. ---
**Author:** ![florez](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b9e5f3/32.png) [@florez](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/florez)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/282 "2012-02-12T04:56:34Z")
[QUOTE=CitizenPained;14765243 Get over yourself.[/QUOTE] Get help. ---
**Author:** ![Farmer\_Jane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Farmer\_Jane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Farmer_Jane)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/283 "2012-02-12T04:58:26Z")
I’m not the one who gets a kick out of attacking people over the Net. ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 5:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/284 "2012-02-12T05:04:04Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > I’m not the one who gets a kick out of attacking people over the Net. You are, however, the one who gets a kick out of splashing her drama over the Net. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 5:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/285 "2012-02-12T05:04:49Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > I’m not the one who gets a kick out of attacking people over the Net. All you have to do is stop posting your life on the Internet and stop replying. Drama over. You can divert that energy to working on your own problems, not your Internet problems. This whole thing will fade into SD obscurity soon enough. ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 5:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/286 "2012-02-12T05:06:15Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > \ > > Because _Friday_ is breakfast-for-lunch day. It doesn’t _matter_ if that makes sense to you, **monstro**. It matters to _me_. And if I know we need to get to the grocery store but I’m stressed and anxious, I feel like a POS for being anxious. He’s never gone to school without a good lunch. Do you understand why I have joined the chorus yelling that you really need to just stop talking? Posting here is not helping you and I think you know it. We are not your friends. You need to call your rabbi’s wife and let someone in real life reach out to you. You are probably a very dear person in real life, but we just can’t see that through this medium. ---
**Author:** ![florez](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b9e5f3/32.png) [@florez](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/florez)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 5:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/287 "2012-02-12T05:06:42Z")
Please CP, where did you expect this all to go? If any of this is real, I cannot help but be concerned for your son. I believe that you will have to answer to social services or child protective services in your area. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/288 "2012-02-12T05:07:30Z")
“Awkward in my circle” is not a criteria for parenting choices. What is best for the child is. How about this for size: better to get your son a bed now so he can be used to it and all (something that should have already happened, but whatever), because is your bed big enough for 3? I really don’t want to know where your son sleeps while you’re having sex or do you leave him alone all night or does he sleep with the sitter while you’re out? It is so easy to pick holes in your stories-less than 5 seconds of thought and here we are. So, when you have men over, does your son sleep on a couch? The floor? You cannot afford to provide the most basic of things for your son (a bed, maybe even his own room-outlandish notion!), and yet here you are–pregnant. Now there will be 2 tuitions to pay eventually… I mean this completely seriously: do you feel you are making good choices now? Why not get some help and insight into your behaviors and actions? ---
**Author:** ![Farmer\_Jane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Farmer\_Jane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Farmer_Jane)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/289 "2012-02-12T05:08:46Z")
Well, good thing I know where **Kolga** works. ---
**Author:** ![Meyer6](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cc9497/32.png) [@Meyer6](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meyer6)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/290 "2012-02-12T05:10:21Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > I’m not the one who gets a kick out of attacking people over the Net. Sure you are. You took obvious delight in that dig you got in to **EmanJ**. ---
**Author:** ![Farmer\_Jane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Farmer\_Jane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Farmer_Jane)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/291 "2012-02-12T05:11:31Z")
Fighting fire with fire. ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 5:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/292 "2012-02-12T05:15:07Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > Well, good thing I know where **Kolga** works. Is that a threat? ---
**Author:** ![Farmer\_Jane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Farmer\_Jane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Farmer_Jane)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 5:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/293 "2012-02-12T05:15:40Z")
> [@florez](#): > > Please CP, where did you expect this all to go? If any of this is real, I cannot help but be concerned for your son. > I believe that you will have to answer to social services or child protective services in your area. > [@Frank](#): > > Is that a threat? Is it? ---
**Author:** ![My\_Freakin\_Back\_Is\_Killing\_Me](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@My\_Freakin\_Back\_Is\_Killing\_Me](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/My_Freakin_Back_Is_Killing_Me)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 5:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/294 "2012-02-12T05:17:30Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > Fighting fire with fire. Great, can’t wait to see the flameout. ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/295 "2012-02-12T05:19:19Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > Is it? Is it? I’ve told you flat out in this thread that I’d report you to DHS (not, by the way, CPS) if I thought you were telling the truth. Should **florez** or I report you, what’s that got to do with **Kolga**? ---
**Author:** ![Meyer6](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cc9497/32.png) [@Meyer6](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meyer6)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/296 "2012-02-12T05:19:55Z")
> [@eleanorigby](#): > > I really don’t want to know where your son sleeps while you’re having sex or do you leave him alone all night or does he sleep with the sitter while you’re out? Not to mention where does he go when she is crying uncontrollably or when she’s taken her Dilaudid or Klonapin or whatever and has been drinking? Frankly I think co-sleeping at the age of 7 is creepy at the best of times and, especially with a single parent, speaks of a parent who is relying way too much on their kid for their own emotional wellbeing. But I know it is normal in some circles. Still, I can’t imagine how heart-wrenching it must be for that kid to watch mom doing all that stuff up close and in real time, with nowhere he can escape to. And he probably feels responsible for her happiness since she’s made it abundantly clear to him that’s he’s the only thing that can make her happy. It would make me sad if I thought he really existed. ---
**Author:** ![coolbyrne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bc79bd/32.png) [@coolbyrne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/coolbyrne)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/297 "2012-02-12T05:21:47Z")
> [@eleanorigby](#): > > “Awkward in my circle” is not a criteria for parenting choices. What is best for the child is. How about this for size: better to get your son a bed now so he can be used to it and all (something that should have already happened, but whatever), because is your bed big enough for 3? > > I really don’t want to know where your son sleeps while you’re having sex or do you leave him alone all night or does he sleep with the sitter while you’re out? > > It is so easy to pick holes in your stories-less than 5 seconds of thought and here we are. So, when you have men over, does your son sleep on a couch? The floor? > You cannot afford to provide the most basic of things for your son (a bed, maybe even his own room-outlandish notion!), and yet here you are–pregnant. Now there will be 2 tuitions to pay eventually… > > I mean this completely seriously: do you feel you are making good choices now? Why not get some help and insight into your behaviors and actions? I don’t know why you’re asking- these questions will never get answered. Instead, we’ll continue to be corrected on semantics regarding the non-use of “only” and how she’s so fucking poor she can’t afford a nightstand or picture frame. (Oh, I know that wasn’t actually said, but she may or may not want me to draw that conclusion, depending on whether or not is suits her current agenda.) However, just for shits and giggles, I’ll ask yet another question that is destined to remain unanswered: > [@](#): > > Total amount of cash I’ve given over the year: around $200. And yet your son still doesn’t have a bed. Regardless of what your 7 year old wants, does this sound like good parenting to you, CP? ---
**Author:** ![Soylent\_Juicy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/82dd89/32.png) [@Soylent\_Juicy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soylent_Juicy)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 5:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/298 "2012-02-12T05:22:57Z")
Okay so where’s Mr. AgoraphobicBabyDaddy nowadays? Still haven’t seen the answer to why he ripped up the cheques for the kid’s tuition and the abortion. Again, PLEASE stop with the oversharing. It’s getting creepy. I Google’d your username and pictures of your little boy came up. Get off the Internetz, look after yourself, and check in later if you feel you need to tell us what happened. ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/299 "2012-02-12T05:28:50Z")
> [@Soylent\_Juicy](#): > > I Google’d your username and pictures of your little boy came up. The boy is real? ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2012, 5:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/300 "2012-02-12T05:29:25Z")
Yes. DCFS does look at the child’s sleeping arrangements and somehow I think this won’t pass muster. Drinking and Dilaudid? And a baby on the way… There’s a parenting award out there for you, CP, but not the one you think you expect. At age 7, you should not be visiting his school just to see him. Do you do volunteer work in the school? Or are you codependent on this poor kid? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362.md?page=14) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362.md?page=16)