# Dear CitizenPained **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [February 1, 2012, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362 "2012-02-01T00:19:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 20
**Author:** ![kidchameleon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/898d66/32.png) [@kidchameleon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kidchameleon)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/381 "2012-02-13T17:41:30Z")
> [@The\_Dord](#): > > Changed your name **CP** eh? Clearly she is capable of _some_ learning. ---
**Author:** ![anya\_marie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ebca7d/32.png) [@anya\_marie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anya_marie)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/382 "2012-02-13T17:47:10Z")
He can’t even get shit together long enough to for her to get medical care for the STD he gave to her, so she’s going to get a puppy from this clown right after a dozen dopers each win at Powerball. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Borgia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_borgia/32/156_2.png) [@Larry\_Borgia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Borgia)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/383 "2012-02-13T17:54:57Z")
**CitizenPained** , Some advice, presented without rancor: Get off the internet. Not just the SDMB, delete all your social media accounts, delete your photo sharing accounts, cancel other messageboard memberships, stop posting to comments sections of news stories. Post nothing on the internet except absolutely necessary work/personal emails. You’ve already dug yourself a pretty deep hole by exposing so much personal info in such an easy to find manner. At least you can stop digging. Just my $.02 ---
**Author:** ![AnalogSignal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/analogsignal/32/1085_2.png) [@AnalogSignal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AnalogSignal)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/384 "2012-02-13T18:02:15Z")
> [@The\_Dord](#): > > Changed your name **CP** eh? The new name is kind of bland. I would have preferred **The Artist Formerly Known as CP**. ---
**Author:** ![Hbns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Hbns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hbns)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/385 "2012-02-13T18:09:56Z")
I think **CageyPhilanthropist** would have been a better choice. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Dord](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/3be4f8/32.png) [@The\_Dord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Dord)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/386 "2012-02-13T18:23:34Z")
> [@Hbns](#): > > I think **CageyPhilanthropist** would have been a better choice. CheesePizza would’ve been cooler.. and yummier… Damn it, now I’m hungry! :smack: ---
**Author:** ![LavenderBlue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e95f7d/32.png) [@LavenderBlue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LavenderBlue)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/387 "2012-02-13T18:47:41Z")
I remain grateful her name change wasn’t to **LavenderNavy** or some other such variant of my chosen user name. ---
**Author:** ![Spud](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spud/32/347_2.png) [@Spud](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spud)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 7:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/388 "2012-02-13T19:01:05Z")
> [@LavenderBlue](#): > > I remain grateful her name change wasn’t to **LavenderNavy** or some other such variant of my chosen user name. Or worse… LavenderBluth. ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/389 "2012-02-13T19:58:52Z")
Is there a post from TPTB about the namechange? I want to be able to refer to it later. I checked in ATMB and didn’t see one, which is where I thought that kind of thing was posted. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/390 "2012-02-13T20:03:17Z")
> [@rachelellogram](#): > > Is there a post from TPTB about the namechange? I want to be able to refer to it later. I checked in ATMB and didn’t see one, which is where I thought that kind of thing was posted. They are rarely announced (I think if a mod does it it gets announced)- it’s up to the individual to broadcast it if they so choose. Old messages that were quoted use the old name (quoted before the name change), even though old posts get the new name. But if you click on the little arrow thing to take you back to the quoted post you can see the new name. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 8:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/391 "2012-02-13T20:04:26Z")
I believe that the administration doesn’t make such announcements. It’s up to the user whose name is changed to decide whether to announce it. ---
**Author:** ![PlainJain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/5daacb/32.png) [@PlainJain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PlainJain)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/392 "2012-02-13T20:58:52Z")
> [@Spud](#): > > Or worse… LavenderBluth. I’m just glad it’s not Farmer Jain. ---
**Author:** ![CarnalK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnalk/32/486_2.png) [@CarnalK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CarnalK)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/393 "2012-02-13T21:27:31Z")
> [@even\_sven](#): > > There are a few people on this board who are ghouls- it’s the same kind of people who call up the parents of suicides to mock them, or who post graphic pictures of car crashes. These sad, broken people enjoy hurting people, and especially when they can do so in real life. It makes them feel powerful. Maybe their parents didn’t love them enough or something. Another set of people are just wanna bes who think the ghouls are the cool kids and jump out with claws bared when they smell blood. > > You can’t defend yourself against these people. You are right that you will never satisfy them They are not interested in you, they just want to cause pain and the see a weak one in the herd to do it to. Name names, please. Who here in this thread is a ghoul whose only motivation is to cause pain? ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/394 "2012-02-13T21:36:41Z")
The OP should request a thread title change to reflect the name change. ---
**Author:** ![guizot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guizot/32/3636_2.png) [@guizot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/guizot)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/395 "2012-02-13T22:01:17Z")
> [@Sparky\_the\_Wonder\_Spirit](#): > > It’s crazy how people think mixing wine and prescription muscle-relaxants counts as “drugs and alchohol”. Clonopin isn’t a muscle-relaxant–it’s a benzo, and when benzos are combined with alcohol really unexpected things can happen with one’s mental functions. In fact, it could even be that that is the combination that did in Whitney Houston. ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/396 "2012-02-13T22:46:13Z")
> [@guizot](#): > > Clonopin isn’t a muscle-relaxant–it’s a benzo, and when benzos are combined with alcohol really unexpected things can happen with one’s mental functions. In fact, it could even be that that is the combination that did in Whitney Houston. I couldn’t help but think of this thread when it came out that she was mixing prescription drugs and alcohol. ☹ I know I’ve considered doing the same thing that **CP** has. All I can say is that pain that won’t go away will drive you to do anything. ---
**Author:** ![Minnie\_Luna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4bbf92/32.png) [@Minnie\_Luna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Minnie_Luna)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/397 "2012-02-13T23:29:40Z")
I have read this thread and the other CP/FJ threads with morbid fascination. I have a lot of things I would **like** to say to CP/FJ, but really only one thing that I feel needs to be said. I grew up with a mother with unresolved mental health issues. It fucked me up something bad. I won’t go into specifics, but let’s just say there are enough similarities between CP/FJ and my mother that I fear her son will suffer the same issues I have suffered. It is an unfair burden to put your mental health issues on your child. As much as you think you are insulating him from them, you aren’t. Every single action you take has an effect on your child. Your child **knows** you are suffering. You can’t hide it from him, as hard as you try. I know you will read this and say to yourself that you aren’t my mother and I am not your son. You will say that the situations are completely different and deny culpability, etc. I have been in enough therapy groups to know that even if the situations aren’t truly alike, there are a whole bunch of us out there that are dealing with the repercussions of parents with untreated addictions/mental health issues/etc. and we can all relate very well to each other. In addition to seeking help for yourself, please consider seeking treatment for your son. The longer this goes on, the worse the outcome for your son. ---
**Author:** ![FE3O4ENAIL](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ba9def/32.png) [@FE3O4ENAIL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FE3O4ENAIL)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/398 "2012-02-13T23:41:03Z")
> [@Larry\_Borgia](#): > > **CitizenPained** , Some advice, presented without rancor: Get off the internet. Not just the SDMB, delete all your social media accounts, delete your photo sharing accounts, cancel other messageboard memberships, stop posting to comments sections of news stories. Post nothing on the internet except absolutely necessary work/personal emails. You’ve already dug yourself a pretty deep hole by exposing so much personal info in such an easy to find manner. At least you can stop digging. > > Just my $.02 Post 345: "FE3O4ENAIL Guest Join Date: Apr 2009 I would like to help, so I will give some specific direction. Please chime in if I am off. CitizenPained, stop all posting with that username. You can’t stop what is out there but you can stop adding to it. Use one new username for all your professional use of the internet, another for personal. " Great minds think alike. ---
**Author:** ![bucketybuck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/898d66/32.png) [@bucketybuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bucketybuck)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 11:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/399 "2012-02-13T23:47:25Z")
Bucketybuck Member Join date 2008 I also would like to help. **Citizenpained** , if a man holding some double glazing comes to your door, don’t let him in. He will probably try to sell you some double glazing, but don’t do it, you have no money! (Ghouls indeed, we are the forum that likes to help!) ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2012, 12:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362/400 "2012-02-14T00:21:33Z")
> [@anya\_marie](#): > > She needs to dump that disease-carrying, useless son of a bitch. He keeps giving her checks and then canceling them, according to her posts. I wonder why the abrupt turn around. Perhaps it was after the doc said that they couldn’t find an embryo sac? If this is the case, then he goes from being a disease-carrying asshole useless son of a bitch to just a disease-carrier son of a bitch. I certainly wouldn’t blame him for tearing up the check absent a certified pregnancy. This is an example how CP/FJ could be telling the truth while also withholding pertinent, extremely relevant information. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362.md?page=19) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-citizenpained/611362.md?page=21)