# Dear Friend: Where the Fuck Are You??? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [October 15, 2011, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730 "2011-10-15T12:44:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/1 "2011-10-15T12:44:09Z")
I made plans to drive with a friend to the Dutchess County Sheep and Wool Festival. This is one of THE national-level events for yarn crafting in the US. I could have taken Metro-North but I thought it would be more fun to go with a friend, and getting a ride is (theoretically) faster. **I got up at 6:45 in the goddamn morning on a saturday so we could get an early start.** She was supposed to pick me up at 7:30. We talked about it last night, I even agreed to write out the directions to save her some trouble. I packed snacks. It is 8:45 and no sign of her. I have called and texted her every 15 minutes since 7:45 rolled around. No answer, no reply. WHAT THE FUCK??? ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 12:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/2 "2011-10-15T12:50:35Z")
Yikes! I’d be really worried… until I found out she overslept or something. Hope your friend is ok. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 1:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/3 "2011-10-15T13:12:36Z")
Me too. Hope it turns out OK, and that you guys still get to go. A friend of mine is going, too, actually. That’s how I know what the festival is – and what a big deal it can be. ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/4 "2011-10-15T13:20:48Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > Me too. Hope it turns out OK, and that you guys still get to go. A friend of mine is going, too, actually. That’s how I know what the festival is – and what a big deal it can be. Yeah, I’m definitely concerned (in between bouts of being mad about getting up so early). She’s not really the sort of person who flakes. Even if she’s going to be late to something, she always calls. ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 2:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/5 "2011-10-15T14:05:45Z")
Friend: Overslept. Apologetic. Coming to get me now. Me: Still annoyed over the 6fucking45 thing. Happy nothing’s wrong. Still excited to go. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 2:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/6 "2011-10-15T14:11:19Z")
Best outcome! Phew! ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/7 "2011-10-15T14:30:40Z")
Yay! Have fun at the festival. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 2:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/8 "2011-10-15T14:32:48Z")
Those knitting needles are probably really good for stabbing. Kidding, of course. Have fun! ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/9 "2011-10-15T14:47:45Z")
I’d still be pissed off that someone can’t keep an arrangement. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/10 "2011-10-15T15:08:36Z")
What kind of snacks did you pack? Anything good? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2011, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/11 "2011-10-16T01:00:49Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > What kind of snacks did you pack? Anything good? 🙂 Smoked turkey, cheese, pears, fancy crackers, almonds, hummus, fig newtons, dark chocolate with raspberries, and water (one bottle frozen so as to be cold for later). I think I did ok. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2011, 1:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/12 "2011-10-16T01:19:51Z")
Yum. Next time call me! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/e19adc/32.png) [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2011, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/13 "2011-10-16T05:00:08Z")
This’ll make you feel better, **Hello Again** … My friend of 23 years decides to move countries. She has 8 months off. In that time, she is so busy, I see her once for about 4 hours. A week before her flight, she texts me, telling me she’d finally booked, and that she’d like to see me before she goes - which day did I have free? I reply, and the nominated day is 5 days hence. The 5 days go by, during which time I have had no confirmation from her; nor does she answer her phone (no messagebank) or reply to any texts. The day of our non-existant ‘last hurrah’ comes and goes, as does her day of departure two days later. I figure I’ll find out what happened at _some_ point, and give it a week in her new country before I try calling again. It rings out. I text. Response? 0. A month goes by. I try a-_gain_. Mobile’s disconnected. I have no forwarding address. She left 4 months ago, and I ain’t heard _nuthin’_. My birthday passed unacknowledged. Somehow, :smack: I get the idea that we’re not friends anymore… Hope you had a snacky, crafty, sheep day! ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2011, 6:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/14 "2011-10-16T06:41:45Z")
That’s really creepy, **6Impossiblethings**. If this were a movie, it would be the start of something truly sinister. ---
**Author:** ![6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/e19adc/32.png) [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2011, 7:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/15 "2011-10-16T07:14:32Z")
Yeah, **Freudian Slit**! Like the bitch moved into the house directly across the street… ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2011, 7:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/16 "2011-10-16T07:53:46Z")
I got up at 6:45 this morning because my phone was ringing. It was someone wanting to speak to William. My name’s not William. > [@Hello\_Again](#): > > I have called and texted her every 15 minutes since 7:45 rolled around. No answer, no reply. It wasn’t you, was it? ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2011, 12:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/17 "2011-10-16T12:04:27Z")
Many years ago I went to NC for a vacation with friends. They insisted we leave in the middle of the night. I complained - back then I was not a morning person. No, no, they insisted, you \*must \*leave then to beat the traffic. Rather than risk missing the leave-time, I stayed up all night and got there _on time_ - and those sons-of-bitches were dead asleep. And I was pissed. They hadn’t even packed their freaking car yet. It made a long drive, even longer. ---
**Author:** ![asterion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/4da419/32.png) [@asterion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/asterion)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2011, 12:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/18 "2011-10-16T12:11:19Z")
Hey, I was there yesterday too. Thing is, I made the mistake of taking the Thruway to Kingston (we wanted to stop and have breakfast at Sonic) and then backtracking up to the Kingston-Rhinecliff Bridge, taking 199 to 9G to US-9 and the fairgrounds. That’s something like 6 miles from the tollbooth. Traffic was so bad it was backed up across the Hudson and past the tollbooths and it took me two hours to go those last six miles. Then of course getting out was a freaking train wreck as everyone wanted to do it in reverse and get back to the Thruway. So I did what I should have done in the morning and cut east to the Taconic Parkway. A late-afternoon in the middle of October is a very pretty drive on that road. Next year I’m taking either 9 or the Taconic, or we’re continuing on south on 9W and crossing the river into Poughkeepsie and try getting in from the south. (Oddly enough, if you tell Google Maps you want directions from Kingston to Rhinebeck it does exactly that instead of going up to 199. I can’t figure out why.) ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2011, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/19 "2011-10-16T15:24:13Z")
> [@asterion](#): > > Next year I’m taking either 9 or the Taconic, or we’re continuing on south on 9W and crossing the river into Poughkeepsie and try getting in from the south. (Oddly enough, if you tell Google Maps you want directions from Kingston to Rhinebeck it does exactly that instead of going up to 199. I can’t figure out why.) The Taconic drive was perfect in both directions, both into and out of the fair. There was literally ZERO traffic on 199/308 when we left about 5:15pm. Apparently the difference in the 2 routes is enormous, as all I have heard is horror stories about the Kingston bridge. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2011, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730/20 "2011-10-16T15:35:40Z")
> [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](#): > > Yeah, **Freudian Slit**! Like the bitch moved into the house directly across the street… If it were just that, couldn’t you email her? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-friend-where-the-fuck-are-you/599730.md?page=2)