# Dear Miss Ogynist...Miss Andryst...Miss Anthrope...Miss thang... ahem. Dear catsix, **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [August 10, 2006, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112 "2006-08-10T03:42:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 8
**Author:** ![Sarahfeena](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sarahfeena/32/519_2.png) [@Sarahfeena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sarahfeena)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 11:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/141 "2006-08-10T23:20:19Z")
[QUOTE=CarnalK] I think that it “certainly implies” is the huge leap being made, by you. And she’s right, it doesn’t exactly help the equality situation. [/QUOTE] So…what DID she mean when she said it doesn’t help the equality situation? I took it to mean that as long as men give up their seats to women, women will never be equal in society. If it meant something else, I would love for you to explain it to me. ---
**Author:** ![Beaucarnea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c0e974/32.png) [@Beaucarnea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beaucarnea)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 11:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/142 "2006-08-10T23:28:21Z")
[QUOTE=Scumpup] You’re frothing and foaming pretty good now, me ol’ hosiery. As you well know, what with your multiple identities here and all, this is just a discussion board. We express opinions here. Catsix has expressed an opinion regarding “chivalrous” actions here. Nothing more. All the rest of this is just you sputtering. I can only surmise that, in your real identity in some other thread, she brutally and publically sodomized you. This lame-ass thread is some kind of attempt at revenge w/o risking the dignity of your “real” identity further. [/QUOTE] Dude, when **catsix** finds out that you are fighting her battles for her and otherwise rushing to her aid, she is totally going to flame you. Didn’t you read her posts? She can take care of herself. She isn’t some helpless damsel in distress. Not a member of the weaker sex. I don’t think you know her at all. Sheesh. ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/143 "2006-08-11T00:12:36Z")
[QUOTE=Beaucarnea] Dude, when **catsix** finds out that you are fighting her battles for her and otherwise rushing to her aid, she is totally going to flame you. Didn’t you read her posts? She can take care of herself. She isn’t some helpless damsel in distress. Not a member of the weaker sex. I don’t think you know her at all. Sheesh. [/QUOTE] Why do I feel like I’m replying to a Haine’s Knee-High? She’s been following this thread all along and replying to it. She’s no damsel in distress, nor does she need my help. She is, however, someone I like. If I see any friend of mine bing plagued by some random asshole, I’m happy to jump in. ---
**Author:** ![catsix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e19b73/32.png) [@catsix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/catsix)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/144 "2006-08-11T00:16:17Z")
> [@](#): > > **Scumpup** said: > Why do I feel like I’m replying to a Haine’s Knee-High? > She’s been following this thread all along and replying to it. > She’s no damsel in distress, nor does she need my help. > She is, however, someone I like. > If I see any friend of mine bing plagued by some random asshole, I’m happy to jump in. I appreciate it, friend. I see things have really gotten out of hand while I was off making my sushi. ---
**Author:** ![Beaucarnea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c0e974/32.png) [@Beaucarnea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beaucarnea)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/145 "2006-08-11T00:27:48Z")
In Thailand, it is polite to refrain from touching someone’s head. In some areas of the Middle East, we avoid using the forefinger to thumb “okay” symbol. We don’t belittle or fight the cultural practices of others; it is a matter of respect. And in the United States we have certain cultural habits. We offer (offer; not insist) to offer a seat or open a door for a lady, for our elders, for the infirm, or for the visibly exhausted or uncomfortable (I am including pregnant here) because it is a kind and polite thing to do. Doesn’t matter whether the other person is wearing a skirt or pants. Some of you may choose to read an insult into every attempt by a male to make you more comfortable. But offering a seat or holding a door is not an _intentional_ affront to your physical abilities. It is just a polite cultural practice. We don’t have an agenda to undermine all the progress you have made since sufferage. **catsix** , you stated earlier that you choose to use the board to educate people. I appreciate and respect your point of view; but you haven’t changed my mind. The occasional dirty look is worth the risk. I will continue to offer my seat to the pregnant, the elderly, the infirm, or the tired as long as I am the less-encumbered one of the two of us. ---
**Author:** ![jaderabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/9fc29f/32.png) [@jaderabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jaderabbit)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/146 "2006-08-11T00:39:57Z")
[QUOTE=Sarahfeena] Just make mine non-alcoholic, as it’s not a great plan to be boozing it up in the first trimester! 🙂 [/QUOTE] Congratulations! And now you know what to expect on public transit. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![CarnalK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnalk/32/486_2.png) [@CarnalK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CarnalK)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 2:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/147 "2006-08-11T02:21:33Z")
[QUOTE=Sarahfeena] So…what DID she mean when she said it doesn’t help the equality situation? I took it to mean that as long as men give up their seats to women, women will never be equal in society. If it meant something else, I would love for you to explain it to me. [/QUOTE] Here’s a crazy idea but maybe she meant: > [@](#): > > Chivalry is built around the premise that women are dainty and weak and need to be protected and coddled and shown deference no matter what their abilities that a man would not get. It doesn’t exactly do much for equal treatment. i.e. maintaining customs and rituals based on inequality DOESN’T ACTUALLY HELP the drive for equality. Why go nuts and jump to the conclusion that she thinks it’s some deal breaker or the front lines of the battle of the sexes. I personally think little courtesies between the sexes could continue while still getting equality. It would be a shame if the custom of a woman fetching her husband’s slippers after a hard day of work were to die out. ---
**Author:** ![Jodi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/7feea3/32.png) [@Jodi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jodi)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/148 "2006-08-11T02:27:57Z")
DAVENPORTAVENGER sez: > [@](#): > > No, we don’t like to be offered drinks at a bar because it is a tacit invitation by the dude in question to waddle himself over and feel like he’s entitled to have a conversation with me, and maybe even have sex with me, and it puts me into this really uncomfortable what-the-fuck anxiety spiral that is better off avoided. Plus there might be drugs in the drink. Who knows? By “we” I assume you mean you and the frog in your pocket, as opposed to presuming to speak for all the ladies, because IMO this is another example of a pretty bleak outlook. Talk about your dark worlds. Every man who offers you his seat is covertly insulting you, and every man who tries to buy you a drink in a bar is at best going to attempt to (gasp!) talk to you (which god forbid) or at worst is going to slip you roofies to despoil your body while you’re unconscious. Jesus. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/149 "2006-08-11T03:07:31Z")
[QUOTE=Anaamika] It’s not that. It’s not even as though I would bite anyone’s head off for it! But yeah, it does just make me raise an eyebrow when I hear men saying they would stand up for a woman, anytime, no matter her physical condition. It smacks of making us into the weaker sex, that we need such things, that we can’t do it ourselves. [/QUOTE] Has it ever occurred to any of you “quick to take offense where none is even imagined” types that many men do this because they were taught it was the polite thing to do, and that there is NOTHING to it other than that? That it has nothing to do with what the man thinks you can or can’t do, but instead has to do with what the man thinks of himself? That is, as the poster above replied with the old saying “…I did it because I’m a gentleman”. ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 3:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/150 "2006-08-11T03:16:42Z")
[QUOTE=Scumpup] **Catsix** is a polite, well-spoken person. That’s a fact, Cholmondeley. She’s not angry or foul-mouthed. She’s a pleasure to talk with and she has good taste in beer and guns. [/QUOTE] And where exactly does catsix behave in such an unrecognizable way? Because she certainly rarely exhibits the behaviour you describe above here on the Dope. She’s been angry AND foulmouthed in both this thread and the one linked to by the OP. And I’ve not seen a single thread where a woman was making a LEGITIMATE complaint about harrassment, or some similar situation, that catsix hasn’t come into and poured poison over the entire thing. ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/151 "2006-08-11T03:38:15Z")
[QUOTE=CanvasShoes] And where exactly does catsix behave in such an unrecognizable way? Because she certainly rarely exhibits the behaviour you describe above here on the Dope. She’s been angry AND foulmouthed in both this thread and the one linked to by the OP. And I’ve not seen a single thread where a woman was making a LEGITIMATE complaint about harrassment, or some similar situation, that catsix hasn’t come into and poured poison over the entire thing. [/QUOTE] I’m going to let you in on a secret, but you have to promise not to spread it around: There is more to life than this discussion board. Now you figure out the rest from there. ---
**Author:** ![CarnalK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnalk/32/486_2.png) [@CarnalK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CarnalK)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 3:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/152 "2006-08-11T03:52:42Z")
> [@](#): > > CanvasShoes: > She’s been angry AND foulmouthed in both this thread and the one linked to by the OP. Hey, an opportunity to be the first catsix hater to post a link illustrating your point! Good luck. ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/153 "2006-08-11T04:00:07Z")
[QUOTE=Scumpup] I’m going to let you in on a secret, but you have to promise not to spread it around: There is more to life than this discussion board. Now you figure out the rest from there. [/QUOTE] Several posters already let you in on a little secret, however she may have acted when she met you, most of her time here she doesn’t behave the same way you describe her acting with you. You would have a point had people attacked the behaviour you say you witnessed IRL, what you have here, are people who’ve seen her outraged, one trick pony rants for quite some time. We get it, you like her. Who she presented herself to be in real life, is not who she presents herself to be here. And since all we have to go on is the angry vile way she generally “speaks” here, we have no way of knowing what there is to her outside of this board. ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 4:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/154 "2006-08-11T04:11:55Z")
[QUOTE=CarnalK] Hey, an opportunity to be the first catsix hater to post a link illustrating your point! Good luck. [/QUOTE] I’m hardly the first. There are several other posters with much better navigational and search capabilities than I have who have already done so in many other threads. But just in this thread alone… Foulmouthedness (not a real word). > [@](#): > > My foreman saw no problem with me telling him to get out of my way before I put that shovel up his ass. > > What the bloody blue fuck on a Triscuit is wrong with that? > > Silly fuckin me, I posted my opinion in IMHO. And her post #19 in this thread where she accuses the OP of being a troll and stalking her. As if lurking in order to get to know a message board is somehow a crime or something. Very accusatory and angry sounding. It could very well be that catsix is simply incapable of expressing herself very well in type, and simply comes across better in real life. I’ll accept that that may be the case here since I obviously don’t know her IRL. ---
**Author:** ![CarnalK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnalk/32/486_2.png) [@CarnalK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CarnalK)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/155 "2006-08-11T04:25:46Z")
No you are the first. Maureen and DianeG just made shit up, basically. And yeah, I suppose that’s foulmouthed but guess what, you said BOTH threads, so you’ve failed the assignment like the others. ---
**Author:** ![CarnalK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnalk/32/486_2.png) [@CarnalK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CarnalK)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 4:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/156 "2006-08-11T04:29:49Z")
and PS- That example is from this Pit thread so you’ll forgive me for not giving a shit that she was foulmouthed, especially when it wasn’t even directed at another poster, ffs. ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/157 "2006-08-11T04:35:31Z")
[QUOTE=CarnalK] No you are the first. Maureen and DianeG just made shit up, basically. And yeah, I suppose that’s foulmouthed but guess what, you said BOTH threads, so you’ve failed the assignment like the others. [/QUOTE] As I said, others are likely way better at searching than I am, and not as lazy about seaching. Unlike catsix I have no trouble revealing in which areas I have severe limitations and faults. But when I said I am not the first, I didn’t mean the first regarding \*\*just \*\* these two threads, I’m talking about a mulititude of threads into which cat has waded and hijacked for her own woman hating agenda. At any rate, as I said, it’s entirely likely that IRL catsix is the sweetest nicest most polite person to walk the earth, I have no way of knowing and no problem admitting that I don’t know her behaviour IRL, but here her behaviour is the opposite of what **scumpup** says he witnessed upon meeting her. ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/158 "2006-08-11T04:40:11Z")
[QUOTE=CarnalK] and PS- That example is from this Pit thread so you’ll forgive me for not giving a shit that she was foulmouthed, especially when it wasn’t even directed at another poster, ffs. [/QUOTE] I don’t care that’s she’s foulmouthed. She can be as foulmouthed as she wants to be, and usually is. So? So are all of us from time to time whether in the dope, or out in the world. The point of my post wasn’t whether or not she was allowed to be foulmouthed. It was in answer to **scumpup’s** claim that she was polite and not foulmouthed, or angry. She’s proven to be both angry and foulmouthed in this thread alone, belying his claim. ---
**Author:** ![CarnalK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnalk/32/486_2.png) [@CarnalK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CarnalK)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/159 "2006-08-11T04:40:22Z")
Sorry to be the one to tell you, CanvasShoes, but you are full of shit. You clearly said she was foulmouthed in both threads, implying you fucking read it. And now you try to pretend you are just inept in searching? A single thread? Lame, buddy. ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2006, 5:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112/160 "2006-08-11T05:17:29Z")
[QUOTE=CarnalK] Sorry to be the one to tell you, CanvasShoes, but you are full of shit. You clearly said she was foulmouthed in both threads, implying you fucking read it. And now you try to pretend you are just inept in searching? A single thread? Lame, buddy. [/QUOTE] First off, I’m not a buddy. Second, fine you made me look. In her first post, both angry, insulting and foulmouthed. > [@](#): > > I find it stupid to automatically assume that because I am female I am unable to stand up on a bus or a train or anywhere. Angry…Anything catsix doesn’t personally endorse is “stupid” or any number of equally insulting labels. This is actually pretty mild for catsix, but the gist is there. If she doesn’t agree with it, or understand it, it’s stupid. > [@](#): > > I don’t think someone should expect special perks because \*\*they chose to breed. > \*\* > > I agree with you. \*\*Someone else’s decision to breed \*\*does not entitle them automatically to special treatment. Breed appears to be cat’s favorite word in discussing women who are pregnant or who dare to have children on HER planet. Angry and unnecessarily derogatory. > [@](#): > > I pay no attention to the pregnancy spaces in parking lots either. How the hell would they legally enforce that? Force me to pee on a stick? Foulmouthed and tacky. But you’re right, in one way, and maybe a happy way. These are very mild examples of the catsix modus operandi. Perhaps she is mellowing with age, that would be nice. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112.md?page=7) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/dear-miss-ogynist-miss-andryst-miss-anthrope-miss-thang-ahem-dear-catsix/368112.md?page=9)