# (Deciding on marriage): "Any answer other than an overwhelming Yes is a no." **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 20, 2018, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/deciding-on-marriage-any-answer-other-than-an-overwhelming-yes-is-a-no/816420 "2018-06-20T02:04:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 2\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![betterlifethroughchemistry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/betterlifethroughchemistry/32/3094_2.png) [@betterlifethroughchemistry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betterlifethroughchemistry)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2018, 5:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/deciding-on-marriage-any-answer-other-than-an-overwhelming-yes-is-a-no/816420/21 "2018-06-28T05:56:00Z")
> [@Inigo\_Montoya](#): > > More directly to the OP: I don’t believe there is a “The One.” There are many “ones” that anyone can happily spend the rest of their life with. The tricky part is finding someone who is willing to consider marriage as permanent as you do. TOTALLY agree…it’s all a balance, love, trust, and in our case, putting other little beings’ interest in front of your own, and when they grow up and leave the nest, being able to look at the other person across the breakfast table and be happy they are there… ---
**Author:** ![rbroome](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/838e76/32.png) [@rbroome](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rbroome)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2018, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/deciding-on-marriage-any-answer-other-than-an-overwhelming-yes-is-a-no/816420/22 "2018-06-30T03:56:17Z")
My brother is a lawyer. He has handled the divorces of many of his friends that expressed doubts before getting married. He and his wife, and I and my wife, never felt any doubts. He has been married longer than I and I have been married 41 years now and still going strong. Doubts are a red flag. Any there are lots of couples who had no doubts about getting married. Just sayin… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/deciding-on-marriage-any-answer-other-than-an-overwhelming-yes-is-a-no/816420.md?page=1)