I think the problem is that we are delaying natural consequences. As long as the blue states subsidize the red states, conservatives are not having to live with the results of their policies.
It happens on all fronts. The obvious one being that more money pours into conservative states than comes out, but there are also more subtle ones. The gay children of conservatives just move to the coast where they can live productive lives free from harassment while their parents in Dogpatchville go to church and talk about their son who “never found the right girl”. Conservatives can rant and rave about prohibiting abortion knowing that it is still safe and legal in case their little girl gets knocked up. States can underfund their education systems and then use tax breaks to attract companies that were started in areas of the country that had the foresight to place a value in top notch universities. Parents can lament the fact that “we removed God from the classroom” without the worry that their Mormon children will be proselytized by Baptist teachers who want to convert them to proper Christians. Tea Partiers can demand that the government keep their hands out of healthcare secure in the knowledge that Medicare provides them with affordable coverage. If we would let Florida pay for it’s own hurricane recovery, or Louisiana pay for it’s own levees, or Arizona live without the spending from all the retirees on Social Security maybe they would shut the fuck up for a moment.