# Describe your ideal mate in three words or less
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [January 15, 2008, 7:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593 "2008-01-15T07:55:22Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@placebo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/placebo)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 7:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/1 "2008-01-15T07:55:22Z")
If you had to narrow it down, what would you say are the _three_ most important qualities you are looking for in a romantic and/or sexual partner? If you can, try to rank them in decreasing order of preference. If you want, please specify your age, sex and orientation along with your answer. Thank you.
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### Author:  [@placebo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/placebo)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 8:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/2 "2008-01-15T08:24:20Z")
And before anyone asks me to try my own medicine, I am a 30 year-old straight male and my ideal woman is:
1. beautiful;
2. kind;
3. honest.
Your turn.
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### Author:  [@FloatyGimpy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FloatyGimpy)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 8:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/3 "2008-01-15T08:40:03Z")
37, female, straight
1. Intelligent
2. Funny
3. Nice
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### Author:  [@drm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drm)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 8:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/4 "2008-01-15T08:43:47Z")
30, Male, Straight
1. sweet
2. Tolerant
3. athletic
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### Author:  [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 8:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/5 "2008-01-15T08:48:23Z")
40, female, straight
1. Gentle
2. Protective
3. Intelligent
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### Author:  [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 11:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/6 "2008-01-15T11:09:58Z")
24, female, straight
1. Compassionate
2. Intelligent
3. Hilarious
These have never really changed for me.
My spouse qualifies, with the delightful twist that his ‘‘hilarious’’-ness is completely unintentional. I spend much more time laughing at him than laughing with him. But it works!
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### Author:  [@Noone\_Special](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Noone_Special)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 11:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/7 "2008-01-15T11:15:54Z")
[QUOTE=FloatyGimpy]
37, female, straight
1. Intelligent
2. Funny
3. Nice
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44, male, straight.
You have described my “perfect woman.”
If you are what you want, and I weren’t married already, I might be interested… 🙂
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### Author:  [@Silence\_of\_the\_clams](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silence_of_the_clams)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 11:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/8 "2008-01-15T11:29:36Z")
1. Enjoys cooking really good food: it really says it all, the way to a mans heart goes through the digestive system
2. Likes to be outdoors: walking barefoot through the forrest, skinnydipping, hiking, skiing, fishing, berrypicking etc.
3. Is independent: even though being a wife and a mother, does not succumb to being an ingrown housewife, but has a job and is able to entertain parts of her own time
I, a 34 year young straight male, have spoken. Ugh!
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### Author:  [@Audrey\_Levins](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Audrey_Levins)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 11:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/9 "2008-01-15T11:29:48Z")
29, female, straight.
1.) Sweet
2.) Funny
3.) Mellow
It takes intelligence to be funny, and patience to be mellow, and a gentle disposition to be sweet. They are all tied together and they are all essential, AFAIC.
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### Author:  [@Kayeby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kayeby)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 11:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/10 "2008-01-15T11:56:55Z")
24, female, straight
1. Competent
2. Kind
3. Whimsical\*
\*This isn’t the exact word I’m after but I can’t think of a way to describe the kind of irreverent humour I like. How about this: the other night we were with a group of friends talking about teeth. One of these friends (Joel) has a beard that looks so right on him that whenever I think of Joel I think of his beard. Anyway during this discussion my fiance says “Joel’s teeth have beards”. I laughed so hard my stomach hurt. I know I’ve taken extra words but I wanted to clarify how I meant “whimsical” and didn’t want people thinking that I wanted a guy who wore an octopus on his head or something.
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### Author:  [@placebo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/placebo)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 12:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/11 "2008-01-15T12:03:40Z")
Apparently, I’m the only one so far who cares about looks _or_ honesty? Coincidence? :dubious:
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### Author:  [@placebo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/placebo)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 12:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/12 "2008-01-15T12:05:28Z")
Apparently, I’m the only one so far who cares about looks _or_ honesty. Coincidence? :dubious:
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### Author:  [@garius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/garius)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 12:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/13 "2008-01-15T12:40:41Z")
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> Describe your ideal mate in three words or less
“Tea? Yes Please!”
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### Author:  [@Desultourist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Desultourist)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 1:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/14 "2008-01-15T13:00:35Z")
Ranger, Chaotic Good.
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### Author:  [@Grossbottom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grossbottom)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/15 "2008-01-15T13:58:09Z")
33 male, and I choose
1. happy
2. sexy
3. independent
Happy is the most important, though I never seem to realize it until I’m dating a girl who brings zero joy into my life. A good general disposition is sine qua non from now on.
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### Author:  [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 2:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/16 "2008-01-15T14:16:38Z")
1. Not
2. Too
3. Psycho
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### Author:  [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 2:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/17 "2008-01-15T14:17:18Z")
The three qualities I require in a mate:
Wit
Lust
Integrity
It sounds easy when you break it down that way. So far, not so much.
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### Author:  [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/18 "2008-01-15T14:22:39Z")
Smart.
Kind.
Funny.
53, female, straight
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### Author:  [@Cowgirl\_Jules](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cowgirl_Jules)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/19 "2008-01-15T14:22:47Z")
Female, 38.
Capable
Kind
Honest
Found him, too.
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### Author:  [@Maeglin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maeglin)
#### Post date: [January 15, 2008, 2:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/describe-your-ideal-mate-in-three-words-or-less/433593/20 "2008-01-15T14:31:26Z")
29 male, straight.
My wife.
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