# Did any of you follow Mommy's advice to 'marry well'? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 30, 2000, 6:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-any-of-you-follow-mommys-advice-to-marry-well/24130 "2000-06-30T06:49:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![lindsay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/3be4f8/32.png) [@lindsay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lindsay)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2000, 6:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-any-of-you-follow-mommys-advice-to-marry-well/24130/1 "2000-06-30T06:49:20Z")
And if so did it turn out okay. Something reminded me of a letter my old biddy of an aunt wrote. It was page after page of drivel about how boys only want one thing. She couldn’t have written the word sex for anything. That letter droned on and on about don’t have sex unless you are married, and of course always wear clean underwear in case you are clobbered by a car, lest the single, handsome doc sees your ordinary panties and passes on the chance to marry you. I thought this was hilarious. But did any of you who got this spiel follow it and did it work for you? ---
**Author:** ![Hamadryad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6de8d8/32.png) [@Hamadryad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hamadryad)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2000, 12:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-any-of-you-follow-mommys-advice-to-marry-well/24130/2 "2000-06-30T12:56:57Z")
I think I followed the exact opposite of that. I didn’t marry for money. I’ve kissed on the first date. I’ve fucked on the first date. I rarely wear underwear (“and when I do it’s usually something unusual”). I didn’t “marry well” but I sure as hell married GOOD. Heh. ---
**Author:** ![ricepad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b38774/32.png) [@ricepad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ricepad)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2000, 1:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-any-of-you-follow-mommys-advice-to-marry-well/24130/3 "2000-06-30T13:04:19Z")
> [@](#): > > \*\* > I think I followed the exact opposite of that. I didn’t marry for money. I’ve kissed on the first date. I’ve fucked on the first date. I rarely wear underwear (“and when I do it’s usually something unusual”). > > I didn’t “marry well” but I sure as hell married GOOD. Heh. > \*\* lordy…I bet your husband thinks he married good, too! ---
**Author:** ![JBENZ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/b77776/32.png) [@JBENZ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JBENZ)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2000, 5:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-any-of-you-follow-mommys-advice-to-marry-well/24130/4 "2000-06-30T17:35:30Z")
Nah…I married somebody who can cook and drink cheap beer. 25 years and counting. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![JimmyNipples](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/eb9ed0/32.png) [@JimmyNipples](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JimmyNipples)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2000, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-any-of-you-follow-mommys-advice-to-marry-well/24130/5 "2000-06-30T17:43:16Z")
I think my wife though she was marrying well. I used to make a lot of money, but I hated what I was doing so I quit doing it. Now, I love what I do…but, we’re not wealthy by any stretch, AAMOF, I have to jerk off the cat to feed the dog. I’m so broke, I can’t even pay attention. Good Christ…I’m turning into my father. ---
**Author:** ![xizor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/xizor/32/102_2.png) [@xizor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xizor)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2000, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-any-of-you-follow-mommys-advice-to-marry-well/24130/6 "2000-06-30T17:47:22Z")
> [@](#): > > \*\* > I have to jerk off the cat to feed the dog. > \*\* What an absolutely hilarious line! I’ve never heard it before. I’m making it my goal to say that to someone this weekend. ---
**Author:** ![OldBroad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ed655f/32.png) [@OldBroad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OldBroad)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2000, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-any-of-you-follow-mommys-advice-to-marry-well/24130/7 "2000-06-30T18:14:31Z")
My mommy’s advice was not to marry at all. I’m on my third and last. So, no, I didn’t follow her advice. ---
**Author:** ![Drain\_Bead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47774/32.png) [@Drain\_Bead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drain_Bead)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2000, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-any-of-you-follow-mommys-advice-to-marry-well/24130/8 "2000-06-30T18:41:14Z")
My mom’s advice was to find a guy who treats me well and makes me happy. I think I’ve listened. ---
**Author:** ![Dragwyr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dragwyr/32/2855_2.png) [@Dragwyr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dragwyr)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2000, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-any-of-you-follow-mommys-advice-to-marry-well/24130/9 "2000-06-30T18:46:54Z")
My dad’s advice was, “It’s just as easy to fall in love with a rich woman as it is with a poor one.” Well, I didn’t really marry into money, but we both did well for ourselves when we did get married. ---
**Author:** ![Edwardina](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Edwardina](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Edwardina)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2000, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-any-of-you-follow-mommys-advice-to-marry-well/24130/10 "2000-06-30T19:00:59Z")
Nobody ever gave me advice about marriage until just recently. My fiance’s mother told me, “If you’re going to do it, do it and don’t ever contemplate divorce. Don’t do it unless you mean to be with that person _forever_ and don’t let _anything_ change your mind. Marriage is forever.” But, that’s a little bit different than being given advice in your formative years . . . My mom was a single parent, and she told me that as long as you’re in love, sex is just good clean fun. She also told me it’s easier to change a “no” to a “yes” than a “yes” to a “no,” so if in doubt, say “no” because you can always say “yes” later, but if you’re not sure, and you say “yes” now, you can’t take it back. But she never said much about the “M” word. I’ve been engaged three times and never yet made it to the altar. I guess I could have used some advice, huh? ---
**Author:** ![Catfood\_Purrito](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Catfood\_Purrito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Catfood_Purrito)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2000, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-any-of-you-follow-mommys-advice-to-marry-well/24130/11 "2000-06-30T21:42:21Z")
I’ve never been married, and right now I have both of my parents on my back to hurry up and snag myself a doctor. In fact, when I told my parents that I had been offered a desk in the department I’m in now, the first thing my father asked was, “what the doctor like? Is he single? Young? Good looking?” Yeah…like I started working here JUST so I could meet and marry a doctor. Sheesh. ---
**Author:** ![Motorgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e36b37/32.png) [@Motorgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Motorgirl)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2000, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-any-of-you-follow-mommys-advice-to-marry-well/24130/12 "2000-06-30T22:22:34Z")
I’m not married yet, but I’ve followed most of my mom’s pieces of advice. The key ones were: 1. Don’t marry anybody you haven’t had sex with. If you’re not sexually compatible you won’t be compatible in other ways for long. 2. Live with the guy before you get married. Get the big shocks out of the way before you’re in a legally binding contract. ---
**Author:** ![Minxsmom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d07c76/32.png) [@Minxsmom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Minxsmom)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2000, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-any-of-you-follow-mommys-advice-to-marry-well/24130/13 "2000-06-30T23:08:03Z")
My first time around I did “marry well”. The guy was a jerk and I was miserable for seven years. This time around (if we ever do get married), I will not be “marrying well”, much to the chagrin of my Mother. The guy has no money, we’d live from paycheck to paycheck (at least for a while). He’s in radio (that’s not a _real, grown-up job_ according to my Mom). No fashion sense at all (he still thinks it’s the '80s). And, iffy table manners. But, we have the best time together. We think alike on so many important issues. He really _knows_ who I am and I know him. We just talk and talk and talk. He’s the type of guy who will drive chicken soup all the way down to my house in the middle of the night because I have the flu and he thinks I need it. In my book, _that’s_ marrying well. ---
**Author:** ![Scotticher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Scotticher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scotticher)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2000, 7:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-any-of-you-follow-mommys-advice-to-marry-well/24130/14 "2000-07-01T19:47:43Z")
I didn’t even follow mommy’s advice to MARRY! Scotti