# Did I just get age slighted? And is this my life now? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 29, 2025, 11:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406 "2025-10-29T23:32:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2025, 6:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/22 "2025-10-30T18:56:56Z")
Dear, Hon, sweetie, even Babe(yes, happened) make me stabby. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2025, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/23 "2025-10-30T19:09:24Z")
My mom is 87, very intelligent and still completely has her wits about her. She hates it when they use the sing songy voice with her. ---
**Author:** ![Odesio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/odesio/32/20003_2.png) [@Odesio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Odesio)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2025, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/24 "2025-10-30T19:15:44Z")
It’s 2019, I’m forty-three years old, and I’m looking at Halloween decorations at Michael’s. I forget what I was looking at, no doubt because of my advanced age, but nice young lady employed by Michael’s exuberantly tells me, “That’s a fun activity you could do with your grandchildren!” I looked at her, nodded, and agreed that it did look like a fun activity I could do with my grandchildren. ---
**Author:** ![Saint\_Cad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saint_cad/32/18907_2.png) [@Saint\_Cad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saint_Cad)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2025, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/25 "2025-10-30T19:23:38Z")
Open up Grrr. Here comes the aaaaaaairplane. ---
**Author:** ![Pardel-Lux](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pardel-lux/32/20182_2.png) [@Pardel-Lux](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pardel-Lux)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2025, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/26 "2025-10-30T19:37:54Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > That was poor articulation on my part. Yes, I have noticed that more frequently too as I get older. 😉 > [@Alessan](#): > > I’m only 51, for God’s sake! Let’s raise our glass to the day we will be as old as we look today! ---
**Author:** ![xizor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/xizor/32/102_2.png) [@xizor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xizor)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2025, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/27 "2025-10-30T19:44:11Z")
Did the restaurant provide knives with the silverware? Some restaurants only have spoons and forks, maybe that was the waiter’s concern ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2025, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/28 "2025-10-30T19:59:31Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > I’m new to the senior world. Get used to it. Ageism is alive and well in this country. Even the staff in this 55+ facility are sometimes guilty of it, and they are with us every day of the year. ---
**Author:** ![Alessan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alessan/32/465_2.png) [@Alessan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alessan)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2025, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/29 "2025-10-30T20:52:37Z")
> [@Pardel-Lux](#): > > Let’s raise our glass to the day we will be as old as we look today! But I don’t look that old! I’m big and I’m wide and I’m strong, I have far more blonde than gray in my hair, and I have surprisingly few wrinkles for a man my age. My beard may have turned gray before my head, but that doesn’t mean I look _frail_. I’m the one who gives their seat to old people; people don’t give their seat to me. That’s how things are supposed to work. ---
**Author:** ![EinsteinsHund](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/einsteinshund/32/8400_2.png) [@EinsteinsHund](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EinsteinsHund)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2025, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/30 "2025-10-30T21:06:18Z")
> [@Alessan](#): > > But I don’t look that old! I’m big and I’m wide and I’m strong, I have far more blonde than gray in my hair, and I have surprisingly few wrinkles for a man my age. My beard may have turned gray before my head, but that doesn’t mean I look _frail_. I’m the one who gives their seat to old people; people don’t give their seat to me. That’s how things are supposed to work. Wait til you’re first called “young man” at the counter of a bakery. That’s when you’re old. ---
**Author:** ![Alessan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alessan/32/465_2.png) [@Alessan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alessan)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2025, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/31 "2025-10-30T21:17:29Z")
> [@EinsteinsHund](#): > > Wait til you’re first called “young man” at the counter of a bakery Fortunately, I’m still mostly “dude”. Sometimes “sir”, which annoys me. I don’t trust people who call me “sir”. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2025, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/32 "2025-10-30T21:44:37Z")
> [@xizor](#): > > Did the restaurant provide knives with the silverware? It’s a safety hazard for small children and elderly Grrrs. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2025, 9:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/33 "2025-10-30T21:46:33Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > I’m eating away minding my own business when the waiter asked me: “do you need help cutting up your sausage?" Wait - I just vaguely remembered (something I do less and less as I senesce) - are you the fellow who’s written here about an arm tremor? If so, maybe he noticed? Sorry if I’m mistaken. ---
**Author:** ![Atamasama](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/atamasama/32/12961_2.png) [@Atamasama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atamasama)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2025, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/34 "2025-10-30T21:58:58Z")
> [@Alessan](#): > > Sometimes “sir”, which annoys me. I don’t trust people who call me “sir”. I don’t like it either. Not because it makes me feel old, but because it makes me feel like I did something snooty to make them think I should be addressed that way. Even if the person calling me that seems older than me I feel weird. It’s like, I’m not a “sir”, I’m a regular person like you, it’s all good. I’ve cleaned public toilets as a job, you aren’t going to offend me. Do you want me to stick my hand in my armpit to make fart noises to prove it? ---
**Author:** ![Q.Q.Switcheroo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/q.q.switcheroo/32/5713_2.png) [@Q.Q.Switcheroo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Q.Q.Switcheroo)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2025, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/35 "2025-10-30T22:02:40Z")
> [@Atamasama](#): > > Not because it makes me feel old, but because it makes me feel like I did something snooty to make them think I should be addressed that way. “For once, maybe someone will call me ‘sir’ without adding, ‘You’re making a scene.’” - Homer Simpson ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2025, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/36 "2025-10-30T22:27:44Z")
Yes that’s me (formerly known as “Shakes") I thought about that but I was having a good day that day (some are better than others in that regard) so they were barely noticeable. And aside from that he was busy so I don’t think he actually ever saw me use the fork and knife. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2025, 10:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/37 "2025-10-30T22:56:27Z")
> [@Alessan](#): > > Some woman in her 20s stood up and tried to give me her seat on the bus a few months ago. I just glared at her and remained standing. I’m only 51, for God’s sake! I am capable of standing on a bus! When i visited Israel two soldiers stood up and offered their seats to me and my husband. I accepted. I don’t remember if my husband did or not. In Japan, someone in one of the "these seats are reserved for old/pregnant/disabled seats for up and offered me her seat. I took that one, too. ---
**Author:** ![snowthx](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowthx/32/10660_2.png) [@snowthx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snowthx)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2025, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/38 "2025-10-31T00:06:10Z")
I don’t mind “Sir…” as much as I mind “Bro…” ---
**Author:** ![RivkahChaya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rivkahchaya/32/8919_2.png) [@RivkahChaya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RivkahChaya)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2025, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/39 "2025-10-31T00:16:15Z")
> [@EinsteinsHund](#): > > Wait til you’re first called “young man” at the counter of a bakery. That’s when you’re old. Oooooh; that makes me stabby! calling me “young lady,” with the voice that says “Aren’t I nice for pretending you still look young?” ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2025, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/40 "2025-10-31T00:57:47Z")
Last winter my younger neighbour just began shovelling my walkway, (front door to sidewalk, 25-30’), with no prompting. Once, I got up before the sun, thought I’d do my AND his walkway for a change. Put on a sweater, my coat, scarf, hat, boots, found my shovel and by the time I got back to the door…mine was done already! Haha! Don’t feel slighted. Don’t feel young either. Shrug! ---
**Author:** ![Odesio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/odesio/32/20003_2.png) [@Odesio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Odesio)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2025, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406/41 "2025-10-31T01:06:46Z")
> [@Alessan](#): > > Fortunately, I’m still mostly “dude”. Sometimes “sir”, which annoys me. I don’t trust people who call me “sir”. I was in my thirties when I started being called sir. The first time was when I had to go speak to my neighbors, college kids, who had a party the previous night and my yard was trashed. I wasn’t expecting a positive response from them, but they apologized profusely, offered to clean up the yard, and kept calling me sir. They turned out to be one of my better neighbors and ended up buying my 1996 Saturn SL-1. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-i-just-get-age-slighted-and-is-this-my-life-now/1024406.md?page=3)