# Did you hear "Here Comes The Bride" at your last wedding? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 20, 2013, 2:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-you-hear-here-comes-the-bride-at-your-last-wedding/656183 "2013-04-20T02:31:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![hogarth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hogarth/32/1773_2.png) [@hogarth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hogarth)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2013, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-you-hear-here-comes-the-bride-at-your-last-wedding/656183/41 "2013-04-22T20:46:33Z")
The last wedding I went to was my own, and I don’t remember what music the organist played. I suspect there wasn’t any “Here Comes the Bride”, but I can’t say for sure. Maybe I should watch the video some time… ---
**Author:** ![Skammer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skammer/32/143_2.png) [@Skammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skammer)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2013, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-you-hear-here-comes-the-bride-at-your-last-wedding/656183/42 "2013-04-22T21:30:14Z")
> [@Nametag](#): > > A few reasons why you don’t hear it more: (1) It’s trite and corny; (2) In the opera, it’s played _after_ the wedding; (3) In the opera, the wedding was a failure; (4) In the opera, it’s followed by the murder of several guests; (5) Many churches discourage the use of secular music in religious ceremonies; (6) Wagner was a prick. When we got married 13 years ago (Episcopal Church) our priest discouraged us from using it for these reasons. Not that we needed much discouragement. ---
**Author:** ![Dead\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9fc29f/32.png) [@Dead\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dead_Cat)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2013, 12:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-you-hear-here-comes-the-bride-at-your-last-wedding/656183/43 "2013-04-23T12:57:43Z")
> [@Skammer](#): > > When we got married 13 years ago (Episcopal Church) our priest discouraged us from using it for these reasons. Not that we needed much discouragement. I’m loving imagining the priest explaining #6: “Well, you _could_ have ‘Here Comes the Bride’ when you walk up the aisle, but, you know, it was written by Wagner, and, um, he was kind of a prick.” ---
**Author:** ![Johanna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johanna/32/8318_2.png) [@Johanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johanna)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2013, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-you-hear-here-comes-the-bride-at-your-last-wedding/656183/44 "2013-04-23T17:16:00Z")
In my only professional gig as a pianist, when I was 17, I was hired to play that piece. At a Jewish wedding. So much for boycotting Wagner! (They also had me play the Mendelssohn, though.) ---
**Author:** ![TBG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c89c15/32.png) [@TBG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TBG)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2013, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-you-hear-here-comes-the-bride-at-your-last-wedding/656183/45 "2013-04-23T22:37:23Z")
I don’t go to many weddings, but I’ve never been to one where it wasn’t played. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2013, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-you-hear-here-comes-the-bride-at-your-last-wedding/656183/46 "2013-04-25T23:24:45Z")
> [@TBG](#): > > I don’t go to many weddings, but I’ve never been to one where it wasn’t played. Same here. The idea of caring where the song comes from does not fit my social group. It’s the traditional wedding song, so it’s the song we use. The actual wedding is a very formal occasion, even if it’s not the expensive fairy tale wedding some of the brides had always dreamed of. I doubt they even know it isn’t religious, let alone that it came from an opera. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2013, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-you-hear-here-comes-the-bride-at-your-last-wedding/656183/47 "2013-04-25T23:35:15Z")
> [@Doggo](#): > > “Here comes the bride, fair fat and wide”, as we used to chant in my youth. > I absolutely loathe that music, and if I were getting married to someone that insisted on it, they wouldn’t be seeing me at the alter. We sang, “Here comes the bride/all dressed in white/Where is the groom?/He’s in the dressing room!” [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-you-hear-here-comes-the-bride-at-your-last-wedding/656183.md?page=2)