# Did your first orgasm happen when you were still a virgin?

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**Created:** [October 15, 2015, 9:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710 "2015-10-15T09:20:58Z")\
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**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\
**Post date:** [October 15, 2015, 9:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/1 "2015-10-15T09:20:58Z")

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Yeah, okay, the thread title says it all.

Did you have your first orgasm before you lost your virginity?

Specifically, did you masturbate to orgasm before your first actual penetrative sexual encounter?

Speaking honestly, my question is aimed at female Dopers. Being male, well, DUH, I whacked it to orgasm so many times before I finally got to stick my dick into a girl. But what about you “girls”?

Did you ever masturbate to orgasm, while you were still a virgin?

How did it feel? And did it have any effect on when you eventually lost your virginity?

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**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\
**Post date:** [October 15, 2015, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/2 "2015-10-15T15:09:22Z")

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😕😕😕😕

Didn’t pretty much everyone?  
I masturbated to orgasm when I was 7. I was a virgin then and for a long long time after.  
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oh

Yeah, I, too, have heard that some female people didn’t really pick up on the possibility and therefore didn’t grow up masturbating. I assume they’d be a minority though?

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**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\
**Post date:** [October 15, 2015, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/3 "2015-10-15T15:39:47Z")

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> [@AHunter3](#):
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> Didn’t pretty much everyone?

Well, that’s the question. I’ve read and heard so much about women, even married women, who never had a real orgasm until later in life. And I’m curious about how much truth there is to those stories.

I’m honestly curious to hear about women who, as … younger women … masturbated to the point of orgasm before they ever actually had sex with a man (or with another girl/woman, if that’s their orientation).

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> I masturbated to orgasm when I was 7.

Now that goes crosswise to everything I’ve read here on the Dope. There have been some here who have said that orgasm isn’t even possible for a prepubescent child (and don’t ask for cites; I ain’t spending the next two or three hours trying to hunt down quotes from the last 12 years). But citing my own personal experience as somebody who was once a 7YO boy … dude, seriously? When I was 7, yeah, I was “playing doctor” with other kids, but it was just natural curiosity, nothing sexual. Sure, I played with myself before puberty, and even had erections, but I was at least 12 before I had an actual orgasm.

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> I was a virgin then

I would certainly hope so!

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> and for a long long time after.

Yeah, me too. I didn’t lose my virginity until age 20.

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> \*\* reads for comprehension \*\*
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> oh
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> Yeah, I, too, have heard that some female people didn’t really pick up on the possibility and therefore didn’t grow up masturbating. I assume they’d be a minority though?

Funny story: I watched the movie, [Evelyn](http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0298856/?ref_=nv_sr_2) (great movie), with my mom and stepfather. First time seeing it for all of us. There was a scene where the title character, a prepubescent girl, gets moved into a Catholic boarding school. She was shown to her bed in the dormitory, and she promptly laid face-down on the bed. Whereupon a nun forced her to lie on her back, with her arms above the covers, saying, “We don’t want to tempt the devil!”

My mom was terribly confused by that scene. Given that it was my mom, I wasn’t willing to speak up and say, “the nuns don’t want her to masturbate.”

I think my stepdad got the point of the scene, but he didn’t say anything either.

But I’ll confess that the scene did explain to me why all those Nancy comic strips I read as a kid always showed Nancy sleeping on her back, with her arms above the covers.

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**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\
**Post date:** [October 15, 2015, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/4 "2015-10-15T15:46:05Z")

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_sigh_ I didn’t have an orgasm until my twenties.

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**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\
**Post date:** [October 15, 2015, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/5 "2015-10-15T16:02:22Z")

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I’m a guy.

My first was when I was alone. And it came as a complete shock to me. A nice one, though.

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**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\
**Post date:** [October 15, 2015, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/6 "2015-10-15T16:15:23Z")

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I should add, for full disclosure, that I’m writing a story, and it’s somewhat important to the story that one of the female characters masturbated often, when she was still a teenaged virgin.

And, as an adult male, I am singularly unqualified to describe a teenaged girl having her first masturbatory orgasm. Oh, I can write what my teenaged self ignorantly imagined what it must have been like for a teenaged girl. But … screw that. I want accuracy.

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**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\
**Post date:** [October 15, 2015, 4:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/7 "2015-10-15T16:23:13Z")

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So, with that full disclosure …

Ladies, was your first masturbatory orgasm, if you accomplished this as a teenager, as surprising to you as my own was? I remember stroking my dick just because it felt good, and I was taken completely by surprise when I suddenly shot off.

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**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\
**Post date:** [October 15, 2015, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/8 "2015-10-15T18:00:52Z")

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> [@Mister\_Rik](#):
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> Now that goes crosswise to everything I’ve read here on the Dope. There have been some here who have said that orgasm isn’t even possible for a prepubescent child

I think you’re confusing orgasm with ejaculation. Prepubescent boys don’t ejaculate. Doesn’t mean there’s no orgasm, just no sticky stuff coming out.

Are you saying you never ejaculated as a kid? (not surprising) Or didn’t ever come when you masturbated as a kid? (really?) Or that you never masturbated as a kid?

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**Post date:** [October 15, 2015, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/9 "2015-10-15T18:11:33Z")

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Male. I played with it to some extent before puberty, but I didn’t have an orgasm until I was about 12. Didn’t lose my virginity until I was 30.

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**Author:** ![Swamp\_Adder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/977dab/32.png) [@Swamp\_Adder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swamp_Adder)\
**Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 12:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/10 "2015-10-16T00:54:48Z")

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I’m still a virgin (female, 26) and yes I have had many orgasms. I didn’t start masturbating until age 18 though, which I’m given to understand is fairly late.

> [@Mister\_Rik](#):
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> Ladies, was your first masturbatory orgasm, if you accomplished this as a teenager, as surprising to you as my own was?

Yes it took me by surprise. I had no clue what I was doing.

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**Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/11 "2015-10-16T00:57:46Z")

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I think I was about 7 when my older cousin showed me how to masturbate. I was a very good student.

I’m a female.

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**Author:** ![Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slow_moving_vehicle/32/291_2.png) [@Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slow_Moving_Vehicle)\
**Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/12 "2015-10-16T01:04:52Z")

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Ooh, this is probably going to sound like bragging, but…I had my first orgasm when I lost my virginity. (I’m a guy.) It’s not that I didn’t play with myself when I was younger, but I never made it all the way to orgasm.

First time I did surprised the hell out of me. Scared me, too - I completely lost conscious control of my lower body, and honestly thought I was going to die.

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**Author:** ![jz78817](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jz78817/32/1028_2.png) [@jz78817](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jz78817)\
**Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 1:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/13 "2015-10-16T01:21:34Z")

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OP has a strange obsession with other people’s dangly bits.

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**Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/14 "2015-10-16T01:51:24Z")

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> [@Mister\_Rik](#):
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> … I whacked it to orgasm so many times before I finally got to stick my dick into a girl.

How about choosing words that are somewhat more tasteful than **"stick my dick into a girl** ," OP?  
**NO pun intended**.

For me - almost too young to remember when I started to discover myself. First real orgasm by age 7 or 8. Long before I was no longer a virgin.

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**Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/15 "2015-10-16T01:58:56Z")

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Me too almost too young to remember – by 6 I was masturbating fairly frequently, and always bringing myself to orgasm. What a little horn-dog I was!

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**Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/16 "2015-10-16T02:07:10Z")

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> [@Arrendajo](#):
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> Me too almost too young to remember – by 6 I was masturbating fairly frequently, and always bringing myself to orgasm. What a little horn-dog I was!

You and me both! Wait, did you type “was?” Ahem.

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**Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 2:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/17 "2015-10-16T02:37:23Z")

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First time was while I was sleeping. A little more to that, but for the purposes here that will do.

Before that happened I attempted masturbation, nothing, after that happened all systems go

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**Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/18 "2015-10-16T02:41:23Z")

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I’m female. My first orgasm was at the age of 17 or 18, during penetrative sex with my boyfriend. Apparently this is highly unusual.

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**Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/19 "2015-10-16T02:44:16Z")

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14, virgin.

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**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\
**Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/did-your-first-orgasm-happen-when-you-were-still-a-virgin/734710/20 "2015-10-16T02:45:27Z")

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I think you’re missing what is likely the most common (but by no means only) female experience: orgasming by masturbation after one has become sexually active.

I masturbated as a little girl, but I didn’t achieve orgasm until I masturbated (alone) as a sexually experienced woman. Then I started having orgasms during sex.

It’s very common advice in women’s magazines to masturbate if you aren’t having orgasms with sex, which is why I suspect it’s a pretty common experience. Masturbation allows you to figure out what sort of touch works for you, then you share that (either explicitly or by subtle direction) with your partners.

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