# Difference between girl friendships and guy friendships **URL:** \ **Category:** Great Debates\ **Created:** [October 19, 2004, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/difference-between-girl-friendships-and-guy-friendships/270074 "2004-10-19T18:11:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 2\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2004, 3:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/difference-between-girl-friendships-and-guy-friendships/270074/21 "2004-10-20T15:03:24Z")
> [@monstro](#): > > It’s been my experience that mean women tend to be the type who like to proclaim they have no women friends and hold this as a badge of honor. Like they think they are better than other women. When I hear a woman talk about her absense of gal pals, I stir clear from her. She is not to be trusted (IMHO). I usually view that as odd too. > [@monstro](#): > > I think you can make the same argument for men, too. I wouldn’t want to have a guy as a friend if he’s a “man’s man”, constantly surrounded by his “boys”, constantly doing the male bonding thing. Such a person would not be interesting to a woman like me (who isn’t actually all that soft and feminine, but does have a female sensibility). A guy who has no plutonic friends would probably NOT be able to see a woman as anything more than a potential mate. Note that the guy could be a nice person all-around. But as a friend, we probably wouldn’t click. That’s the struggle for most guys. If you are spending all your time with your “boys” or “homies” you’re having fun but you aren’t meeting girls (it’s tough to approach a girl with an entourage in tow). On the other hand, if all you are doing is either dating one girl or spending all your time picking up girls in bars, well you will either not have time to hang out with your friends or your friends might get sick of either being your “wingmen” or standing around holding their johnson while you take off with some girl. I’m curious as to what women look for in female friends. I suspect that it might be somewhat different from what guys look for. ---
**Author:** ![tremorviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e47774/32.png) [@tremorviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tremorviolet)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2004, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/difference-between-girl-friendships-and-guy-friendships/270074/22 "2004-10-20T17:05:05Z")
> [@monstro](#): > > It’s been my experience that mean women tend to be the type who like to proclaim they have no women friends and hold this as a badge of honor. Like they think they are better than other women. When I hear a woman talk about her absense of gal pals, I stir clear from her. She is not to be trusted (IMHO).I usually view that as odd too. That really tends to be a younger woman thing. You rarely hear older (I mean over 30) women saying this. I think part of it stems from shear rivalry with other women. Also, in this culture, a lot of feminine things are seen as weak. Being more like a guy and disdaining female things, makes you stronger. > [@msmith537](#): > > I’m curious as to what women look for in female friends. I suspect that it might be somewhat different from what guys look for. I don’t think it’s that different. Its someone you wanna hang out with who you find interesting. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/difference-between-girl-friendships-and-guy-friendships/270074.md?page=1)